Is living with a boyfriend all it is cracked up to be?

Question

My boyfriend of 2 years asked me to move in with him and I am leary of it.

Answer 1

You have every right to be leery. If you want to do this you two need to take time to have a serious talk about the situation. You need to discuss everything from finances to house rules regarding when people are allowed to come over and who is allowed to come over. I can not stress enough the importance of discussing rules and expectations. So often people move in together with no plan and they spend all their time fighting because it turns out they had completely different ideas of what that entailed. If you plan it all out and have dealt with the majority of situations including what will happen if this doesn't work out then you can actually enjoy living together.

Answer 2

If you are serious with this guy and can see marriage in the future....then I say do it. I was with my husband 10 years before we got married...now going on 12 years. I am sure if we married and then moved in together we would have major problems. Once you move in with someone you really get to know each other. Just make sure you have some funds put away in case things don't work out. Always have a plan B. Other than that, it is fun if you have good communication and a lot of common interests like picking up after yourself and things like that.

Answer 3

Well, you need to figure out why you are leary of living with him. I have been living with mine for the past 7 1/2 years and have never been happier.

Answer 4

What does Your gut tell You ... Your intuition will guide you in Major decisions like this ... So if you are Leary then you do have doubts and I would listen to them ... I did not listen and It did not work out ...

Answer 5

Nope. It's where you find out the things you can't stand about eachother, plus you seem to keep a shorter leash on eachother. I say date a while like a year or so and if you think you are ready to live together then, get married.

Answer 6

You answered your own question. You are LEERY, so don't do it.
You are smart to be leery. If you are not 100% confident, don't do it; don't be convinced. Trust yourself! What do you think you have to gain?

Usually, the men have handy sex, a cheap housekeeper and an ease in their financial obligations 'cause the woman brings in money too! Then you'll be a shack-up for how many years of your life?

Value yourself and he will value you or he will weed himself out as a loser who had no intention of valuing you.

Answer 7

it's what u make.life is not all peaches n cream there will b some hard times so u have 2 move n willing 2 work & accept the good with the bad

Answer 8

What's it cracked up to be? If yoou like the idea of washing his smelly socks & underwear, doing all the cleaning just to have him come home & mess it up again, then go for it!

I'm kidding - men are great at taking out garbage.

Answer 9

2 years huh? are you ready for that, is he asking you to get married in the future or is it just for fun, or does he need someone to make his bed in the morning and cook him dinner at night? i think you should wait awhile and just hang out, why does he want you to move in? think about it.what if he makes you do the laundry,dishes,cook,clean,everything? are you ready for that, keep in mind it might be all flowers for the first two months but then the honeymoon will be over and then what? i say wait and see what his intendtions are.......good luck.

Answer 10

It can be .. it depends on the ppl and if there both looking for the same things in a relationship .. I mean like everything else its got its up and downs !! follow your heart if your worried about it already then maybe your not ready for that kinda commitment ..nuttin wrong with that ..Just be real with him if he cares anything about you and your feelings then he will understand...