2006-06-28 09:40:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I still love her but she's not getting anywheres... She has a 13 y/o and a 6 y/o son(not mine) And this is very hard for me to deal with because I'm still close to her. I've tried to help her financially and with locating work ect... but with no luck.
2006-06-28 09:43:02 · update #1
Well, it doesn't sound like you really want to break up with her. You obviously still have feelings for her, and desperatly want her to get her stuff together, but sometimes you have to just be blunt. Don't sugar coat it, be real and let her know that because of her choice to stay unravelled, you have thought about walking away from the relationship. If she is really in this relationship like you are, she will do what she needs to do to keep you around! Good Luck!
2006-06-28 09:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by Just asking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been waiting 4 yrs and she still does not have it together an probably will not because she is probably comfortable with where she's at. This same situation just happened to my sister but it was the other way around. I mean you should sit down and have a talk with her and give her a certain amount of time if you still love her and want to be with her. but if she doesn't show no sign of improvement and doesn't have it together then think about yourself and leave. it will be hard but you'll feel better that you still gave her a chance and then you can better yourself.
2006-06-28 17:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by jean22005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever u say, its gonna hurt her, so its best just to gently break it to her. One things for sure though, if she has no idea about ur feelings, the breakup will be almost unbearable for her. If u truly care about her and her feelings, Id spend a few weeks making it obvious that things arent gonna work out. Shell get used to the idea, and not be so shocked when u finally do break up with her. I cant stand it when guys pretend that everything is fine and dandy and then one day break up with their girlfriends out of the blue
2006-06-28 16:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Macbeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're apparently pretty patient...just be honest with her...tell her how you feel and why it's not working for you. She might be a groovy gal, but there's no need in either of you wasting years of your life with someone who's not a good match for you, or not ready for where one or the other of you wants to take the relationship. Good luck.
2006-06-28 16:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say honey i've tried but i've given you 4 years to get it together and as far as i can tell you havent started yet so i'm leaving. thats really all there is to it. if you are looking for a painless way to end a four year relationship no such thing exists, do it like pulling off a band aid, quick and to the point...and make your point, give your reasons so she knows WHY you left exactly. maybe it will be enough to inspire her to get it together.
2006-06-28 16:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya sit her down and tell her you have been waiting patiently for 4 years now and you see no growth in her and you want to move on. Ta dah!
2006-06-28 16:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um. two words dude. run. away. very very quickly. I know its gotta suck to do that to a girl you've had for four years but its only gonna get worse. just trust me, I've been in that spot before and it only gets worse
2006-06-28 16:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by The Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with her and tell her but 4 yrs being togther i do not think u will not be able to let her go
2006-06-28 16:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to hit the road
2006-06-28 16:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by bucks110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just tell her that you dont think its going to work out...but I dont think you will be able to do it...4 years is a long time.
2006-06-28 16:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by rdbowles12390 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋