I have another problem. my sister's boyfriend is abusive. not to my sister but to me. he has been punching and slapping me and just bein totally abusive. i dont know whether i should tell my sister or not,. she is very sensitive and doesn't take things easily
2006-06-28 13:23:16 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He might be flirting with you in some weird way. just his way of touching you without you thinking that way. next step will be getting closer. its not abusive so you accept it because you want him to accept you. 3rd step he apologizes for being mean and tells you how special you are 4Th step you took first by not telling on him. he thinks he is half way there. my brother did something similar to my wife. she hated him deeply for a long time. Now she is with him. he is a manipulative con man. weather you tell her or not, don't ever give in. remember what I said for years to come.
Watch for those signs. the only problem is he might not stop if you don't give in. So at that point, just accept his apology but don't give in to anymore than that. its best you tell your sister so it wont be a surprise later. also, don't be the instigator.
2006-06-28 13:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg totally tell your sister you will not put up with that and pretty soon he will end up doing that to your sister. If your sister doesn't do anything about it in less than a day or two immediatly tell the police. don't stand for it and your sister needs to be with a safer guy good thing you asked you could get killed if he gets to mad. Also why do you put up with it? Why does he have the right to touch you especially if you arent even going out with him??? Why does he do that to you its very unexceptable. My mother almost got killed because her husband was abusive do something right away I'm serious!!!
2006-06-28 20:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by This girl<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuu tough i thyink i know where u comming from though gurl.
i assume ur sister really likes this guy right? the only thing i can think of is probably try to tell her, or maybe somebody that is like an authrority to her, like ur dad or mum. then they can probably talk to her and u wont feel so bad.
but hey, try staying out of his way until u get the guts to say. but look its better u say cause shell realize shes not with the right guy, since he might probably in the future doing the same thing.
GOOD LUCK GURL! keep strong!
2006-06-28 20:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your sister. You don't know whether he's doing the same thing to her or not.
I would also tell him in no uncertain terms that if he touches you again, you will call the police and press assault charges against him.
2006-06-28 20:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't be afraid to tell your sister that that "boy" is hurting you. #1 He has no business putting his hands on you or anybody else.
#2 If he is hurting you, imagine what he will do to your sister if he gets mad.
Your sister needs to know what's going on because she will know soon or later, things could esculate and get deadly and you are not in the relationship with him so why are you putting up with his bullshit?.
2006-06-28 20:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mary C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell her that her boyfriend has been abusing you. You don't deserve to be treated that way. Show your sister what he's been doing to you. After you show her what hes been doing to you she would probably dump his sorry a** to the curb. If you're too afraid to tell her yourself tell your parents and get them to talk to her about it. I hope you're going to be ok, email me if you just want to talk to someone.
2006-06-28 20:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. He's not your boyfriend, and even if he was, you shouldn't take abuse from ANYONE. It's not likely that he'll stop. If he's abusing you and he's not even with you, chances are, he's abusing her too, and she's hiding it from you. You two should get as far away from that creep as possible. Good luck.
2006-06-28 20:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell her! If hes abusve to you then he might be abusive to your sister. Id tell her and everyone else! You're putting your sister in danger.
2006-06-28 20:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by t -oder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but if I were you, I'd definitely tell someone - your sister, your parents, the police, anyone. He sounds like a real jerk.
2006-06-28 20:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Zyrilia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
Are you choosing to allow him to do this to you because you are simply scared?
Scarcity gets us nowhere!!!
You need to stand up for yourself regardless of age, respect for your sis, or any other reason.
get in touch with yourself and start protecting you NOW, if you dont no one else will...see, here the cycle begins; letting people walk on you is an ugly future ahead
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believe me if you let it go to please someone else for their "feelings of insecurity" you will only end up in the long run resenting them for the treatment you took(for them).
Look youre already making excuses for the hitting.
STOP!!!!!
TELL her what a creep he is and she will appreciate it!!!
believe me...it will work out for the good of those who trust in god.
ask for his guidance and direction to seek the right way to go about the confrontation/informing her of the cruelty.
pray and ask for strength.....he will give it to you if you want it!!! He promises.
Prayer.....it has saved many of lives!!!!!!!
Good luck.....consider yourself prayed for in advance from an online friend.
Ali
2006-06-28 20:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋