is there anyone whom the babies father was not present in the child's life who later showed up after some years?i have a baby with this guy who is 20 im 24 when the baby was conceived he was 18 years it was a one night stand when i approached him he sayed he was scared & didnt want to talk rbout it.we did a dna test r waiting for results do you think it's possible for a guy to never take part in their chil'ds life ever?
2006-06-28 12:00:14 · 9 answers · asked by whats my name 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
all i can say is give him a chance. time will tell. maybe time have changed the way he is and step up and a father. if it don't work out that way just get that child s . and you take care of that child the best way you can. god will not put u through more than he think you can handle. good luck
2006-06-28 12:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by angela h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, Yes, Guys just don't understand that once you have a baby with somebody you stay to help and you become vulnorable. They have to learn you change from being care free to having responsibilities and that for some guys is a real big turn off, so they disconnect from the situation hoping you don't come after them for child support or need them for anything. Heaven forbid if you want them to be involved in the chid's life. Whait till the dna results come back and go from there.
2006-06-28 19:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's very possible. The problem is this...how did you get preggos? If it was a one nighter then he should have used a condom, unless you guys didn't talk about it.
I doubt he planned on having a child and certainly didn't expect one from a one night stand. Maybe once he grows up he will develope some interest, but unfortunately, you shouldn't hold your breath. I'm sad for your son, maybe you will find a good father figure to settle down with soon and the two of you will have a strong stable man to share your life with.
2006-06-28 19:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by barefeet561 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe in being a dad to the child yes. But in terms of child support he will have to take part if you get a court order or pay the consequences.
2006-06-28 19:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to participant don't force him because ultimately it will be harder on the child if they are resented or only get visited once and a while. My ex husband hasn't spoken to our kids in over 3 years now and they are now adjusting well and have their grandfather as an excellent male role model.
2006-06-28 19:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by PlainLana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes as sad as it is there are alot of fathers who were just sperm doners. If he was old enough to lay in the bed unprotected he is old enough to be a father. Good luck I hope he comes around as every child deserves to know both halfs of which they came from
2006-06-28 19:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by tia c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happens all the time. My husband and I divorced when my children were small and he has not seen them or spoken to them since 1987. Watch Maury Povich and you will see how jacked up men can be about fathering children. It's ridiculous.
2006-06-28 19:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes guys aren't as connected as we are, at first he'll probably give it his all but then the new will wear off and he'll leave you alone and go back to his life! Threaten to sue him for child support that will run him off!
2006-06-28 19:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by amd730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some might others won't. Only time will tell. Good luck!
2006-06-28 19:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by chariot804 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋