How can i be more outgoing?

Question

I am a very quiet person and this is hard for me. My boyfriend has been asking me to talk more around his friends, but i just have a hard time thinking of things to talk about. Sometimes i hate being shy, but i just want to be able to be more outgoing. Any advice would be very helpful :)

Answer 1

The only way to do it is to just do it. Get outside your comfort zone, experience life! Once you're out there talking up a storm and interacting with people more, it'll get more and more comfortable to you. Your boyfriend will probably tell ya to shut up after awhile :)

Answer 2

i used to be horribly shy. that was until i realized shyness is just anxiety inhibiting you from doing anything that might make you look like a fool. one you realize that, and the fact that you will look like a fool more times you're aware of in life, then the battle's almost won. then you just have to realize that everyone around you throughout your whole existence will have been made a fool of themselves. from the exalted cool kids to the lowly freaks and nerds. something i try to envision (and, warning this will get gross) is seeing people, anyone, doing something you've done before (ex. pooping, farting, picking their nose, slipping and falling, etc.) and realizing that they may have done one of those things, recently even. when you do that, you humanize people and make them tangible again, so they are, in turn, easy to work with, be around, talk to, etc. if you're quiet by nature, though, don't feel obligated to talk though unless you have something to add. as far as being outgoing is concerned, understand what i just wrote and then incorporate just talking to people about anything. most of the time people are willing to talk to one another. about what you ask? well...

Answer 3

I understand your dilema. One thing that's pretty fail-proof at getting into a conversation with people is to tell a joke or two. Everyone likes jokes, so you can't go wrong. You can even figure out which ones you could use ahead of time. If you told a joke that got them all laughing, it could raise your confidence to say other things on your mind and before you know it, you'll be chatting away with them!

Answer 4

Sign up for a public speaking class. Go to the mall, and talk to a complete stranger for 5 minutes. Shyness is a bear sometimes, but you can beat it...

Answer 5

Be yourself. Dont let anyone change you. Why cant you just be known as the quiet one in the group. I am sure you will speak if you had something that you really wanted to say.

Answer 6

I know how you feel but just try to find out what your boyfriend and his friends like to talk about and gradually try to come in to the conversation and by no time you will be able to talk to them freely.

Answer 7

I think just being around people..go on group activities...you can be more outgoing...talking to people who have common interests..helps...if you meet someone who likes lets say cars..and you do..then you will naturally feel more comfortable talking to him/her. Just ask them simple questions..like where they are from...what they did on their last vacation..etc. It just takes practice.

Answer 8

keep very very cool. and you need to say any thing what's on your mined. it will be OK. don't over do your self

Answer 9

don't think so much...be relaxed and be yourself...i think you are afraid to stick your foot in your mouth...so don't be...no one cares if you do..they might think it's funny...you need to break the ice somehow...