I am getting married. We are going to have fun on our honeymoon. Will it hurt. Please help I am only 24? HELP?

Question

I am a virgin and I have never had sex. Will it hurt. HELP! I am only 24. And I don't want to chicken out and say no on our honeymoon. HELP! PLEASE!

Answer 1

It might hurt. If you use tampons on a regular basis then it should be okay. I suggest a lot of relaxing and understanding. you may not think its the best thing in the world the first time.. keep at it, and definately plan a second honey moon for a couple years out.. not only will it be a nice break, but you'll be used to doing all the things you should be doing non-stop on your honeymoon - sexin it uppp. congratulations on staying a virgin until you're married. i wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

Just so you know, you can have a gynecologist perforate your hymen before your wedding. This is a common and painless procedure that creates a weak spot in the membrane. The doctor is NOT taking your virginity. This just sort of prepares your hymen to be broken by your husband when you make love. A friend of mine had this done, and without going into detail, she made it clear that it worked perfectly. No pain when on their wedding night! If your doctor doesn't do the procedure, find one who does. I believe this will relieve you of your anxiety.

But, if you choose not to have the procedure, and your hymen is not yet broken or perforated for some other reason, then yes, intercourse will hurt for a few seconds (or longer if he's holding back). The pain instantly disappears at the moment the membrane breaks open, and then you can spend the rest of your time figuring out how to make everything feel good and fun! By the way, you should expect a tiny bit of blood afterward, kind of like at the beginning of your period, or even less than that. Be prepared with a pantiliner.

You and your fiance should discuss the mechanics of all this in a non-romantic setting before your wedding, just so you will both know what to expect from the other in the heat of the moment. For instance, if you are complaining that it's painful, he may stop or slow down because he doesn't want to hurt you. Don't let him! Unfortunately, this is one instance when your husband simply HAS to hurt you. Stopping will only delay the inevitable, and make you both stressed out and tired before you even get to the fun part.

Tell him that if you look or sound like you're in pain, he should push that much harder to get it overwith sooner. When the membrane breaks, he'll feel things "open up" inside, and you'll likely feel a distinct "pop." The difference will be instantly obvious to both of you. The description makes it sound awful, but really, it isn't. The only unpleasant part is the moment before it actually breaks, and if he does what I just said, that should only last for a little more than the blink of an eye. But really, you should ask a gynecologist about a hymen perforation.

It will help if you keep your knees up toward your shoulders and relax your hips to be very open. Try to relax your muscles and let it happen. One way or another, whatever slight discomfort you experience -- either in your honeymoon bed or on a doctor's exam table -- will be worth it in the long run. Best wishes, dear!

Answer 3

What they say hurts the first time is your hymen breaking or tearing, but it could already be broken and you'll have a great time the first time you guys make love. Some workouts and using tampons are some ways you may have already broken your hymen. Every woman is different. To make yourself more comfortable on the big night, you have to talk to your fiance about this. You will be so nervous you'll make yourself sick if you don't talk to him and reassure yourself that he is okay with the issue. Also, talk about the possibility of not having sex on your honeymoon, if you're not comfortable. There's no law saying that you have to. Only if you're not comfortable then, then when will you be? My advice: Do it before the big day, and get it out of the way so that the big night (which you will remember for the rest of your life) is enjoyable.

Answer 4

It might hurt for the first time and that's OK. Just brace yourself for it, since you don't want to say no on your honeymoon. However, since your fiance loves you, which I'm pretty sure he does, just tell him to take it extremely slow, and maybe buy something like KY Jelly just in case you need more lubrication. Don't just try and rush into it though because it may hurt more because you're not totally into it. Don't stress about it though, for now just be excited about your big day, all the rest will fall into place trust me. Congrats and Good Luck!!!!

P.S. Once you get the swing of it you're really, really, really gonna like it :))!!!!

Answer 5

Take it nice and slowly to build up the passion. It also helps increase the lubrication. If he is a virgin also, you both will have the wonderful experience of learning together what works for you and what doesn't

It might also be a good idea to buy some personal lubricant like KY. It can be fun to use and share. Put some on him and he put it on you...

Answer 6

The more tense you are about it, the more it will hurt. Relax. If you are marrying this man, it obviously means that you love and trust him, so let him take a little control. You might feel a little pressure and if your hymen is still intact (the little stretch thing across your cervix), you might bleed a tiny bit. But it shouldn't hurt as bad as some people make it out to be. Blessings on your marriage.

Answer 7

Just relax. The first time is scary. It may hurt a little as the hymen is stretch out and you may bleed a little. If get yourself stressed out you won't enjoy it You are so lucky to find someone who loves you. I wish you the best of everything & a long happy marriage.

Answer 8

It's OK. You'll be fine. Chances are that it won't hurt during the sex itself. You'll be a little sore the next day. Don't let this discourage you though. It's all worth it and within a couple of weeks that next day soreness will go away. If it does happen to hurt during the sex itself then ask your husband to be gentle and tell him you need tender strokes. And no, you won't sound silly if you talk during sex.

Answer 9

Practise makes perfect. Sex is a learning process, just like everything else. If you are marrying this man, you must trust him. Trust that he'll do what you need him too. Relax and enjoy!!!

Answer 10

It probably helps to know whether or not he is a virgin too.If he is inexperienced as well.Regardless,you both need to take your time.Warm up,so to say.And take it slowly.The main thing is to work up to it and not just climb aboard and do it.The warm up is almost better than the event its self,in my opinion.Just be certain.Just because its your honeymoon,doesnt mean you HAVE to do anything.