How soon is too soon to ask someone to marry you?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have only been together for a couple months but I know I want to spend the rest of my life with her. She has said she feels the same. I just want to wait a little longer before I ask.

To the people who say you have to wait a certain amount of time I say if you don't know that you love someone before a year then don't get married.

Answer 1

It depends on your relationship. My husband told me the first time we went out that he was going to marry me. He asked me officially 4 months later.

Answer 2

I say there is no certain amount of time to go by. But there are important factors you should work out before you turn two lives into one. Like your families for one. Finances for another. You know, all the practical things you think don't matter if you love each other enough. Those are the things that will come up later and bite you guys in the butt. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months, and we know we want to marry each other. But we are going to wait until he can move in (a finances issue), and we are able to live together and make sure we won't drive each other completely crazy. If we're still good, then we'll get married. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

I have been thinking the same thing lately. Only I am waiting on him to ask me. Then I think.... if he were to ask me know, is it too soon?

I think with people in our situation it's a matter of 'politics' and society. Meaning, our peers think that it's not right. And we don't want to be "looked down" on. I can tell that you feel the same way. You think it's right for you otherwise you wouldn't be asking. You love her more than anything in the world. Would you die for her? Is she the one and only person you ever want to be with? If yes than why is it too soon to ask her to be your wife? I think you and I both are seeking approval (that may or may not come) from people around us. But in all actuality they are not the ones that are in the relationship. They don't know what is going on between you and your love.

I was reading some stories about people that married young and stayed married for many many years. I don't think age or the amount of time you date has anything to do with the success of your marriage. It's all about the love you share and the work you you put into it.

I guess as I am trying to convince you that's it's not too soon. I am convincing myself too. My BF and I have been together a little over 6 months and I never want to be without him. He is everything I could ever ask for and more. The second week I knew him I knew I wanted to marry him. If you feel the same about her then ask her, especially if you know she feels the same!

GOOD LUCK!!!

PS I also wanted to mention. Not quite on a happy note. But my best friend just died two weeks ago. She was 22. She was planning on marrying her bf of 3 years but not until she graduated college. At her funeral, I think what bothered him most was that he never did propose. They knew they were going to get married but they wanted to wait. I am not saying to rush anything... but it has made me think. Life is short and we should be happy right. I regret that she didn't get to share that one spectacular day with the one man she adored. It's just a thought. I always thought I wanted to wait until I was over 30 to get married. Mostly because by then no would could tell me, I was too young, or I wasn't prepared etc etc. But why should I wait if I know it's right?

Answer 4

At the moment you ask someone to marry you, you are making a vow to them. You are, in essence, promising to support them, financially and/or emotionally, for the rest of your life. No matter how fat they may get, how fertile or infertile you may be together, what accidents they may suffer, how many jobs they lose, etc. Many people think you promise this at the wedding, but it is really made in the moment that you offer to marry, not when you say "I do."

Generally, it's wise to go through a year and a day together before making such a comittment. Judging from the high divorce rate, I think about half of all Americans ask too soon...

Answer 5

The first few months of a relationship are always great and you think you want to be with that person forever...if you didn't, why would you stay with them? I used to date a guy that said he wanted to marry me within the first 2-3 months of us dating....I felt the same way....we dated for over a year, lived with each other for 6 months and called it quits. So, in my opinion, give it time...if you're so in love, in a year you still will be and get engaged then. You shouldn't rush marriage..it's a lifelong commitment and the divorce rate is way too high.

Answer 6

My Fiance asked me to marry him after only four months of dating. We knew it was right. But we planned the wedding for a year after the engagement. Its been great, and the wedding is now it two weeks! I couldn't be happier!! Don't let anyone try to tell you there is a certain amount of time you should wait. Its what your heart tells you, and hers too. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

My fiance and I were only together about 2 months before he brought up marriage. It was something we both wanted and felt ready for. We will be together 2 years on Aug 28 and are getting married on Aug 26 :)

Answer 8

what kind of a question is that??? I guess the correct answer is that you asks that someone to marry you right after the second you met one, that is TOO SOON! Someone just thinks that is a joke and if you are seriously want to marry then you are totally silly.

Answer 9

I don't think anytime is too soon....I was with my boyfriend for 2 months when we knew we wanted to marry each other,....granted, he waited 3 and 1/2 years to ask me...but we knew what we wanted.

Answer 10

My husband proposed on our second date. I knew then that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. We had a long engagement, however (4 years) and we will celebrate our 28th anniversary in November!