What can I do about it?

Question

I tend to fall in love with the wrong people all the time! They tend to be married with or without children or (even worse!!) not into men! It's quite frustrating and I am starting to learn to live with it now. Anyone else having similar problems? Please share your thoughts

Answer 1

make a list of the things you would like in a partner and stick to the list. one thing is for sure- top of the list is NOT married

Answer 2

Love is a very delicate thing believe it or not. Falling into it can sometimes be something else disguised as love. Examine very carefully your present situation and make a serious decision about your future. I promise you that if you take other people seriously, you will find true love and stop having trouble. You can find out much about a person just by talking. You don't necessarily have to jump into bed right away. Try not to focus so much on sex, and make a real effort to get to know your partners.
Make good friends first and then you can have a better perspective. This will work if you take the time. If you are impatient, you will not even see it, that's for sure!

Answer 3

When I WAS single, I use to go out with men that I knew was not right for me.BAD BOYS!They were either into drugs,stealing or just kicking in peoples faces with so much force and violence, etc. I discovered the reason I went out with them was that I was just wanting and needing someone to say "I love you",and to give me excitement and drama, where it had been lacking in my life previously.
I was very insecure and I found that the longer I stayed in an abusive relationship, the worse I felt about myself. I knew I did not want this for myself, and that I deserved better. My actions got me into the wrong crowd. I knew I made bad decisions and I regret not seeing the light way before I found myself in situations I didn't really want to be apart of in the first place. I knew my choices were the wrong ones just as soon as I made them. But then one day, I just had enough being a doormat for those losers.
I broke down and got on my knees, confessed all my sins, and asked the Lord to forgive me and to please show me the way to a better life. He did. My prayers were answered and I have never looked back.
The only advice I can offer is, don't be too quick to fall in love,never let someone use you or they'll continue to do it.Always make sure the person meets ALL the crucial criteria, that keeps you happy and living a decent life.Look out for yourself, no one else is going to do it for you. Love yourself and treat others the way you would want to be treated. When burdens seem to heavy, know that God will carry you.

Answer 4

My "picker" was broken for years. For some reason I was always attracted to the wrong type of woman. One that was too attractive, too selfish, or needed rescuing. I continually made the same mistake over and over again. Change is hard, especially when you are alone.The trick is not to force it and take the time to actually get to know the person. Don't go all in the first hand. Be patient, relax, trust your instinct...... and be yourself.

Answer 5

I had a revesusal one. I meet a guy who liked me alot, but the problem is that we were both married. So we are just friend that's all nothing more. So I know what you mean there love.

Answer 6

You are trying to hard, the perfect one will fall right into your lap when you are not looking for her. You need to enjoy your life the way it is now, the more confident you are about yourself and the way your life is the more you will attract women without trying.

Answer 7

I also fall for the guys who are going to hurt me in the end anyways. Even tho i know how its going to end i also continue each relationship. Its like i want to be the one to change these "bad bois" into hopeless romantics.

Answer 8

You are not in love with a person, you are addicted to the emotions attached to how these people make you feel. You need to learn how to not let your emotions control you

Answer 9

i fall in love with all the wrong guys.and yes its very frustrating.i get the guys that are inmature.that do not know what they want,guys that play games.i am tired of it.so i am single.until the right one comes along

Answer 10

i had the same problems. but mine was i fell for guys that didnt want to go w/me, no one wanted us to go out, or they were taken. but it takes some time cause i finally found a great guy and he is w/me now and we r happy. just wait and the right person will come to u. but u need to keep your eyes open cause u might have to go to them.