Can Anyone Help Me? (Suicidal)?

Question

Well I'm an 18 Year Old Guy Trying To Cope With These Thoughts Of Death, I Have A Therapist(s) and They Dont Help So Please Dont Tell Me To Get One... I've Been A Cutter For 6 Years Now, and It Seems To Be The Only Thing That Helps My Pain...Lately I've Been Really Depressed and Just Emotional, No One To Talk To ... What Is Wrong With Me? Will I Always Feel Like This? ... Please Help!

Answer 1

A new therapist would be a good idea.
I understand you have inner pain,
But here isn't where the answer is,
Please go to a professional,
I can help you, ( not a professional but can lend a hand )
all you have to do is ask.
Please take care,
believe it or not ~ people LOVE YOU!
~*~*~*~Peace.

Answer 2

God Bless you son. I know people that feel like you are right now that don't believe God is there for them because they still feel so depressed and would rather die as to feel that way. Believe me you don't want to do that. You have to accept that you will not die until the Lord is ready for you. If you attempt suicide & you don't succeed then you have bought yourself a one way ticket to a mental hospital. So you have been a cutter since you were 12, that is a long time. Try doing something relaxing. Go to your bedroom but don't turn the lights on. Either lay on your bed in the dark or go sit in your closet in the dark. This will give you peace & quiet & time to think. You need to close your eyes & focus back to when you were 11 at least. And think about that whole year before your 12th birthday. Ask yourself what happened in that year that caused your depression. You are aware that you have the condition called Manic Depressive?? I hope you therapist told you that..It is different then just being depressed. Manic Depressive is a whole lot tougher to get thru and is usually brought on by the death of a loved one, the loss of a friend (either in death or moving) and just plain oh feeling like no one loves you so why live. You have to take the first step to get passed this. Yes of course the therapists are going to give you meds but meds work differently on each person. If you can figure out what happened back then..then you have taken the first step to your own healing. Think of ways to help you feel better on the inside, don't focus on you physical appearance because that will not help you. The inside is the healing stage but you need to focus on what happened to cause you to become so depressed & suicidal. When you figure that out, find a psycologist or maybe a preacher to talk to. Someone that will not be judgmental toward you. Just another note of information: a psycologist is not the same as a psychiatrist. A psycologist will listen and help you to help yourself (they can not prescribe medicine). A psychiatrist will not get so personal and will only look at certain things & then put you on medicine. I believe some people don't need medication to heal others do. You are the one that can answer that question. Help yourself in order to mature enough to have a real life and a family.

Answer 3

Hey 18 year old guy listen to a guy that's been around for a long time and died once. dying is for cowards and being as you've asked for help I don't think your a coward. Yeah a lot of things don't happen the way we would to see them happen and we don't always don't get the things we want or the person we think we want. SO WHAT? There's always another day and another chance. Its sort a like the old saying one door closes another opens. And just maybe its better than all the others. So stop dwelling on the past its done there is only tomorrow and that where its at. So don't end it now, put the past behind and start building the new day each and every day

Answer 4

HI Alex, well first it seems to me that you should go see a doctor. Sometimes the fact that you are depressed is just a chemical imbalance. So that would be a good start. Then if you think talking to a therapist is not working for you, then you might want to talk to people who have been there before. I know I have, so does my husband. You want to know if you will always be like that. No, but it depends on you. We all have reasons to be depress but it's the way we handle it. I don't know your story, but i'm sure of one thing, you are not the only one who has problems and surely not the only one to be depress. So look at your life, where you are, what you want. What you are willing to do to get there. There's a lot of 1-800 numbers and organizations that can help you i'm sure. So Goodluck , I hope you find what you are looking for.
Hug
Johanne

Answer 5

As long as you're alive, you have options. You may not like any of them, but you at least still have them. I believe the last thing a person thinks before they take that final action is, "Whoa, man, maybe this wasn't such a hot idea after all." By then, it's too late, and they've just run out of options.
You are not always going to feel the way you do. My son was a cutter and very depressed. He has snapped out of it. If the therapists aren't helping you, you should tell them (they may not know). Confide in your parents, go to a church and perhaps get involved with their youth group (the last is just a suggestion). There are other people out there who care; you just need to find them. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

These feelings aren't your fault and you can get better. This is not just blowin' smoke at you, it can get better. I have a significant amount of people in my family with a history of suicide, depression and self injurious behavior. I have researched for a very long time to understand and try to stop this from happening to my children and future generations since it is so strongly prevalent.

Be persistent. Above all, you have a right to be happy and can achieve that. Please go to anyone you can until you find help. It doesn't have to be this way.

It could even be something like a blood sugar issue altering your brain chemistry. If you don't find answers at a therapist, go to a doctor, or a specialist, or even a naturopath.

My infant daughter had 10 seizures before she was diagnosed with epilepsy. The incredible thing was we had to push to get her any sort of test, as if this was a normal way for her to live. This just illustrates that it's important to be pushy when it comes to your health and let them know you want an answer.

It absolutely doesn't have to be this way for you. You can be happy again. Please get help, whatever you do.

Answer 7

Well do you have any close friends? Maybe trying to open up to them and just spill everything can help. And just also keeping a journal and spilling all your thoughts that might leave you to cut your wrist. Spilling out everything into a journal can make things better. Also, try joining a comunnity or go camping, cayaking, all those outside fun will help you put your death thoughts aside too!

Have any death happened in the past that left you a deep scar or something that happened like a break up or a huge event that caused you to leave something behind? All those can be you're cause of death...

AND to minimize the cutting. Buy some hair bands that are clothed and put those on your wrist to soothe your urge to "cut".

I really hope these help... and hope your situation gets better! Good luck!

Oh and keep this in mind. If you do ever think of killing yourself... think of how you'll be leaving all the people who love you behind in pain and sorrow.

Answer 8

I use to be where you are - there is no easy answer or magic potion. You have to rise above this tidal wave that pulls you down - I concentrated on things other than me - I joined organizations and did a lot of charity work. It put a lot of things in prespective. I volunteered in soup kitchens, cooked meals for homebound AIDS patients, participated in conversational English with non-native speakers, joined a group of coworkers to do Habitat for Humanity. I wrote - I use to keep a journal and would write in it ALL THE TIME. Other times I would go shopping, which was really dangerous, especially on the wallet. Sometimes I would lock myself in the bathroom and have a good cry - its okay. You're going to be okay - you are much stronger than you give yourself credit for. Give yourself a break. You're a child of the Universe and you have every right to be here. Things may not always be peaches and cream but you will be okay. You have to believe it.

Answer 9

Most likely you will always feel like that for the rest of your life. All you have to do is learn to cope with it. There are psych units that you can check into that help as long as you are truthful about wanting to get better. The centers are better than just going to therapists.

Answer 10

hi well im 16 and i was just recently released from a mental hospital for attempting sucide! therapists dont work ive had a few! all i can say is dont give in to ur thoughts! try and get ur mind off of wht is making u so depressed it might be your surroundings! mine is my family so i am in the works of trying to get emancipated! find someting or someone that can make you happy and keep busy! i have been also cutting! well to the point u couldnt see the skin on one of my arms! hide the objects in your home! i kno its hard i still havent stopped! talk to people around you let them kno wht is going on! im shure they can help you keep you alive just remember suicide is a short term solution to a life time prolem! its is NEVER worth it!