need advice...my 14 year old put provacative pics online of herself?

Question

she was caught putting sexy pics on her website and talking about the trashy clothes she wore to others..what can i do to get her to realize how serious this is. I WANT SERUIOUS ANSWERS...otherwise if u have scarcastic or mean answers done leave them

Answer 1

Do yourself a favor, and take your computer down to the local STATE Police Department, and explain to THEM what she has been doing. The reason for this is, the computer will still have the information of ANYONE she may have sent copies of these pictures (or worse ones) to. It will also have a history of the different sites she went to and posted those pictures. This will serve MULTIPLE purposes, as it will give the law tips on who may have these pictures, as well as serving notice to the operators of those sites that the pictures are HIGHLY illegal. Also, it will let HER know that there are severe consequences for her actions, and what those are. Afterwards, you should definitely take steps to safeguard any computer you have at home, but also realize that there are also computers at most libraries so that makes it nearly impossible to stop ALL Internet activities. The biggest step, is to get some damage control in effect, and get her into some counseling. I wish you the best of luck, and know that I had similar problems, and it was a fight to regain control. Just set your feet and get braced, it can get rough! Good luck!!

Answer 2

I am a 16 year old girl myself, and let me tell you that this is serious and a lot of it is because of peer pressure...one major thing no matter what she says don't let her have a myspace...or anything like it...constantly check her photos, until you truly feel that she understands how serious you are...and 99 percent of the time the group of friends that she has, no matter how nice or innocent they seem are usually the main ones to instigate your child on soing those type of things...Most and almost all teens learn about provacative pics, letters, and sex from their classmates and friends whether they want to or not...Have a LONG discussion with her...look up stories of sexual predators online and discuss what could happen if she is not careful of herself and her body... and what others may try to do to her...try your hardest with her...she will try to ignore you at first, or even pretend that shes listening, but thats where you have to come in as a parent and take over and get her to understand and listen...this is serious...and I think that you can work it out...

Answer 3

Who's the parent here? Are you serious with this? If it were my kid, there would be severe consequences. No phone, no computer, no TV, no IPods, grounded for a LONG time! That means she gets up, goes to school, comes home. PERIOD. Not left home alone, she'd be with me ALL the time. I'd also get her involved in a church program that deals with teens and sex, and do some heavy monitoring of the music she is (was) listening to, the tv programs she (was) watching, even the books she reads. My kids are 5 & 3, but their lives are going to be an open book to me. This problem started a long, long time ago, and you have got to control this situation NOW or you can already envision the consequences.

Answer 4

Make her understand that there are twisted individuals in the world that are looking for a little girl just like her and that if she continues this behavior she will end up in a situation that she wont be able to get herself out of. This is very serious. Also consider taking away her computer privilages for a good amount of time, since she isnt being responsible in the way she is conducting herself on the internet. Good luck.

Answer 5

Oh, wow, if it was my daughter who did that, I'd raise hell like there's no tomorrow (I can feel my blood pressure rising thinking what would happen if I found out).

Try to educate her that there are a lot of sick people in the world who WILL take advantage of her. Being in law enforcement with a bit of understanding of criminology, the least of her worries would be just getting raped. Give her some examples. Here in Toronto a few years back, we had a guy named Michael Briere who, after looking at child porn on the internet, just randomly took abducted a 9-year-old girl, Holly Jones, off the streets. He then raped her, killed her, chopped up her body into pieces, threw the parts into a briefcase and was planning on dumping the body into Lake Ontario. Don't believe me? Go to the link and type in either of those names. Good luck.

Answer 6

I've noticed that with young girls who dont have the money or the influence from others to buy drugs, tend towards that trashy dressing habit.

I think its like a high to them, to think that some guy is getting excited by looking at THEM.

I raised two daughters and to try to tell them NOT to do something...forget it. What I did instead was everytime there was an article or news item about some young girl being kidnapped, raped or killed, I would show it to them and discuss with them things like what could she have done to prevent it. Or even what would you do to be able to get into the same situation!! It must have worked...they grew up...and both are beautiful but careful girls.

Answer 7

SIt her down and give her a serious talking to. Explain to her that predators are everywhere and she doesn't know who is looking at those pictures and who she is talking to. They can portray one image, but they can be a totatlly different person. Also, monitor her usage of the internet. When she finishes using the computer, check the history and you can see what webpages she has visited. If she has a myspace account, go to myspace and look at it as often as you think you need to. If she keeps up this type of behavior you may have to put a password on the computer so she can't have access to it unless you are there to unlock it.

Answer 8

It sounds like she may be having some problems with her self image or confidence. I would stress the ever growing threat of online predators. They come in all shapes and sizes, and until your face to face with them, you'll never know for sure. Let her know that most of the people that may be looking at her, are probably overweight, lonely, and unemployed. She is obviously seeking the attention of men, but does she want quality experiences in life, or have to grow up knowing that somewhere out there, a person has these pictures of her, just waiting to hold them over her head.

Answer 9

Well, I am 13, and I know not to do this. The only thing I can think of for you to do is talk to her about it, and ground her from the computer as punishment for it. And monitor her computer access just to make sure she doesn't do it again. You're right, this is serious. What if some pervert had seen those and tried to make contact with her? She could have died or been raped or something.
This is becoming to big of a problem....

Answer 10

1. Take away any and all cameras, don't let her post pictures, and make her remove the ones she has already. Try to explain all you want, she probably won't agree with you. But tell her that you're keeping an eye out for her safety and if you catch her again, there will be consequences to pay.

2. Don't buy her trashy clothes to be able to wear.