My sister's boyfriend came over last night to see my sister but she wasn't off of work yet so he decided to wait for her and well we kinda did stuff. We didn't go all the way but there was alot done. Should I tell her??? I feel really bad...
2006-06-28 10:27:59 · 95 answers · asked by Crystal J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should feel bad.
2006-06-28 10:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by shane 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have to just bone up and tell her. you should have never done this in the first place. take it as a lesson and move on there is nothing that you can do about it now. she is probably going to be so mad that she will not talk to you and may hold a grudge for a long time. you will lose her trust and you will have to work hard to get it back. it is better to tell her now than her find out later. she would be so much more upset if she found out from someone else. what ever you do good luck and i hope that you never do this again. this type of behavior is only appropriate for marriage and i hope that this experience has changed you for the better.
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2006-06-28 10:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt even had went there,yeah sure you feel well you say you feel bad now but if you really cared for her you wouldnt had even thought twice about going near him in the first place,i guess some people dont really know the meaning of family and being true to ones family member,however if he has done thst with you then he is not the one for your sister either so perhaps you can tell him to leave your sister since he doesnt really love her,
2006-06-28 10:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things women have to TAKE TO THE GRAVE!
You should feel bad, what you did wasy WAY WRONG. However you don't want to hurt the relationship you have with you're sister. Main reason i wouldnt tell her.
You're ina sticky situation. Just use SELF CONTROL next time. Ok
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-06-28 10:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice that i will give you is this: The next time that your sister's boyfriend comes to your house and your sister is not home, you should send him home with the suggestion that he return when your sister returns - since he came to her.
As for what you should or should not do to resolve your current predicament...I can not and will not say. Your guilt and conscience (his and your) will motivate your actions. Eventually, though, your sister will find out - either you/he told what happened, or your future behavior around each other.
2006-06-28 10:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by moonguardianluna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If for no other reason than to save your sister from dating a guy who obviously is ready to cheat on her. I'd bet money that you aren't the only one he had done stuff with behind her back.
As for you, feeling bad is normal, and it might take a while for your sister to forgive you- but she WILL, and think about how much better it will be to not keep secrets from your sister...
2006-06-28 10:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by valanna2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, tell her. she deserves to know that her " boyfriend" might have a tendency to mess around with other girls. as a gentleman, he should have just left when he saw that she wasn't there. thats just the way it is, even with grown-ups. nature says that if two people of the opposite sex are alone together, things may happen. it's nobody's fault it's nature. the way to avoid that is to avoid the situation.she may scream at both you and him, but it's not about being "territorial" about her boyfriend being with her sister, it's about crossed a line of common sense. be ready in the future to avoid being alone with guys where the possibility exhists to do something you shouldn't. yes!!! you do have control of what happens with your body, in your life and witth whom you want it to happen with.it's kinda like a serious "oops" but don't do it again.
2006-06-28 10:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by quartertil2am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! What a great sister you are! As soon as your sister is away you are screwing around with her boyfriend! The one female you should be able to completely trust around your man is your sister. You should come clean. Don't be surprised if it takes her a really, really long time to trust you again.
2006-06-28 10:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by i_am_the_dida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the worst thing you could have ever done to your sister he is just a guy and now he will be gone but you will still have to face your sister. I think if you were my sister I would consider disowning you but that is me. Yes she needs to know.
2006-06-28 10:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell your sister. If he's doing things with you, think about what he's doing with other girls. Chances are this guy is a cheating scoundrel who doesn't deserve your sister. Your sister should have better company than that.
2006-06-28 10:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you REALLY need to tell her its better for her to hear it come from your mouth than from somebody else I couldn't even imagine doing that to my sister think before you do something and why didnt you go in the back when he was there?
2006-06-28 10:35:01 · answer #11 · answered by Andrea P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋