2006-06-28 09:14:03 · 6 answers · asked by babydol702002 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Use natural consequences for his bad behavior and refuse to engage in a power struggle with him. If he is having a tantrum and throwing toys, explain that he may either continue throwing his toys and lose the privelages to them, or he may choose to calm himself down and keep his toys. Then, whatever he chooses follow through! If he throws the toys, gather up all those he has thrown and put them AWAY where he cannot have them for a good while (like a month if he is under 2.) Say, 'Johnny, I am sorry that you have chosen to throw your toys and no longer have those toys to play with. Perhaps next time you get angry you will do a better job with the other toys you have.' Always emphasize that in whatever circumstance HE or SHE has total control of the situation and CHOOSES their action and therefore the consequence that comes with it.
If he/ he disrespects a person by hitting, they lose the privelage of being around that person for a little while - like a sibling - they must play separate for a whole day because they chose not to respect that person's right to not be hit. It is hard work to enforce natural consequences, but if you mirror what will happen in the 'real world' you can save a lot of trouble for your child in the future.
One thing I would add is that spanking engages you in a power struggle and often teaches the principal that 'I'm right because I'm bigger than you and can hit harder.' One day, he/she may be bigger than you or a sibling or soemone else and you dont' want to propigate the 'might equals right' mentality. It equates to violence later in life.
Do not allow yourself to become angry with him/her. Remove yourself from the situation if necessary by shutting yourself in the bathroom for 5 minutes or so, but refuse to become engaged in a conflict with him/her - it will build agression on both your parts and you will create a dynamic where there is a 'winner' and a 'loser' instead of a parent and child and 2 people who love and respect each other.
2006-06-28 09:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by Amber T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any children of my own, so perhaps I should not give any advice... but I'm mature for my age and have done a lot of babysitting. I'm not sure what you can do, but what I would definitely not recommend is repeated spanking or any kind of abuse. In a lot of cases it doesn't do anything except make your child more rebellious, but if it does work it will likely only end up making your child afraid of you. This is only a generalization from what I have seen in friends, friend's children, or kids I have babysat. Good luck to you.
2006-06-28 09:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use the 3 L's
listen
love
learn
observe ur child find out if something is bothering him talk to him and punish him by taking away a favorite toy or shutting off the t.v or by taking away a favorite snack or desert.
2006-06-28 09:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give more detail like when he is aggressive and things like that in order for us to help you.
2006-06-28 09:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit and talk to him, put him in time out, or take away something he really likes this might get his attention and hopefully he will start to listen i had this same problem with my son and it worked
2006-06-28 09:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him, listen to his emotional needs, set rules!!!!!!!!
2006-06-28 09:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by mc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋