What do you feel is a safe age to allow your adolescent to date?

Question

MY KIDS THINK THAT I'M OLD FASHIONED. THEY SAY ALL THERE FRIENDS ARE GOING TO THE MOVIES WITH THEIR BOYFRIENDS AND GIRLFRIENDS WITHOUT A CHAPERONE. THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY THEY HAVE TO BE CHAPERONED WHEN GOING OUT ON DATES.

WHAT AGE DO YOU FEEL IS A GOOD CUT OFF AGE TO ALLOW THEM TO:
1ST- DATE?
2ND- GO OUT UN-CHAPERONED?
3RD- GET SERIOUS AND CONSIDER THEMSELVES AS AN ITEM?

I KNOW THAT KIDS HAVE CRUSHES AND SO FORTH. I JUST DON'T WANT THEM TO GROW UP TOO FAST!
I PERSONALLY THINK 17YR OLD IS A PERFECT AGE. THAT'S THE WAY I DID MY OLDEST CHILD. I'M NOT TRYIN TO BE HIP. I'M TRYIN NO TO BE A GRANDMA TOO SOON!

MAYBE I AM OLD FASHIONED! KIDS HAVE TOO MUCH FREEDOM THESE DAYS. THAT'S WHY TEEN PREGNANCY, AIDS, AND DRUG ABUSE IS HIGH ON THE RECTOR SCALE FOR TEENS, STATISTICALLY SPEAKING.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Answer 1

11 to date Not necessarily you have to have sex to date. When I had my first boyfriend I was not 11 of course it was a serious relationship. Of course, I didn't have sex or anything else it was just like holding hands, kiss in the check that was all. NO more than that probably it was more like a friend to me. But still at that age you really consider them your boyfriend.

Answer 2

I have many, many younger brother and sisters.
Ive found that the more you try and hold your kids back from dating, the worse they ussually act when they finally do date.
I suggest allowing your kids to date around 13-14 years old, however meet thier boy/girlfriend first, make sure they are a good example.
Also a chaperone isnt always a good idea, it makes your kids rebel more.
I suggest instead that you instead either make plans and places for your kids to hang out together, or let them decide where to go and simply make sure they check in about every hour or so( be it phone or in person), and always ask where they are going, set a time to be back, and ask who will be thier, and what they will be doing.
If your kids dont follow these rules, then I suggest more restrictions, however most kids once they are trusted will want to keep that trust.
If the kid feels untrusted, then they wont worry about losing your trust and will only rebel more.
God Bless

Answer 3

It's old fashioned, but just because something is new doesn't make it better. I'm a younger guy, and I think it's better for kids not to date until they are a bit older. But don't put that restriction without giving them something to fall back on. As a Christian, I believe that a strong foundation in not only Christian teachings, but the understanding of why Christian teachings exist is a good thing. If you do let your children date, then help them to distinguish between responsibility and irriesponsibility. They are being driven by hormones like everyone else their age. They need guidance and a clear head to guide them so that they don't make mistakes that could cost them for the rest of their lives.

The age they date is not the most important age, nor what age to become unchaperoned. You know your kids best, look at their maturity and see if they can handle it responsibly. If they can, then show them your trust. If they can't, then hold them back and help them gain that maturity.

Answer 4

You said you think 17 is good, and I think that's reasonable ...

Although at the end of the day, the child's age when beginning to go on dates isn't as important as how strong their moral compass is.

If a teenager has been instilled with good values at home, then chances are good that they will be able to take care of themselves -- as far as avoiding pregnancy and so on -- even earlier than 16 or 17.

Even then, of course, there are no guarantees. When your children first start dating, everything you've ever taught them is being tested.

Hopefully you've already spoken to your kids about "the birds and the bees" and have instilled in them the morality and self-respect that they will need to enjoy dating safely and responsibly.

Answer 5

You did not mention the age of your kids. I think that you should chill a bit, we all know that out there is a jungle, but most of us survive. So, I think that teenagers can start dating at 14 years, but.. as long as the relationship stays that way. Only visiting on another when parents are home, going to movies, holding hands and maybe kissing. But not to go further. I know that at that age.. the temptations are very high, but with a little help they will be all right. No staying over night at someone's house unless you know the family and you go and drop them there. I hope you'll manage.. Take care & cheers!! :)

Answer 6

You are totally correct. Time was when you did not even kiss the girl till your wedding day when the preacher pronounced you man and wife. Nor did you even hold hands and were chaparoned everywhere. Need more of that these days and as you said, no more teens having babies etc. Morals are morals and you have to be the one to teach them, no matter what anyone else does. If you go out and go pee in the middle of the road, does that mean I have to do the same? Stand up for what you know is right and you will not be a grandma too soon. My hat is off to you.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

You should always know who your kid is going out with before you let them go out. Meet them and there parents and know the important information on them (phone number, there age, address, life style, religion, and other things that you find to be important!) 16 years old if they are going out alone as a couple but if they are group dating younger or if they are chaperoned! Talk to your kids about what behavior is acceptable and what is not acceptable! Make sure they know the rules.

Answer 9

I'm not christian, but I think Godsnite has it right. You just have to judge their maturity. Some kids at 16 know more about what's right and what's wrong than other's that are 18 or older. I don't believe there is any set age. Good luck.

Answer 10

16+
11? What the Hell Are you Thinking!!! They arnt emositanly developed at that age, and I can assure you that they will be bad in school if they are still not a teen -------16+ is the way to go

People that say they can have oral sex thats under 16 is high
14 IS NOT NEAR ANY STATES LAW TO HAVE SEX
those people are perverts