how do you deal with the faults of the person you love without breaking up?

Question

my boyfriend has an anger problem and its getting ridicoulous he takes it out on me and i dont think i can take it anymore

Answer 1

That depends upon their faults. The first thing you have to realize is that no one is perfect and we all have faults. Some faults are minor and can be over looked, while others such as an addiction are major and can't. You have to decide what is important to you and your future and decide if that persons faults are something that will affect the life you want to lead. Remember, to some degree love is blind and it goes both ways, but love should never be stupid.

Answer 2

Here is the answer to the question that you are really asking....
You know that the person is the right one for you when they love you as much as you love them. In other words...no games, no feelings of embarrassment, total honesty, and total best friendship. If you have all of this...do NOT work about the faults. They will work themselves out.

Remember, people change over time. The person you are with now will be different in 5 years...grow with them, learn from them.

Answer 3

Deal with their faults... without breaking up?

Now faults usually mean habits in a realtionship. The usual annoyances such as the way your significant other sits, farts, laughs, leaves the toilet seat up, comes home late... or early.

Now when you say faults, if you mean actual down to earth faults like a mans obsession with checking other woman out infront of you... those are more issues that require much mainteneance and communication.

BUT if it is the habits you simply need to live with it. Imagine the habits you can't break. But men usually reach a "disgusting period" this is where the burping, farting, balls itching, nose clearing, spitting... occurs. Put your foot down and make it clear that you love him and respect him but if he does the same he will leave his nasty habits to himself and no one else, including you.

Answer 4

by deciding whether or not those faults are deal breakers for you personally. if they are something you just can't live with then you don't, you break up and let them find someone who isn't bothered by what they do. if you decide to stay together you accept it as being part of who they are, the end. it very well may be that these faults are things you just can't and don't want to deal with, a lifetime relationship is made up of alot of very long days if you are putting up with something that makes you nuts so its not a very wise thing to try it, you are better off moving on.

Answer 5

That's what love is, accepting someone for ALL that they are (not trying to change them, not just tolerating them, not just loving the 'good' parts). If the faults are deal breakers then maybe this person isn't the best match for you. Have you tried talking about these 'faults'?

Sometimes people don't realize there is something about themselves that is displeasing to others, and they'd change it if they knew. Just don't ask or expect them to change something that is a part of "who" they are.

Answer 6

you talk to them about there faults and tell them how you feel about them, and see what they have to say, see if you can work them out by compromising. you may have some issues like he does that he might bring up and if that happens then you have to work with him on it too and do what is best for both or you, just understand why it bothers the other person on what you do that bothers them and tell them that you wont do certain things anymore and that you will remember to try harder on the other things that may take a little more time to work on. and vise versa, it goes both ways its a two way street. good luck.

Answer 7

always talk the problem out avoiding an argument. arguments leads to break-ups and break-ups leads to decisions on splitting ways or getting back together. compromise come to an agreement. if you all love each other the way you say that should be possible

Answer 8

First things first, Decide betwee the two of you by definition if they are faults or dislikes. If they are faults there are many educated people that will help. IF they are dislikes there are many other educated people in that area to help. Figure out which one they are and seek help accordingly.

Answer 9

Look at why you are making them faults... Just because one person sees things differently then you, doesn mean they are faults.. Its all about what you make things mean.... Take one of the faults you are having trouble dealing with....are you taking it personal? what are you making it mean.... Just look at it as it is... and that its not about you... Everyone is different..and everyone has "faults"...but that is how people are made... dont make it a big deal..take it as it comes.

Answer 10

Think real hard about your own faults and what your mate has to deal with. It'll make you a lot more forgiving. Seriously. It works for me.