How FAR is to far before its a sin?

Question

I am a teenager. I like guys. I like A guy in particular, but this isn't really about him, more so about what we do together.
we enjoy each others company and its not like we NEED any physical attention to make us happy...but we seem to know exactly what the other one wants and know how to...excite them (?). and like i said..i am a teenager.
But, how far can we go with out it being a sin? or how far is to far being 15?
I consider kissing, and cuddleing and holding hands absolutly fine. and when i am with this guy, everything seems right.
I am a virgin,and for me, I'm not ready for sex (to each his/her own opinion on that) but im certiantly no prude.
I think this is more an opinion thing than actual fact, but any one who has any insight, please help me out!
-thanks!!

Answer 1

NO one can answer that but you

Answer 2

Matt 5:28 - But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
I suggest that this verse could be applied to the situation somehow. God considers even looking a sin. And to the question how far is too far, yes this is between you and God but with out ESTABLISHED and agreed upon boundaries you will fail.
There need to be these boundaries set. I tell my kids you need to decide now what you will and won't allow, in this there is no gray area.
If it is not discussed you will find yourself in a pressure situation and you won't know what the limit is, it will need to be decided in the heat of the moment.
I think, in my opinion and interpretation of scripture. It is God's will that all things intimate be held for marriage. I think that you should ask some one you trust such as a youth pastor's wife or even your pastor's wife, maybe your mom. Try to seek Godly council... the world will tell do what feels good. And this is not right.

Answer 3

I believe that sex before marriage is sin, but everyone draws the line before sex in different places. My advice is to never go against your conscience. If you're comfortable with kissing and cuddling, great. If the thought of feeling each other up makes you feel dirty or uncomfortable, don't do it.
You'll never regret saving something for later, you'll only regret doing something too soon.

Answer 4

If you feel fine without sex, then your relationship doesn't need sex to hold it up. I think that you shouldn't have sex until you're sure the relationship will last long, and when you both love each other. But for 15, I think anything past touching is too far.

Answer 5

i have a 16yr daughter, have told her that kissing is ok and holding hands ok, but dont move hands all over -then the guy gets the wrong idea.
and sitting close while watching a movie is ok without touching. but kissing ok
what too far?--- touching each other is wrong, and when cuddling, dont touch parts that are not appropiate.

so the only things that are ok without going too far is: kissing and holding hands and cuddling(as long as the hands dont roam everywhere).

Answer 6

I'm going to ignore the "sin" part of your question since I don't think that's for me to judge.

At 15, you are finding out about sexual maturity and have natural urges and inclinations. And you are right, kissing, cuddling and holding hands is perfectly acceptable. Anything beyond that, may lead to events that you and your boyfriend, not matter how mature you are, are ill prepared to handle.

So my advice, for what it's worth, is to leave the physical part of your relationship where it is for now. Enjoy your life :-)

Answer 7

my advice to you is that if you don't plan to go "all the way", don't step up to the plate at all. the kissing and "verticle" cuddling is pretty normal at your age. Once you get "horizontal" and are doing the same things, your guy is going to want to seal the deal. it has nothing to do with respect or love, but once a guy gets started down that road, he's wanting to end up parking his "car" in your "garage". thus, even though he'll know that you aren't ready, he'll keep going. i don't think you should give him the impression that more will happen when you know that you don't want it to. the only thing that can come out of that is regret. you only have one first time and it is ENTIRELY up to you and it is never too late to say NO!

i was a "late bloomer" in my circle (17 years old). i did it willingly, he was great about it and i remember the whole experience quite fondly. my homegirl is 34 years old and is still pissed off about her first time (she was your age). she thought she was ready, but she didn't take into account that the guy she was with was not concerned for her comfort or safety. He did his thing and stayed with her as long as she agreed to have sex. even now, she has difficulty with her sex life and with relationships, whereas i feel comfortable, confident and secure in myself.

don't worry about it, you've got plenty of time. if you want you can make up an excuse to slow yourself down. start (secretly) planning your first event. get yourself your first "sexy" lingerie outfit. save up for a nice outfit to wear afterwards. & even a limo ride (it doesn't have to be prom night.) collect candles and music and all the stuff you want. unless your guy is super duper caring (mine was the one that suggested to me what i suggested to you), you'll have to do all of the planning. so take your time and do it right!

Answer 8

that's tough, because different people progress at different times. It seems like you are torn between two opinions because of a religious conviction and in that case, this question should be answered by a priest, pastor, whatever your faith is. Personally, I have a younger sister that is almost 15, and more than kissing is too far! :-P

Answer 9

You have already answered your own question...you're not ready. "When in Doubt, DON'T"!!! Keep things easy and sweet right now and don't put too much pressure on either of you. You're not sinning.....yet...you're following the instincts that we all have and that God gave us. He also have us the will to say "no", or make a choice. Trust me, 15 is way to young for more than cuddeling and kissing. You're be happy you saved yourself for the right moment.

Answer 10

I'm very proud of you as well as your boyfriend.i respect you both.sexual relations is for married couple to create offspring that is what the good book says. now days, it does not seem to work out that way!!! just be care full about too far. sometimes one thing leads to another etc,etc,. hormones get to flying in teenage years.so all i can do is encourage you to keep up the good work as you have been doing.thanks,Kat

Answer 11

I think you are very sensible for your age.What you are doing is exactly correct for your age.You have all the time in the world for all that.You asked how far is it before it is a sin.Crossing the line of what you already stated is a sin.Stay safe