1st off im @ work & on my lunch break, so im sitting @ my desk bored surfing the net. i go to myspace just to see what the big deal about it is & im putting i some names. I put in my ex's name just cause i couldnt think of anyone else. we were together for about 1yr then he had to move to a different state. we said we would stay together, 1 month after he moved i found out i was pregnant, i told him and he said we would stay together until he was able to move back (ya right) so time went by and we started talking less & less until he wasnt returning my calls. so 1 day i left a message and that was about 6yrs ago & still no call back. about 2 months into my pregnance i had a miscarrage, to this day he dosnt know. I found his profile on myspace and he's married now with a kid. I'm f**ken pissed off now, its taking everything in me not to leave him a message, the only thing holding me back is his wife and kid they have nothin to do with it and shouldnt have to suffer cause i'm pissed.
2006-06-28 08:51:42 · 27 answers · asked by erika h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don’t know what to do. Please understand I have no feelings in me towards him but anger. I just want to get him back.. I was only 17 and he was a huge mistake I made in my life and now I just want revenge.
2006-06-28 08:51:50 · update #1
NO..im not mad cause i still want him..i'm mad cause for all he knows he has another kid out there and dosnt care. i've lived in the same house and have had the same #. i thank god i had a miscarrige cause i would have to explain to my kid why there dad isnt around and i would have just been another statistic. i know its a stupid reason and i didnt expect or want him to stay single its just that seeing that..it was like a kick in the stomach and i just wasnt expecting it!
2006-06-28 09:26:47 · update #2
omg that would be so annoying but i think i would just forget about it ...being angry will just cause you to be upset....i know it's hard but thats what i would do....good luck
2006-06-28 09:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by SuNnY BlOnDe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good will revenge do you? Sure, you may feel better for a couple of days, but if you believe in karma, then it will only come back to bite you in the ***.
If you just let it go, you will be the bigger/better person in the situation. Obviously this guy is a jerk, and he doesn't deserve the attention you are giving him, or the energy you would have to exert to try to make him feel bad. It probably wouldn't even have an effect on him anyway, especially if he's the insensitive a$$hole that you portray him to be.
Move on... the best revenge is living well.
Good luck.
2006-06-28 09:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by pceej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well.
If you truly had no baggage from this, you probably wouldn't be quite so so bent out of shape at this point. What exactly are you pi$$ed about? Did you think that he was out there living a celibate single life until he was good & ready to return your call from 6 years ago?
You've done well resisting the urge to lash out & possibly hurt an innocent woman & child; please hold on to that thought until the rage passes. Then, you should take some time to examine yourself: Why did this affect you so deeply if you didn't have any illusion of reconciling with him?
I hope you can get over this quickly, & be at peace.
2006-06-28 09:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point in you life does it really matter? Getting back at him wont change the past and it wont make you feel any better. Just him thinking that maybe he has a kid somewhere out there makes him wonder. The best thing you can do is just forget about it and if you really want to get back at him, have a boob job, lose 50 lbs, buy a really slinky dress and make sure he see's you either by his friends or in person and just give him the cold shoulder and tell him he had his chance and he lost this good THING! Good luck honey...
2006-06-28 09:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by chromespoke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... well honey, you have to let the past be the past. You cant make up for lost time between you two. Maybe he wasnt ready and ran away from his responsibilities instead of taking them head on. But as a woman, i know sometimes you need that closure before you can initially move on. Ask yourself, how were oyu before you seen hia page on my space? If you were doing fine without him, then it's no need for you to start anything that might be harder for you to get out of. However, if you think you cant let it go, then leave him a message on his page, there's no harm in that. But be mature about it, maybe you'll get a reposne back and maybe you wont....... I'm sure you are old enough to look back and tell yourself you wouldnt be where you are wihtou going through what you did in the past. Maybe he just wasnt meant to be with you. You will find your knight and shingin armor one day but dont waste your time on someone who walked away from you.
2006-06-28 08:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him back for what? You unfortunatley had a miscarriage... so no child together. He probably assumed since you never contacted him ( or the state for that matter ) then something happened like you found someone else or you weren't pregnant. Its over now... its been what 6 years? It will do no good to sit there and scheme a way to get back at someone. Maybe it's time to grow up.
2006-06-28 08:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your energy for something else more constructive. Things didn't work out between the two of you. Would you want things to be different? Could you imagine being with him still, and having a baby with him? Be grateful things are the way they are. Let it go. Your jealously and you wanting revenge shows that you still care. Don't give him that satisfaction. Keep your dignity and drop it.
2006-06-28 08:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by kylanusoftly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 22:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh ouch. That must really hurt. I know if I were you I would make his life miserable but DONT DO THAT. You were right when you said that his wife and kid shouldnt suffer. My best Idea is to leave him a message and decide to meet someplace and when you do, talk to him why he left you and tell him how you feel.
That is the best thing to do but i understand it is very hard to do and to be honest, i wouldnt have the courage to do it but hopefully you do!
2006-06-28 08:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by vampire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go....
Honey I know it hurts and what he did really sucks.
But, you should have known better...he leaves town and then you tell him you are pregnant...and you really thought he was going to come back!??
You should have been planning the abortion or adopton right then.
Now all these years go be and you get pissed off because you find out he is married and has a kid???
What did you think he was going to do...stay single and hope to hook up with you someday?
Come on...he wasn't coming back to you and you know it...you're just pissed off because he found someone else besides YOU.
Let it go...let it go...
2006-06-28 09:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by some1_on_the_side 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, take a deap breath and don't do anything drastic. I would call his wife and tell her how hurt you are . if she says shell help than she can get it across better than anyone but be shure you make it clear that the only thing you feel toward him is anger. I would try to call and keep calling until he answers he cant hide forever. good luck.
2006-06-28 09:01:20 · answer #11 · answered by fairy princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋