Is it right to keep a baby the father not ready for?

Question

I was dating this guy for 4 months I got prenent know I'm two months and he's been trying to talk me in to getting abortion do you think i shouldn't have the baby because he is not ready to be a father? it's not like i lay down and made this baby by myself.

Answer 1

Body: Month One
Mommy
I am only 8 cm long
but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear it
I wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beat
is my favorite lullaby.

Month Two

Mommy
today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me
you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.

Month Three

You know what Mommy
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too
and I cry with you even though
you can't hear me.

Month Four
Mommy
my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine
but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes
and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.

Month Five
You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?

Month Six
I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!

Month Seven
Mommy
I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?

Every Abortion Is Just . . .

One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.

If that doesn't make up your mind then I don't know what will. You just need to be strong and make the decision for yourself. Abortion is never the answer.

Answer 2

Honey, do me a favor and RUN! This guy obviously only wants what is best for him. Please, if you don't want to have an abortion, don't. If you want this baby, leave him and find a real man. You should just get as far away as possible from him, get a new place to live, and a job. And, as an answer to the question, yes, it's right to keep a baby even if the father isn't ready. This baby has done nothing wrong, so why destroy it? This man will probably never be ready to have children, so why punish yourself. It's what you want. Not just him. If you want the baby, then have the baby. If you don't find another solution.

Answer 3

You keep your baby if you want it.... the fact that he is not ready, that is not your problem, your problem is you and your baby now.. You and mean are exactly the same time in months and if you go online and type "picture 8 week pregnant" there are sites which will show you just how big your baby already is... I had my first sonogram yesterday, yes, at just two months, here they do it very early to make sure that the baby is in the right position and that everything is OK - - - and everyone is able to see his/her head and little tiny body and his/her heart beating 171 beats per minute.. so you already have a human being inside of you, so really think if you want to abort... If he does not want to be there, then you have seven months to get your **** together to get ready for your baby, simply tell him that he does not have to be involved if he does not want to, but that he is going to have to help you out financially, or you will have to go through the court system... and you take care of your baby,,, you will be OKAY... WE WOMEN ARE STRONG!!!!

Answer 4

Well if you want to keep the baby, you should in no way expect help from the Father. He has told you how he feels, now you need to decide what is right for you. Are you ready to be a mother? Can you financially support this child on your own? Can you raise the child in a constructive enviroment? I am totally Pro-Choice but I think if the answer to any of those questions is no, maybe you should consider adoption.

Answer 5

You should keep the baby because it is in you growing and living, when it is born whether you keep it or give it up is up to you and only you. Babies dont ask to be born, they are trophies to be showed off or taken out to play with then pushed to the side at your convience. They are a lot of work, a lot of time and costly. You will have to stay home when you want to go out, buy $25. worth of diapers when you'd rather go to a movie, and get up at all hours of the early morning hours for feedings of formula that cost $6-$48 a can depending on the formula. Not to mention the clohtes, toys, childcare expences. Child Services will make the father of the child pay but sometimes they just don't pay.

Answer 6

I think if you want to keep the baby- then don't have the abortion. Many women, especially those who didn't feel like it was their decision to have the abortion, end up feeling terrible guilt over it. If you want that baby, you should keep the baby. Or at least have the baby and give it up for adoption instead of abortion. Good luck with your decision!

Answer 7

If he wasn't ready to be a father, he shouldn't have had sex with you. It's not his body, it's your body, so you should decide whether or not to have the child. And if you do not want to have an abortion and you don't think you can take care of the child, you could always do an adoption plan. But above all, don't let him make the decision. It's not his to make.

Answer 8

Don't let him pressure you into having an abortion. It's like him asking you to have your front teeth pulled to make oral sex is better. He's being selfish. You are being selfish if you plan to keep the baby without his support. Your best option is to arrange an adoption plan, you second best is an abortion. If you haven't come to that descision already you obviously aren't mature enough to handle the choice or the child.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

4 mo is kind of late to have an abortion......you would have to go in two days in a row to do it....tell that immature guy that he was ready to have sex so he is ready to be a father....thats it...you have to face the consequences when you grow up so thats what he has to do....also tell him if he does not want to see the baby then thats fine as long as he pays for child support...