I want to just have a VERY small ceremony and my family agrees, but just counting his family and mine, that's already 35 people! We've already decided not to do all the traditional stuff like a dinner, first dance, cake cutting, bouquet throwing, and all that crap. We're even embarrassed about saying our vows in front of everyone. I would rather elope, but that totally cuts out the family. What do I do??
2006-06-28 12:48:06 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
With any civil marriage you can pretty much say "I do", exchange rings (with the optional "with this ring I wed you"), and kiss. There are no vows, just "I DO." You do need two witnesses and fill out and sign the marriage certificate. You can limit the people at your civil ceremony to the parents of the groom and your parents, then meet at their place for a pot luck buffet or BBQ. You will probably want to dress nicely and take pictures with your family. This is a pretty low key option that gets you married, but includes whoever you want to share that rite of passage with.
I had a friend who married his bride in the foothills with a celebrant, two witnesses, a bagpipe player, and a photographer (on leap day, so their anniversary is every 4 years!). Then they had a party a couple of weeks later with a pickup truck full of live crab and drinks on ice. It was real low key and nice.
You deserve to be wed in a manner that you feel comfortable with and where you have fun celebrating.
2006-06-28 13:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by Denise C 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Eloping doesn't have to not include the family. You can have like a supper when you get back that's what lots of people do. They just have family and friends at a hall or somewhere for an evening
Umm Maybe you shouldn't be getting married if you're "(We're even embarrassed about saying our vows in front of everyone).
What's up with that ???? You shouldn't be Embarassed to tell the whole world how much you love each other.
Or
You could write you owns vows and just say what you feel why you want to be with your partner for the rest of your life.
2006-06-28 12:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider having a ceremony. You may not want it now but when you want to look back on it in the years to come, you don't want to wish that you would've. When my husband and I got married last year, I didn't want a videographer - I thought it was a complete waste of money. I mean, we were having a photographer come so that's all we needed. My husband insisted on having one - he said it would be so beautiful to look back on our big day anytime we wanted. I agreed, but wasn't happy about it. Then the first time I watched the video, it was so amazing that I now completely treasure it. I even took my hubby out to a very fancy restaurant to thank him for insisting on it. Now some things you definitely can leave out - for instance, we also didn't do the bouquet toss or the garter show - too tacky. But for your family's sake, have some tradition. You might really like it!!
2006-06-28 13:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got married in Las Vegas 4 years ago, it was just the 2 of us (me and my then fiance, now spouse). It was a lot of fun too! We told my spouse's family via email after we got married and they were surprised and disappointed that they couldn't attend the wedding, but they got over it!
My family knew about us getting married in Vegas before we tied the knot and they didn't mind not coming, they were happy for us.
I'll say this.. you can have your wedding how you want. Just because you elope doesn't mean your cutting off family ties! You can always see your family and his family in other ways like family reunions, gatherings, the holidays, etc. Whoever's upset that they couldn't attend your wedding, will get over it eventually! They always do!
2006-06-28 16:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have the wedding you want, not the wedding that everyone else wants you to have. You could explain to your extended family that you just want to keep things really small and simple, families should understand that. Then have just you and your man, and your parents. If your family are disappointed, have a party with them after the wedding, there are no firm rules to what you do, as long as you are happy and don't regret not making more of an occasion of it.
2006-06-28 23:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had some friends that went on a cruise to Hawaii and only took their parents with them and while on the cruise they were married and before they got home they sent out invitations through a friend, one that did not say a word, and had an after wedding party..it was a nice surprise to us and they did not have to do all the traditional things that come along with a wedding.
Wedding and honeymoon all in one...
2006-06-28 14:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say the most important people is the parents and siblings have a nice little cremony and go out to dinner after or something like that short sweet and to the point.
2006-06-28 16:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by maliksa3782 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the court house and get married there. Then you and the family go out to eat some place. Its easy and done with. You could also just have parents at the court house.
2006-06-28 14:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO VEGAS!!!! Or you could contact the mayor of your town and hold a little ceremony at your home or the court house and then have a party after words
2006-06-28 12:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly how I feel get married at the justice of the peace and after that have a little gathering with your imitate family. Nothing more!
2006-06-28 13:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by gemini180180 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋