my girlfriend are or i thought we were in love, I asked her if she thought that if this relationship would work otherwise lets just be friends and she said oh, we are going to be ok, and i said so you're not gonna break my heart? and she said that she didnt know, why wouldn't she know if she doesnt believe in cheating. I told her that i would never break her heart even though i dont know what the future may bring us, but i care for her and thats why i told her that i would never break her heart and because i'm pretty sure i never will at least not with another woman, I realize she's not really into me if she's doubting to be faithful to me in the future. So I kicked her to the curve I thought what she said it was pretty cold, i think you dont say that to someone you love do you guys agree?
2006-06-28 09:23:58 · 29 answers · asked by mitsu422bishi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it took me like 10 minutes to figure out what the hell you were writing there... what the hell has happened to the school system...
you dumped her before she could dump you... tell me now who needs to grow up
2006-06-28 09:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Grin Reeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally disagree, a heart can be broken in many different ways, not just by being unfaithful. My ex boyfriend (my first true love) broke my heart many different time, and he never once cheated. Were you specific in asking if she would be unfaithful and she said she didn't know? Or did you ask if she would break your heart and she didn't know? If she told you that she dosn't know if she can be faithful then you were right, but if she said she was unsure whether she would break your heart, she was right, no one knows what the future holds for certain, and she probably looked at it the same way I do. I hope you get this cleared up and all goes well. Good Luck!
2006-06-28 09:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by sugar_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU ARE A LITTLE CONFUSED ABOUT LOVE,, I AM NOT SAY ING THAT YOU ARE NOT IN "LOVE" but listen to yourself, YOU, MUST BE VERY YOUNG,, AND THAT IS NOT A PUT DOWN,,
BECAUSE YOU SAID YOU WERE IIN LOVE AND YOU WOULD NOT BREAK HER HEART, (MEANING CHEAT ON HER)? SO YOU DECIDED THAT IS THE RULE,, AND SHE WAS HONEST WITH YOU, SHE DOES NOT KNOWIF SHE CAN OR WOOULD BREAK YOUR HEART,, IT SEEMS LIKE YOU MAKE THE RULES ON LOVE AND BROKEN HEARTS AND YOU DO NOT KNOW VERY MUCH ABOUT LOVE..
YOU KICKED HER TO THE CURVE- I DONT THINK THAT WAS VERY LOVING, HOW CAN YOU JUST THROW AWAY SOMEONE LIKE A Q-TIP BECAUSE YOU DID NOT COMMUNICATE VERY WELL TOGETHER,,
=LOVE IS FOR THE STRONG, ANE IT IS NOT ABOUT MAKING THE RULES AS YOU GO ALONG,,, JUST READ WHAT YOU SAID, I LOVE HER AND CUZ I WONT CHEAT, AND SHE DOES NOT SAY THE RIGHT THING YOU KICK HER TO THE CURVE,,, BOY YOU TAUGHT HER SOMETHING, IM SORRY TO SAY UNLESS YOU CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE, THE CURB OR CURVE OR WHATEVER WILL BE A STEP UP..
I WISH YOU BOTH LUCK, AND YOU SOME MATURITY..
2006-06-28 09:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to love there is never any guarantee's. You can love someone for the longest time and then things just change...people change and feeling do as well. Unfortunately neither do you or her would ever really know if things would get to that point...But if you felt that letting her go was the best thing...then good for you...But think that she could of told you that she would NEVER break your heart...and she still could go out there and mess around. So it's hard to say if one will ever break someone else's heart...am sure the intention is that no we don't want to...but it might just happen.
2006-06-28 09:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by brina27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you lied, because you could possibly have broken her heart kicking her to the curb. You have to realize that women are used by being too candid sometimes, maybe she thought saying that was a way of bracing you for reality, whether you paint it or not. She can break your heart in many other ways without cheating. Maybe that was what she was alluding to. But if she was truly in love with yo and you kicked her to the curb because you have problems communicating - you were not completely honest - not knowing what the future may hold, if you kicked her to the curb for that.
Put yourself in her shoes.
2006-06-28 09:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to know if she was going to cheat on you then maybe you should have asked that instead if she thought she would break your heart. She could have interpreted the question wrong, you can never know for sure what will happen in the future.
2006-06-28 09:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by SugarKisses22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she actually say that she thought she might be unfaithful? It didn't seem like she did to me (but I am only going by what you said). I love my wife to death and would never intentionally do anything to hurt her. But I may break her heart in the future. It won't be because I will cheat, but sometimes things happen, like you just grow apart. I am certainly not planning on it, but I do know that it is possible. Hope that helped.
2006-06-28 09:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by scottie2h2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know if you were right or not by the way she reacted when you broke up. If she really didn't seem to care than you know you did the right thing. You are right in thinking that if you love someone you shouldn't plan on breaking their heart. Although sometimes you start with good intentions and things just get bad. Good luck to you.
2006-06-28 09:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dude. There's more than one way to break a heart besides cheating. She said she didn't know, because she didn't know. Can she tell the future? Can you? What you did was cold, and likely you just broke her heart badly. Someday you'll understand.
2006-06-28 09:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words....if she hadn't shown any signs of being the unfaithful type then its in her nature not likely to cheat, unless you corner her and put words in her mouth, then things may look a bit differently than you thought, as in this case...I don't think you had good reason to kick her to the curb, she hadn't done anything wrong...you jumped the gun..didn't give her the benefit of the doubt and ruined the trust of this relationship forever.
2006-06-28 09:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see, you cant always predict the future of an relationship because it can take a turn for the better or for the worst in a matter or seconds! so by your gurl (ex gurl) telling you that she didnt know was the right anwser, if she were to to say no and break your heart you would be like she lied to me! so, you messed up on your be-half!
2006-06-28 09:44:29 · answer #11 · answered by byrdlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋