My husband and I have been together for 6 years, married for almost one, and have a one year old child. We are in our early 20's and our parents(neither of whom have ever been married) said that we didn't need a wedding. We are both in university still, so we couldn't afford a wedding on our own. We had a courthouse wedding, but feel as though we were robbed of such a wonderful celebration with friends and family. Is it too late for us to have a wedding??
2006-06-28 08:59:18 · 19 answers · asked by chicalinda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You weren't "robbed" of a wedding. You chose not to have a large wedding and reception. Giving yourself a wedding now -- after a year and a child -- is just tacky. Why not give yourself a first anniversary party instead?
2006-06-28 09:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Fall Down Laughing 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going to my distant relative's wedding in August. She is 27 years old and her and her fiance have been together for 12 years and they already have a 9 year old daughter together. They already finished college and have good jobs. They'll have a church wedding and a wedding reception with a bunch of guests. I'm guessing 100 guests more or less.
You can either wait till your finished with college and are financially stable to have a big wedding like my distant relative with all your family and friends. You can have a wedding in your 5 or 10 year anniversary but this time it will be called a renew your vows wedding since you're already married.
2006-06-28 18:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you can't have a wedding because that is the legal term for it and you did that with the courthouse wedding. However, there is absolutely no reason in the world why you can't have a vow renewal or a reaffirmation ceremony. This is directly from one of my textbooks:
"A reaffirmation ceremony is a special wedding ceremony that's conducted in order for a couple to "repeat" their marriage vows shortly after they originally made them. For example, if a couple is married in a civil ceremony and then later has a religious blessing of the marriage, it's considered to be a reaffirmation ceremony."
You can certainly have a party or a dinner afterwards and do it the way you want to. Hope that helps.
2006-06-28 18:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a renewing of the vows. IT is the same as a wedding but everyone feels it a sweet gesture. Most people have a renewing of the vows ceremony after 5 -10 or 20 years though so do it either way.
Call it a wedding or renewing. It is for your satisfaction so do what you want.
2006-06-28 16:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not to late to have a big wedding. Besides if you are church going people or a little religious you can have your ceremony in a church under the eyes of the lord and do it like that so you are getting married in a different way.
2006-06-28 23:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by maliksa3782 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's too late, don't cry over it now. An anniversary party would be nice though. You could do a vow renewal but do not try to make it a second wedding. That's very tacky.
2006-06-28 17:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no. You just open up a saving account and start saving and soon you'll have your wedding. Weddings make the best parties and every women deserves to be a bride and every man deserves to be a groom. You should start planning your wedding.
2006-07-05 10:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, it's too late for a wedding, I agree it's kinda tacky. but you can have a party.. People aren't to comfortable with coming and giving gifts and celebrating something that has already happened but a nice get together would be nice.
2006-06-28 16:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little late to wear a white puff virgin bride dress and prance around but it's never to late to have a nice vow renewal!! You could have a nice wedding in a simple white or light color dress or my favorite a classy suit and have a fancy reception.
2006-06-28 16:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since a bit of time has passed since your were officially married, why not renew your vows? It can be just as elaborate as a wedding and you can still have the reception of your dreams.
2006-06-28 16:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by The Older Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋