why do people have kids when they don't even want them?

Question

people have kids and then are terrible parents. they say the kid ruined there life. well you know the kid never asked to be born.

pointless post i know but i just felt like it.
best answer gets 10 points.

Answer 1

Unfortunately not very many pregnancies are planned, and the ones that don't want their children should give them up to people that are wanting to adopt because they can't have their own child. I had 3 miscarriages before finally having my son and it seemed like after each miscarriage there was a news story about someone dumping their baby in a dumpster, or in the bushes. I would have happily taken that baby!

Answer 2

I feel the same way. I'm a young mom; 20 with a 1 year old and a 2 year old. Their father and I are together and we're not on welfare (just a little background). It immature when I hear these women on here talk about how they got knocked up when they were too Young and now have horrible lives. That's just sad. Neither of my kids were planned but we don't love them any less. My girls are the best thing to ever happen to me and their father. It's like, I'll go to walmart or somewhere and I'll see this chick with a nasty looking baby. My kids are bathed 2-3 times a day, some days more, they have nice clothes and are very happy. I feel that if you think your child messed your life up soooo much, why didn't you give the innocent baby a chance with a family that would treat it good.

Answer 3

Far too many kids have kids to prove they are adults. Just because you launch another life into the world does not make you an adult. The adult thing is to prevent the birth until you can care for the child. All kinds of excuses are made to have children and then the poor child gets the blame for the parents dumb action. The responsibility of parenthood is far more than young minds can comprehend. The availability of willing donors far exceeds the need so we have abused children instead of happy children. When you think of all the next generation will have to do to get by it can scare you. No longer can society take care of children in the place of parents. The child suffers and usually ends up having other suffering children.

Answer 4

They fail to take personal responsibility for birth control and do not consider the consequences until after the conception. Their own lack of taking responsibility is what may have changed the direction their life has taken, but it is never right for them to say that having the kid "ruined" their life. As life never turns out how we expect, their life would likely be a lot worse and if they chose to see the glass as half empty, they are missing out on one of the biggest joys in life, being a parent. I would take being a Mom over being a millionaire any day of the week!

Answer 5

That's a very good question. I work with kids who come from parents like this all the time, and people wonder why they have behavioural issues??? I believe that parents should be licenced to have children.... just like getting a driver's licence, marriage licence etc... It should be a law. There are many parents who really want children of there own and can't have them for various health reasons, etc...
Too many children are brought into this world and are given up.... usually due to poor parenting skills. There are way too many people having kids who shouldn't.

Answer 6

Alot of people have unprotected sex all the time, and never think of what if i got pregnant..Most people say it wouldnt happen to them until they get a wake up call...Also many people get caught up in the passion of their orgasim and dont give a **** what happens..And then they get pregnant and their life is over and they need to learn to take care of this kid..I dont think they really intentionsly mean the things they to their kids..its just because they are stressed out and mad because they could never do what they wanted..like finish school or go to college..but i think in the long run they really love them

Answer 7

People like that have kids involuntarily be case they have sex. They choose to live a lifestyle that gives them the freedom to act like animals, but when a kid os born.....BAM!!! They are now a full blown family whether they like it or not.

and those that never wanted kids in the first place naturally make the worst parents

Answer 8

here are the possible reasons-
rape
stupidity
peer pressure
listening to jimi hendrix while high on dope
unprotected sex
loneliness or wanting to hold on to something
goverment granted money
some parents start out responsible but then financial and social status causes them to take their anger out on their kids or family.....there are a lot more reasons, but the above are the main ones....there is a simple answer for some of the above.....abortion would help and so would making the marrage age above 21....and giving out condumns toanyone who needs it is a great idea....if only i were the president....

Answer 9

its an unfortunate trait of humans that sexual pleasure is greater than the need for procreation. The passion of the moment may prevent adequate protection or birth control being implemented. An error in calculation of the ovulation cycle and having sex at the most fertile time, and of course the "it will never happen to me" theory, are all *excuses* for unwanted births.

Answer 10

Because they were stupid and just having unprotected sex. They were just thinking about the moment and not thinking that I could have a child because of my actions right now. I agree with you. It's not the child's fault. They didn't ask to be born. People need to just take more responsibility for there actions.