my friend is pregnant and she ask am if she should have it or give it up?

Answer 1

Dont tell your friend what to do because if she follows your advice she will blame you later. So just tell her to do what she thinks is best. She should discuss it with her parents not you.

Answer 2

She should keep the baby. If she gives him/her away she will regret it for the rest of her life and always wonder where her child is and if the child has a good family or not. Just because a child is put up for adoption doesn't mean they get put with a good family. Even adoptive parents can be bad and abuse. Abortion I am against for any reason except medical emergencies. Even rape is a poor excuse because I am the result of a mother who was raped and my mom doesnt regret it and neither do I. I am against aborting a baby because of birth defects. My middle child was born with birth defects and I love her no matter what she looks like. I am against aborting because the parent doesnt want the child. Both adults knew that there was a possibility of pregnancy when they engaged in sex. If it was a teenager it makes no difference the baby still has a right to live. No good excuses for abortion except medical emergencies.

Answer 3

DO NOT ABORT THE BABY!!! Tell her that children are the future and the baby that she holds could be the next Whoopi Goldberg, the next Oprah, the nexy Jimmy Carter, the Benjamin Carson or someone of great importance! She can't just abort a baby just because of inconvenience! If she doesn't want the baby, she should contact and adoption agency. There are many couples out there who wish they could have children! Let her KNOW THAT!!!!

Answer 4

If she is still living with her parents and has no way to take care of the baby, consider adoption. If she is too young or immature to be a good mom or has to finish school and can't pay for day care while she is at school consider adoption. If she has a drug or alcohol addiction and is not able to be responsible, consider adoption.

If she is on her own and has a good job with enough money to pay for day care each week, then keep the baby if she wants.
It has to do with whether she can provide a good live, love, food shelter, stability for the baby.

Answer 5

That's a tough one, just remind her that in the end it's her decision not yours to make, tell her to think hard about it and see if she has the time and money, support and will to bring a child into this world and give it everything it deserves, also make sure she is 100 percent comfortable with her choice and wont regret it. In the end she needs to decide for herself, just let her know you'll be there for her no mater what.

Answer 6

If she has supporting friends and family I think she should keep it. I personally have a child who I had a put up for adoption and now I wonder everyday what it would be like if she were here. It doesn't mean she is selfish if she does or doesn't keep the baby. Feel free to give her my email if she wants someone to talk to about adoptions and stuff. [e-mail]

Answer 7

How old is she? If she is young and the father of the child isn't in her life I would say have the child and give it up for adoption or something. But uf she is older I would say keep it. I'll end wit this, rather you believe in God or not God only throws thing at you he knows you can handle so if you your friend couldn't handle this she wouldnt be going through it. It may seem hard now but she'll get through it.

Answer 8

That would have to be a personal decision that only she can make. No one can tell someone to be a mother if they don't have the maternal insticnt in them. No one can tell someone they shouldn't be a mother if they really want too. Alot to consider. If finances is the reason, there are alot of places that can help. My advice is she talk to a professional on the reasons why she wants to make a decision like this.

Answer 9

Try and get her to keep it! even if she gives it up for adoption! I have so many wonderful friends that were almost aborted! I believe that child is alive and wants to live - If I am right then is it worth the risk to kill a precious life? No!! Let it live and love!!

Answer 10

It depends on her economic situation and her age, plus her emotional maturity. She should talk to professionals who deal with these situations on a regular basis. Check with the health department or Planned Parenthood or other organizations (find them in the phone book) for people to talk to. She should also talk to her parents or other trusted relatives, and if she is religious, to a pastor.
If she is truly undecided, she should contact different people.

***A true professional will not make up her mind for her, nor will they tell her what is best based on their own political opinions. They will tell her information she needs without judging her for having to make this difficult decision.
Good luck.

Answer 11

Have it. She will regret for the rest of her life having an abortion. She could give the child a chance by letting her be adopted. There are thousands of great parents for the child in the US.