I am so lost right now. I have had a long distance relationship w/my boyfriend for 6yrs. We saw each other a bunch really. I moved to where he is 3mos ago, we bought a house, everything was good but i cant find a job here that suits me. we fight all the time. i loved my job, my hometown. i gave it all up for him and now i'm unhappy, i miss my family so much (i live bout 5hrs away fm them now). i wanna go back home, he will never move to my neck of the woods, so i'm debating leaving, i dont wanna give up our relationship because we worked so hard for 6 yrs to make it work, but i wanna go home. does anyone have any opinions?
2006-06-28 08:39:26 · 3 answers · asked by kandysue_86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i understand your situation all to good. I'm going through the same thing at this current time and have been for the last year and a half.
YOU need to do what is going to make you happy not only now but in the future as well. i know all the thoughts that are going through your head.. im still here.. 3,121 miles away from my hometown, my family, my friends, no job, unhappy and lost. don't put yourself through this pain. i know your scared that you might be leaving someone who could be your future but what you need to ask yourself is this.. '' if the pages were turned, would he give up everything for me?'' '' would he give up his friends, his job, his family and his life he so enjoyed?'' though the love might be strong between you, you have to picture who you might turn out to be later on the relationship with you being so unhappy right now. talk to him again if you haven't already and tell him that your unhappy. if you mean the world to him then he will understand and work on a solution to fix your pain, if not than for yourself.. take some serious time to yourself and think about what you truly want for now and in the future cause its YOU that you need to look after. like i said I'm sitting here right now going through the same pain and it hurts .. it eats you up inside.
2006-06-28 08:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by If u were wondering, It's me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse to be miserable, if you can get out. Have a talk with your boyfriend, try to find out the reason for all the fighting. You may be just getting used to each other also, with some added in homesickness. But if things aren't really working out, then head home to where you're happy. Don't think of it working for 6 years to make it last, think of it as experience and go from there. It takes two to be a couple, not one calling the shots. In the beginning of man, according to the Bible, God took a rib from Adam, so the woman can be by his side...He didn't take a bone from the foot, or from the head....but from Adam's side. You're equal........if he doesn't want to cooperate, and meet you halfway, then you know what you have to do. Best of luck to you..........
2006-06-28 15:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
George Washington once said..."You are only as happy as you decide that you are going to be." Decide that you don't want to be unhappy and do what makes you happy. Sounds like leaving will make you happy. Plenty of other guys where you came from.
2006-06-28 15:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by Cage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋