Is this normal?

Question

I am in a long distance relationship and me and my guy were emailing back and forth last week for quite a long time when I got a phone call from my best friend so I picked it up and was on the phone with her for 15 minutes. When I returned back to continue emailing my guy he was very upset that I picked up the phone to speak to my friend and he said a couple of sarcastic comments because he was so upset about it. Did I do something wrong here? Should I not have picked up the phone when it rang? What does this say about him? I told him to leave me alone because I did not like to see that side of him and we did not speak on the phone or email for one week. I'd like to know what the big deal is in answering the phone especially when it's my best friend? He said I should have told her I was busy emailing him instead. Is this normal?

We have met face to face before, that is how this all started. I was visiting his state, we admired each other, I went back home and then our relationship started from there in emails and phone calls. I was planning on visiting him for 6 days in September but now I'm not sure if I should.

Answer 1

Sounds to me the very beginnings of controling behavior. YOu had every right to pick up that phone. Your boyfriend may think he deserves your attention 24/7. That may later on turn into him saying you cant see friends and so on. I would nip that in the butt quick. Make sure to tell him that you will not be controlled and you are free to do as you please.

Answer 2

Hmm, yeah thats not normal. I once saw on Oprah (not trying to be funny or anything) but it happened to a lady, where her husband started acting like this. A sign of control is very scary and could turn dangerous. This guy your talking to isn't ever your husband nor is he someone you know in person. This girl is your best friend, so of course you should of answered it. I would just end it, because its online, and already getting mad at you!? Not cool. But thats just me. Just make the right judgement on what you should do, and also look at the outcome of that judgement before you do anything. Good luck and I hope everything turns out for the best for you!

Answer 3

Life is hard enough without getting drama from your mate. If you try explaining that you would never do anything to hurt him, and that you didn't know it would bother him, and you promise not to again...if after all of this he still has an attitude, then he is not ready for a real relationship. In life you have to sacrafise the little stuff in order to avoid the war. Will what you did change your relationship forever? Will he even remember it a week from now? Then just let it go and move on......Best of luck.

Answer 4

well i've been in a few long distance relationships and its the little things that count. it seems like he really enjoys sending messages back and forth and ur friend interupted his time with you. hes mad bc he wanted to talk to you more. i understand it was your best friend, but if u want to make this relationship work you have to sacrific things, and it might bc answering the phone when your talking to him online. i bet u best friend would understand if u told her that youd call her back in a hr or so, or even after you got done emailing him bc it woudl have tooken him sometime to email you back, especaially if she just wanted to chat and gossip and it wasnt too important. i feel by telling him to leave you alone was a little too extreme for the circumstances. if u want to make this relationship work, you have to dicuss things. maybe work on a time frame and tell him you can email back and forth with no interuptions for an hour then you can have a 30 break to catch up with anyone that might have called. from my perspective it just looked like he just missed you and was upset bc your friend took away u time from him. i hope this helps a little goodluck

Answer 5

It's just jealousy...he's jealous of the time you spend with your friends (or talk to them) because he probably doesn't get to do it as much. I don't think it is anything to break up with him over. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years (1 of which was long distance). We're still together and happier than ever. The distance is a hard thing to deal with, but it will make it that much more special when you get to spend time with him. I totally understand the long distance jealousy thing, but unless it turns into something obsessive, I personally wouldn't worry about it! Good Luck!

Answer 6

You should have got off line with him and answered your call. He is being ridiculous and he should have not been upset, maybe irritated at you for not getting off with him first. Either way, long distance relationships are a lost cause, one person or the other is going to feel insecure and neglected and it would never work out. I hope this is the answer you were looking for, if not, good luck to you.

Answer 7

Theres that green hair dude again! WOW... anyways.. I think that that guy has some anger issues and controll issues, I think speaking from expierience that you should just tell him you cant be with him. It is safe to do that since he is far away, if he lived near you I would be worried cus he may be a stalker. Watch out these kind of people are crazy get away before he ruins your life! There are plenty of fish in the sea!

Answer 8

Would it be normal for you to be having a conversation with someone then just walk into another room to answer the phone and not return for 15 minutes? I'd think that was rude.

Answer 9

I'm assuming you mean IM-ing. You were on Yahoo Messenger and e-mailing this insecure retard, right? No this is not normal. He seems to have gotten a bit too touchy about this incident. It should not have made him so upset as to cause him to stop talking to you for an entire week. if you have not been with him for very long, I suggest you count your blessings and move on. You don't need this type of guy in your life. good luck

Answer 10

Normality is a very fluid concept. Stop trying to compare this guy with strangers on the internet. what's important is whether or not this is acceptable behavior, and that's a decision you have to make for yourself. it seems like this guy is really controlling. if thats the case, it probably won't end with at your online converstaions. give it some thought before you allow the relationship to continue.

it seems like your mind is already made up anyway