no, she sometimes wants to hit at me. when I tell her to do something, she having a very hard time following directions for me and other staff members. what should I do to enforce this to stop and make her listen to me.
2006-06-28 09:56:41 · 34 answers · asked by birdsdafly 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
If she is hitting you, very gently take her hands and hold them at her sides while telling her that hitting is not appropriate and that she should use her words. If she refuses to do something you need her to do, pick her up and bring her to where she needs to be. In the future, when she won't do something, ask her if she can do it on her own or if she needs help. Most kids like to do things on their own and don't like to be picked up and made to do something in front of other kids. Keep your voice cheerful and matter of fact (don't yell) and get down to her level when you talk to her. If she chooses to do something on her own, give her a lot of praise. I worked in preschools for over 3 years and found this to be very effective.
2006-06-28 10:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by suzanne B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all stop arguing with a little girl, you know you are the authority figure and you don't have to prove it, she knows it too and is probably having a hard time dealing with being away from her mommy. Don' t try to change her reaction to her, try to solve the reason she is reacting to you. If she has a hard time following directions, use your intelligence to put it to her in a different way. Instead of saying, sit down for story time, change your rules a bit so she will co-operate without disrupting everyone. Say something like, before we have storytime, do you want to tell us something? Co-operation amongst a group will be a great teaching tool for everyone.
2006-06-28 14:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be interacting the only way she has learned. Do you have a school nurse? If so, first make sure she has no medical problem with eye sight, hearing, etc. As a preschooler you can use alot of puppet play showing the correct behavior expected of all people. Role play different social problems and see how other kids problem solve them and involve her. You want her to listen to you, but more to learn and grow in her intellect.
2006-06-28 11:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert outside of my intimate relationship with my feelings from childhood, but I'd suggest one of two universal fixes for this.
An animal in distress is universally impacting. If you give up, sit on the floor, and begin crying, she will most likely calm down enough to ask you why you are crying, or to sooth you. By switching roles and making her the caregiver, it throws her off. When she attempts to help you, you will have your opportunity to explain why her behavior made you cry.
Or alternately, ignore her completely and urge the other staff to do likewise. She is testing the parameters of her relationship with the community at the pre-school, and any attention she receives will, in her mind, justify more of the disruptive behavior. When she doesn't receive the attention she was trying to get, she will look to how the other children behave, to see what gets them attention.
Good Luck.
2006-06-28 10:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mesa P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, if she is preschool then she is only 4 or less years on the planet. That is a very short time to learn perfect manners.
Be kind and gentle but clear about what you expect. Lots of praise for acceptale behavior will go along way. Don't have expectations that are too high for this little one. Show lots of love and good spirts to her and your other little pupils. Day care is tough for little ones. They want lots of attention and deserve no less. Good luck with your job!
2006-06-28 10:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by badlass7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she needs to be tested for learning or behavior problems. Call your local Board of Education and determine if you can refer her to them for testing or if the parents must.
Talk to her parents and determine if the behavior is the same at home. She may need to have a behavior plan in place at home and school so that everyone is in agreement what the rules are and how it is to be handled when she does not follow them. This will keep her from getting mixed messages , thinking sometimes the behavior is alright and sometimes it isn't. Everyone who deals with her needs to follow the same plan.
2006-06-28 13:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time-out.
2006-06-28 09:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Belie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a young girl in my class like that, she's 3, and the way I handle it, is I turn the NO into a positive. Example: ME "Jane, we need to keep the blocks on the floor, we don't throw them" Jane "NO" ME: "You are right Jane, NO we don't throw them" (It totally confuses the child.
As far as getting a child to listen, I usually just tell the child that if she doesn't listen to me, I'm not going to listen to her. Then I turn around and praise another child who is doing the right thing. "I sure like how Jimmy is sitting in the circle, oh look, Jane is coming to the circle, good job Jane." Praise the positive, try to ignore the negative.
2006-06-28 16:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Linda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't rightly know, its hard to get a lot of young kids to follow directions. I might call the parents to see if she is like that all the time. She may have a behavioral/learning disorder.
2006-06-28 10:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by DIRT MCGIRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her parents, thats where is starts. She apparently isnt being corrected at home for this behavior. If they dont agree with her give them 2 weeks notice. Its not your job to raise the child. Plus the longer the child is there and not behaving the more other children will imitate her.....and trust me as a parent I hate it when my son does that. He is a good kid but sometimes he tries something a kid did at school and we show him his place quickly.
2006-06-28 11:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋