I met a man online. It took almost a year to meet in real life. It's been like 3 months since then. I feel like I'm wasting my time. I really like him & he gets all upset when I tell him I don't want to be with him anymore. I told him that I just don't feel like he has time for me. How long would you wait in between visits? And at what point should I say the heck with it & move on? We live like 2 hours apart. Thank you!
2006-06-28 13:48:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look... I think the answer to your question is obvious.
People DO what they want to do. If I wanted to see you I'd drive 2 days to see you. I'd think nothing of driving 2 hours, to see you for 10 minutes and drive back home again. Practical, well NO... but it illustrates that if someone wants something enough... they will make it happen.
Perhaps IRL, you were not what he expected. Perhaps he found you CLINGY... perhaps not attractive... But he certainly doesn't seem motivated... to want to be in the same place as you are.
I would do this... If I were you. Turn the tables... Tell him, that you've met someone... (use me if you want)... and he is very interested in seeing you, and ask if it's okay with him... since you were hoping to be seeing HIM instead.
See if he objects, see if he "turns the heat up" on your relationship.
If he doesn't then... You have your anser.
Good luck.
2006-06-28 13:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I know what it is like, i have talked online before to guys too...I have learned that they can never love you as much as someone who sees you more often and have more intimate conversations than words on a computer. If you want to make this work, meet up somewhere maybe halfway between your houses and just discuss things. But whatever you do, do not ignore the things that can go wrong (have a cell or friend with you). And pray. God is the only person you can trust 100%. Go to a church and talk to a pastor or read the Bible if you are struggling with this situation. Its not just a cliche, Jesus really does love you and he wants you to love him back. Through him you can find answers. I am probably not as old as you are (17), so maybe talking to someone older (a friend) may help. Ciao
2006-06-28 14:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much how long you wait in between visits, but whether or not it is worth the wait. If you don't enjoy your relationship enough for it to be worth all the hassle, then you have to make a change. If you can't do anything about the distance and the lack of time together, you will have to move on. Let him know how you feel, and if it can't be worked out, break it off and try to move past it.
Good luck.
2006-06-28 13:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by e_r_c_15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...thats the problem with a long distance relationship.
One of the nicest girls I ever knew....got tired of trying to hold the relationship together because of the distance apart we were.
After working a ten hour day..it took over and hour to drive to see her, then after dinner I had to drive back so I could go to work the next morning. I was exhausted most of the time.
Relationships are hard enough to handle when your close. If you have to wait to see someone...Its almost impossible.
2006-06-28 13:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living two hours apart and with separate schedules you're lucky to meet once a month. If you're thinking of moving on, however, this may not be the love of your life. Move on.
2006-06-28 13:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with the fact that you all only live two hours away u should AT LEAST see each other every weekend. i met my bf online too
he lives in MS and I live in TX we dont go w/o seeing each other more than 2 or 3 weeks
if he doesnt have the time to travel two hours or at least meet u half way then maybe you guys shouldnt be together
2006-06-28 13:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by the brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you wait, the more painful.
Tell him goodbye now and let him start the grieving period. Seriously, he'll be better off now and so will you.
If you know you're not going to make it with this guy, then you need to end it.
Move on and good luck!
2006-06-28 13:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on if he is only 2 hours away would it really be such a big deal to get mad at you over it. If he really cared about you whats a 2 hour drive? Leave girl.
2006-06-28 13:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad he's showing you how he really is from the start...He wants a relationship, but when he has time for you...Kick is A*S to the curb and concerner yourself real lucky...Be safe,never get involved with someone on the internet,I have heard terrible stories of what happens to people who does this...Be smart and safe...Mean someone in your home town and take it from there...
CLOWMY
2006-06-28 14:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are enjoying the time you spend with him, then continue on till its no longer fun, or the relationship goes beyond friendship. if you are meant to be together then time will resolve the issue of how much time would come between visits, but be careful if he is already getting upset about you telling him your true feelings, it could get worse if you continue to stay together.
2006-06-28 13:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by rileyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋