Why do women decide to have kids when they know they will be leaving them to go to work?

Question

Why do women decide to have kids when they know they will be leaving them to go to work?
i just dont understand they are going to be working long hours and some stranger is going to be raising them

one or the other

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17 minutes ago
later in life they end up being criminals or bad kids

who shares the same opinion????

5 minutes ago
if you need to work to provide for then kids then what the hell is the husband doing and what are u doing married/living with them

2 minutes ago
having a baby with a cheating/ lying not responsible man not very smart of women right?!!!

THANKSFOR ANSWERING WITH YOUR HONEST FEELINGS!! EVERYONE THINKS DIFFERENTLY

Answer 1

You obviously have a very strange and wrong way of thinking. Kids whose parents (both parents) work do not end up being criminals or bad kids and they also do not end up with that twisted way of thinking that you have either. Moms go back to work because sometimes moms need a break from the kids and sometimes kids need a break from mom and sometimes kids need to be okay with mom leaving or leaving mom without worry. Get your head examined because obviously you have a very wrong sense of motherhood.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with working and having children. They certainly dont come out to be criminals...thats an absurde generalization. Now a days everything is getting more expensive and your average homes need 2 incomes to support the family. Plus women also need a back-up plan, what if their relationship ended in divorce and she is left with the kids? If she already had a job then there is more security on her part. I know plenty of women who were housewives and where left by their husbands with out a dime. I have to admit leaving your child in daycare isnt the parents first choice but you have to do what you have to do. I would just say to have an open mind and maybe one day when you have children and have no family and no father to watch them then you will understand.

Answer 3

You are a very ignorant person! Some times a woman can not predict the man she gets pregnant by will not want to help raise a child. You can have the best man in your life, what you know of at the time, and he can spook when the reality of rasing a child actually happens. Some women can't help but to have to go back to work, because they are single mothers. Being a single mother doesn't make any women lesser than a mother that is married. Some of the married women probably couldn't handle what us single mothers have to go through... It is hard job to be a mother but even harder to be a single mother. It takes a strong women to beable to do the work of a single mom.
I am a single mother and i work my butt off to support my son. My time away from work is 100% my sons, and he is a well loved and adjusted child. I am doing a very good job and have no worries of having a troubled child just because i am a single mom. I have a family that is very involved and my mother watches my son while i am at work, my son has it just as good, if not better than any other child, of any type of family.
Any mother that can not have compassion for another mother isn't a very good person. I have respect for every mother that is a good mother and roll model for their child, single or married. You are very close minded and i feel for your child and your very unrealistic views you will teach them.

Answer 4

It's sad that so many people are offended by what you have said. Especially the one who thinks going back to work because you need a break from the kids is acceptable. Sure, there are people who have been raised by working parents, who aren't criminals, but that doesn't mean daycare is a good thing. Stick with your convictions . Your kids (or future kids) will thank you for it.

Answer 5

I was raised by a mother who worked, and I am not a criminal or a bad person.

My daughter was raised by a mother who worked, and she is not a criminal or a bad person.

BTW, not all children whose parents work are cared for by strangers.

Living is very expensive...It's not always feasible to live on just one salary...I know I couldn't pay my bills (even now that I have no kids in the house) without both me and my husband bringing in money. To comment on Velken's point...There are no $100,000 houses anywhere near where I live...In fact, there are no $300,000 houses near where I live. The median housing price in my county most recently was over $600,000. Thinking about my bank account "never" would mean my kids would have grown up living in a cardboard box.

Unfortunately, men don't usually identify themselves as cheaters or liars before a woman has sex with them...It's often after becoming pregnant that a woman learns the truth, sadly.

I believe that being a working mother teaches kids to have a work ethic. I would hate for them to have the expectation that a woman is only valuable if she stays home to raise her kids, or that they are guaranteed that opportunity. They need to know that life isn't always a dream world, and that there are things worth working for.

I hope that you have the opportunity to stay home with your kids. It sounds as if you are eager to raise what will be educated, honest and trustworthy adults...Good luck!

Answer 6

I had my 4th child 7 mos ago. I always went right back to work and i asked myself the same question when i became pregnant with my 4th..why do i continue to have kids if i'm just going to leave them? So dh and I decided to do the math and now i stay home. He got himself a second job and i'm working at home a bit. It really works for us but not for everyone. I wouldn't have another child if i knew i wasn't going to be there with them 24/7

Answer 7

Are you kidding me? Please, please do this world a favor....do not have any kids!!! There are enough close minded people in this world that are teaching their children to be the same. We really don't need any other people like you asking such stupid questions and demeaning the hard working parents out there.

Not all of us women or men have the luxury of staying home to be with our kids. We cannot predict what tomorrow brings and have to always provide for our families. Would going on welfare be a better suggestion to you? Teaching your child to sit around and make others pay for your living? Or should we teach or children to work hard in life and be proud to make something of yourself....hmmmm lets think about that one?

I'm a very proud newly single mom that takes pride in knowing I am raising a boy on my own. I refuse to make socitey pay for my family. What would that teach my child?

Answer 8

My parents both worked and they are wonderful. I got a full academic college scholarship, never felt anything but loved, and have no criminal record. Don't you even think of criticizing all the hard-working men and women out there who make it work just fine for their family! It's not about how much time you spend with your kids, but also about the quality of that time.
Some of us women like to work for our own self-respect and pleasure and to help out with finances. Living on one income and being dependent on a man is not my idea of fun.
As for whose child you bear, well, that part I don't always understand. But why be so judgmental??

Answer 9

I wish I had a good answer for you. I whole heartily believe in the stay at home parent concept. It's sad that when you make a statement like yours, and all you get back is this abuse. Deep down everyone who loves there kids wants to stay home with them, but they will not admit it. We made huge sacrifices so mom could stay home ( sold our home, and moved into a one bedroom to afford the loss of income hit ) Best choice we ever made as a family!!

Answer 10

I'm actually going back to work in a few weeks. I have a 1 and a 2 year old. Their father and I will be working seperate shifts because we absolutely will NOT put our girls in daycare. I'll be working 1st, he works 3rd. My hours will be 7am-3:30pm. His hours are 10pm-6am. Our girls will be with him from about 6:15 until 10 am. From then on they will be at their grandmother's until I get off work.