What do you all think about staying at home with children instead of working?

Question

Should a mom be allowed to stay at home while the kids are at work? Should husbands have a say in this?

Answer 1

A father of three applauds the concept and thinks that you are among the smartest parents on the planet. Children learn on the average 70% more from the parents than in the structure of society as it is today. I say whatever it takes to do what you intend will be the best thing you could ever do for your children. Teach them the right ways and be a positive influence is the start of reversing what society is doing to our kids. God bless you all. You are on the right track. Your efforts in what you do will be mimmicked by your children despite outside influence. What a concept. Good luck to you. Yes husbands should be a part of the support that you will need. They should not be intimidated in any endeavor that works to the benefit of the children and should support it 100% as your partner. He might even have some good ideas as to its continued success. Support one another and your family will be impenetrable.

Answer 2

Hi -
I am all for it if you can afford to do it. Children are so much better off with a stay -at-home parent. It is ALWAYS in the child's best interest to be there - IF and only IF, you can financially swing it. I have figured out how to work part time at home (so I can work when they are sleeping or having quiet time) - it is the best of both worlds. If you stay home - things have to change financially - you will probably have to tighten the belt - cut back as much as you can but I 100% think it is worth it. Does the man have a say??? hmmm..... Probably but I didn't give my husband a say. He knew before we had kids that I wanted to raise my child - not have a daycare provider raise them.... you have to do what is best for YOU - so ten years from now you can feel good about your decision!
Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't have any children, so I don't know how it is on your part. But I watch my mom work her bums off, keeping us kids in line. Making breakfast, lunch when we were home, and supper. Then have to help out with my dad, when he had heart trouble and surgery.
Taking care of children is a job. Being there as they grow up, teaching them thing as best as you can. Helping them with homework, or hear about what happen at their part time jobs. Being there when they are heartbroken.
Your hubby might think different, and may want you to support the family with a job. But like I said, you already have a job that is more precious then making money.
Times have change, and women are out from the kitchen into the work field. Some husband do get comfortable, having their wives bringing in extra money. I think the choice is up to you.

Answer 4

I think there would be better adults in this world if mothers took the time to be mothers.

Stay at home moms get dissed far too often. Mothering and raising functional members of society IS and SHOULD BE a full time job. Anything less is stealing from your childrens furture.

i dont think it has diddly squat to do with income, (except single parents). My mom put us first, and we had NOTHING. i grew up with one pair of jeans through highschool, we ate frigg'n spam every meal for a few months once. But we had our family, and we're all much better people for it.

On the flip side, my cousins parents were never around because they were working to afford a nice house and cars and fancy clothes, but theyre all miserable people now who spend more time getting drunk and hauled in by the cops, arguing and hating eachother.

Kids need love and attention and guidance, not everything that money can buy.

Iam glad we lived like we did for the period of time that we did. We supported eachother, and we'll always have that.

Answer 5

In cultures where old people are not sentenced to 'homes', staying at home may not be necessary even if you don't have the money for baby sitters. Children need the presence of their mother right from birth till they are able to speak. The constancy of her warm body hugs, the smile, the smells of her, the touch all help the child to build confidence in himself very early. However if the 'kids' are grown up enough to go to work and their dad wants mom to still stay at home, then I believe he is using them to manipulate. You need to be fulfilled and to achieve. Go out there and earn some money it would make you a better person. Some men don't want their wives working as a sign that they are successful and in control. You have a life of your own. Sell the idea to him amicably.

Answer 6

well ya , one thing married couples need to know is that everythign you do together is a two way street and you have to decide these things together, compromise. i feel that if the husband is bringing in plenty of money and he does not mind, then it is fine, but if the husband wants more money comming in the house cause a kid will make you more strick on spending and you want to live comfortably then you have to work. in my case my husband is the bread winner and brings in enough for me to be an at home mom, we figured since i dont have any special skills to get a great job, i will not be bringing home more than 200 dollars tops a week, so after you deduct day care and stuff your money is gone and you do all that just so someone else can watch your kid. so we see it as saving our child and money, being home saves us day care money and i get to be there to raise my child not someone else. this is what works for us and we are happy! we are trying to concieve now so i already dont work anymore, it was agreed that there is no reason for me to, my husband likes it that he gets three home made meals a day and has me to always come home to. good luck.

Answer 7

Being a stay at home mother is work don't let society tell you otherwise. Spouses should have an equal say in this because there are financial issues to deal with. I am going to be a stay at home mother soon, right now I am pregnant with my first child. My husband and I both agreed that we didn't want our child growing up in a daycare like I did. Talk to your spouse and weigh the pros and cons.

Answer 8

This is a discussion you should have with your husband or vice versa. It depends on the financial situation and if you both can make it work. My husband wanted me to stay home so he works. We talked about it long before the baby was born. I can't imagine having my child in daycare and having a stranger raise my child. I didn't miss the milestones and wouldn't have it any other way. It's definitely hard at first but worth it. You can always go back to work later, but you can't raise your child over and bring back the memories you lost.

Answer 9

I don't think there's anything wrong with it but I think you should only do it if you can afford it and your kids won't go without anything because of it. I think it's really hard for families to do this nowadays because of the cost of living unless one party is just making an insane amount of money. I really don't think it benefits the children if you can barely put food on the table or they're walking around with torn up shoes, just so you can stay home and not work.

Answer 10

I don't believe in it, but its up to you. I plan to work when I have my children becuase this day and age, both parents should be working. Yes, your husband should have a say because he'll be the one supporting you and the kids while you are at home and its not right to put that all on him.