My husband takes forever to ejaculate sometimes,is this normal?

Question

well the problem is that when me and my husband have sex he has a hard time ejaculating, like sometimes he'll say im tired and stop with still an erection...other times he will just lose his erection if he cant hear me moaning..he'll blame it on me and say 'why did you stop making noise,its not hard anymore' this makes me upset and it makes me wonder if its really my fault....other times he says i get too wet it makes him lose his erection...GUYS is this true? whats going on with my husband....why does he take a long time to ejaculate...and in the process he becomes to tired and stops......???????

hes 33 and im 22

Answer 1

There may be something wrong with him or maybe he just doesn't find you as attractive anymore. In any case he may just have some emotional issues that he needs to resolve. Ask him what is bothering him. I hope that it isn't that he doesn't find you attractive anymore. Good luck. Not to be funny, but maybe he's gay or just found someone else and he isn't telling you. But is is definitely a problem.

Answer 2

Takes Longer To Ejaculate

Answer 3

This is VERY normal in men who have been married for some time, and although not common in others, it is not an indication of being GAY.

Many times it's physical problems. First and foremost you have to be able to talk to him about it. Once the two of y ou open a dialog, you will find out if it is the sex, if it's something he'd LIKE To do but has not been given the signal from you or something else.

Barring any thing else, have him go to a doctor adn talk about the problem. Enlarged prostate can be a cause of this amoung other things.

Answer 4

Could be enlarged prostate, could be early signs if Erectile dysfunction, could by a number of things, including low blood pressure or diabetes.

Most men COULD ejaculate in the first minute or so, however they usually hold off to enjoy the feeling a little longer (for you and him). BUT....sometimes that holding off a little too long results in a loss of erection. When this happens you usually have to wait a bit for it to come back, or get doing something that really turns him on (moaning, in your case).

So when you guys are at it, just tell him not to hold back. And moan! - chances are he'll go off, and in a big way.

Answer 5

many things going on here, but some possibilities....
does he take any medication on a regular basis? Anti-depressants are notoriously bad for causing some form of sexual dysfunction or other. Anorgasmia is one of the possible side effects of some types of these meds.

it is also possible that he just isn't getting enough stimulation inside you. an overly lubricated vagina can be less pleasing due to a loss of friction (some is good...a lot is painful). try switching up on him and using your hands, mouth or other parts ;) Masturbating yourself or having him do it can remove some of the unwanted vaginal lubricant and reinsertion of the penis becomes more pleasureable.

Basically, try different techniques to see what works. And remember, just because it works once doesn't mean it will ALWAYS work. Be creative and vary your sexual activities. Role playing, dirty talk, etc are just as stimulating as the actual act if not more. Get his mind involved too, not just his penis.

Answer 6

First of all, don't blame yourself, it isn't your fault.

Second, erectile dysfunction can be caused by a LOT of reasons. It can be caused by pressure to perform, it can be caused by bad blood pressure/poor circulation, it can be caused by a lack of friction, it can be caused by being erect for too long...really almost anything.

Is your husband an active guy? By which I mean, does he exercise or play a lot of sports? I think that the number one problem is poor circulation and a lack of stamina. It takes a lot of energy to thrust and move during sex and if you aren't used to it like a person who has a very sedintary job or doesn't exercise much, it can take the wind right out of your...sails quickly. By which I mean, if your husband is not in good shape he won't perform well during sex and may lose erections (I know this from personal experience)

WHATEVER the reason, he seems ver embarassed by it and is looking for something to blame (you) even when it is HIM that has the problem. Encourage him to exercise and if after sticking to a regular cardio plan his erections don't improve, you should see a doctor.

Answer 7

Most male problems of this nature are psychological...so you're in the right spot. He should get himself checked out by a doctor, and then if nothing's turned up then a psychiatrist may be the answer. Getting him there could be a problem though since us guys are bull headed =) About the "too wet" thing, I've heard of people havinglow sensitivity in their privates, meaning they needs stronger stimulation to get off. That could mean his penis is too small, their partner's parts too big or not tight enough, or actually too much lubrication...I'm not here to judge, but it's a possibility.

Answer 8

Wow! You should happy!
Well, can't complain.........my husband takes a real long time but thats because he want's to make sure I'm completely satisfied and then he'll go but sometimes I notice that he'll purposely do something else so that he won't ejaculate first.

Answer 9

This could be an unhealthy physical problem. He should discuss this with a doctor, even if he is given assurance that it is not physical. The Dr. may then have other suggestions. Most times, it doesn't get better with time.
Don't be afraid to call his doctor yourself and explain it. You may also receive some assurance. I hated to go to doctors, for anything unless it was unbearable pain. My late wives forced me.

Answer 10

That does sound a little unusual. Drinking a lot can do that. Maybe other drugs. Doesn't sound very pleasant for you, the way he tries to blame you for everything. Frankly he sounds like a jerk, I'm sorry.