OK. I met this guy about 3 years ago. We had an immediate connection. We get along great and we have an amazingly strong sexual attration to each other. When we met we were both dating other people. However, we opted to continue our exploration of curiosity. Now, I am single and he is still attached. I DO NOT want a serious relationship with him. He is my best friend. When something happens in my life he is one of the first people I run to. He provides everything I need; emotional support when neccessary, a guided push in the right direction when needed, and unforgetable sexual experiences when the opportunity arises. We talk about everything. And we have had the aggreement from day one that he is with his significant other and wants to spend the rest of his life with her. I am OK with this. I love him to death, but not like "that". I just wanted to know others opinion on this...... I am not a slut, so please don't send me hate mail hinting around that I am.
2006-06-28 09:59:54 · 12 answers · asked by Topaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can empathize with that. I have a "thing" for a lady, but can't express it. Suffering silently here.
2006-06-28 10:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is common a little to common. You need to establish some boundaries. If he is talking about marrying this other person, do you want to be labeled a home wrecker? That strong sexual attraction will need to stop, or more like hidden in your fantasies. If you guys do happen to be around each other and you have a feeling that something sexual will happen, then you should leave the scene. Stuff like this happens a lot, and tends to hurt the ones that are involved(including significant others).
2006-06-28 17:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say as long as everyone is honest and open there is no problem. I do mean EVERYONE...including his significant other. Otherwise you will likely eventually be relegated to the "other woman" category and that seldom makes anyone happy outside of the "incredible" few moments in bed (or on the sofa, or in the hot tub, or on the trampoline, or wherever...).
I'm guessing you want this guy for a great friend forever. Lovers seldom last forever. Choose friendship or sex.
2006-06-28 17:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sleeping with him and he is in a 'committed' relationship with her..I'm not sure which of you is worse. If you want him as a friend, that's one thing, but you have no right to be sleeping with him.
Go find your own man to sleep with, and quit sleeping with him.
Either he understands and you can still be friends, or he wants nothing more to do with you and you see what a sleaze he was anyway.
And if you can't end the sexual part of your relationship, then, yes, you are a ****.
2006-06-28 17:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you live with yourself.would it be o.k if she found out?you say you love him to death only as a friend.don't risk the damage it WILL create if she finds out.you might make sure you don't have your best friend after that.He'll probably be forced to choose between you and i'd bet you'll lose.your a good person if it bothers you.don't do it any more and be glad things are still a secret
2006-06-28 17:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by sandy v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long are you going to lie to yourself ? Obviously this "friends with benefits" situation has created its own terms & conditions that were not part of the original agreement. Your question isnt really a "question".. it appears to be a "dilema" or a "confusion of feelings"...
"Friends with benefits".. translated: "As long as BOTH of us benefit, we can be friends"..
If you want my opinion... doesnt sound like an agreement that you are able to benefit from anymore..
If that is the case, its okay. You are human! Id worry more if it never changed for you...
2006-06-28 17:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Leisa S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be OK but he is in a relationship. What would that do to her if she found out he was having meaningless sex with a friend? It may feel good but you have to look out for the other people also. b/c someone will get hurt eventually.
2006-06-28 17:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by K.Y. in Arkansas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see the value in this type of an affair. I say let him know the boundaries of the relationship and enjoy. Where should I send you the bill for my counseling services?
2006-06-28 17:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by pirulin4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought freinds with benefits was with 2 ppl who weren't in a serious relationship, a.k.a. booty call. I wouldn't mess with a guy if he's attached to someone else.
2006-06-28 17:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept it your a ****** What kind of girl sleeps around with her best friend KNOWING that he has a GF. SICK. Get a life *******
2006-06-28 17:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by Deception 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋