My husband and I are both 20 . I want a baby now, but he thinks that we are still to young, what do u think???

Answer 1

i don't know why u wanna have kids so early . pls go n enjoy life ..this is the time which u both can spend to understand each other well n enjoy life. u can have kids whenever u feel like. so go n do some thing --may be u can study some more or do the things of ur interest. after having kids u won't be able to do anything.

Answer 2

every 20 year old does not wish to party, and sleep around all the time. Some of us have old souls and are mature for our ages. I would say that if you fit into this catergory then its up to you and your husband to reproduce ..you need to sit down and discuss the pros and cons of both sides of how you are feeling and see if you are compromising....i also am 20 and married but we are both very financially stable ..we have very good jobs, our own apartment, two cars, both of us attended college and finished (oh yes its possible) and all the bills that come with that and we still have disposable income but thats just us....it depends upon you and your situation..every 20 year old does not have that which is why people say your too young...but none of us know your situation here, so you and your husband can only truly resolve this matter...

you hubby may feel he's not ready in which case it is good to respect that decision because when you are married its best if BOTH of you are ready to have a baby..makes it a better environment for the baby.....

i dont have any children right now but I wont die if I become pregnant because I know we both have the means to support a baby...im a 20 year old with an old soul..as my grandmother would say...im about business first and putting my priorities in order not every 20 year old is like this and maybe your husband wants you both to achieve this status first..which is not a bad idea...either way don't listen to what any of us have to say here on yahoo..its up to you and your husband..

personally, I could care less if someone said Im too young, I know that I have my life together and thats all that matters, and you should have that same confidence too....your married so your off to a great start...the number one thing that is wrong with relationships is that they dont communicate......so communicate with your husband and both of you sit down and work out a family plan together..ok...wish you the best....and remember this is between you and your husband no one else......

Answer 3

YES YOU ARE!! Wait! There is a lot of things that are important before you start your family, make sure that the communication between the two of you is excellent, define your roles in the family, get to know each other and make sure that you get good education. The more education and the more you prepare in the next five years, without babies, the more you will be able to enjoy and dedicate to your family. It is hard to go to school, work, raise a family and be a happy couple; all the stress starts adding up!
If I could go back to your age, with my husband by my side, I would do just what I suggested, go to school (both), travel, prepare and then the babies. I am 37, married with 2 daughters, and we got married at 28, it has been great and stressfull as well, since we both were still taking classes when we had our first daughter. I wish you good luck! Enjoy your relationship, grow as a couple, make sure you get an education, and then have babies, you will be so strong and ready for parenting that it will make things a little easier!

Answer 4

I think u guys should wait a while. And enjoy life 4 a bit longer wait a year or 2 then ask him again. Enjoy being young. A baby does change a lot. I want to be a young Mommy and wife to one day. But if my husband is not ready i would wait a bit longer. Both of u guys should be ready to have a baby if u r planning. If u did not planned it that's a different story.
good luck

Answer 5

You "want" a baby. For what reasons? Make sure they are good real reasons, not just because so and so have a baby or you want the unconditional love (and diapers, middle of the night feedings, colic...). Please give it alot of thought. I think 20 is young and would wait. (from experience! I was 19!) Enjoy yourself and husband as a couple while you can. Children change everything! It is also a good thing for both of you to want, at the same time, otherwise your husband may hold that against you. Good Luck!

Answer 6

20 is pretty young to have children. You have so much time to do that. You really need to think about if that is a wise decision. Having children takes a lot of time, money, and patience. Make sure you are set in the way you are living, does your husband have a job that is stable enough to support the 3 of you while you are unable to work? Are you mature enough to handle the fact that you will need to find a sitter every time you want to go out? Hey, I'm not saying that it is not possible but there are a lot of responsibilities that go along with raising a child.

Answer 7

Wait till your both ready, being pregnant is an emotional rollercoasted & you want to make sure he will give you all the support you need. Having a baby, on the other hand, is like purgatory if you have no support. I am NOT exagerating. Just don't push, he'll come around. Also once you are a parent your "grown-up" fun is gone. And it's like you are always grounded. So wait untill your ready for that kind of commitment & remember girls mature faster than boys, give hime time.

Answer 8

I had my first baby at 20....I think you should wait until after you turn 21 and get that out of your system....I never got to have the 21 year old lifestyle....of course, if you are not big into going out, drinking or any of the night life stuff then it doesnt really matter. But you should definitly wait until your husband is on the same page as you, otherwise he might resent you for taking away his "younger years".....good luck!

Answer 9

I'd say wait until he thinks it's appropriate to have children. You don't want to make him feel like you're "pushing" him into things like this. The decision to have children is an important one and both parties should be in agreement about when to have them. This way, neither ones goes into it having a bad feeling. Having or not having children is a decision that you both want to be happy with. Why would you want him to say yes when he'd be unhappy? Children should be wanted by both their mom and dad don't you think?

Besides, apparently, you're married. So, what's the hurry? Enjoy your marriage, make some more money, build a nest egg, take some vacations...then, when he's ready he'll practically beg you for children. Just take your time, and make the decision to have kids when it's right for both of you.

Answer 10

honey.. you are too young. Enjoy being married. With no kids. It's great! Then when you're about 25 plan your family. Trust me. When you get to be that age.. you will understand and thank God you didnt conceive. You will never have you're relationship you do now with your hubby once you have kids. You won't be able to spend as much quality time. Just wait for a few years. When you're older you will enjoy the baby more. TRUST ME!