I Really Need Some Help............Please Help Me!!!!!!!!!?

Question

I had sex with this boy that i was just friends with, we were friends for about 6 months but one night things just got a lil hot. I told him to use a condom but he didn't have any, so I like then no we need to just chill out then, but instead he shows me some papers saying that he doesn't have anything that he took a little over a month ago. But 2 months after that happen I end falling in love with this boy that i met and we've been together for going on 5 months now, but our love is really strong everything is perfect, but i go to the doctor for a check up and I find out that the guy that I had sex with gave me a diease I know it was him for a fact but that's a whole nother subject. But really what is really going on is I don't know how to tell the boy that I'm in love with about it, because of being embrass (he might tell his folks), and I'm scared our relationship might be over forever and he might hate me. What would you do and how would you tell him, I really don't know what to do

Answer 1

When you really love someone, things are worked out together. If you are ill and with treatment will go away there is nothing to be worried about. You will be ok and have a future healthy relationship in the future. If he dumps you because you are not a virgin, then really is someone that does not worth your love, sincerely. All the luck

Answer 2

OK. If your STD is curable, then your worst problem is settled. You need to tell your lover so he can get cured too. It's only fair to him. If you do not tell him and he realizes you know, he will hate you for sure. If you love him, you will find a way to tell him. Forget about his parents. Even if they are close to him, I doubt he's gonna come crying home to Mommy and Daddy. You need to tell him. You might lose him in the process, but you will lose him for sure if you don't say anything and you could mess things up for both of you if you don't get cured.
I don't know how you will tell him. Did you tell him he was the first? In any case, you gotta confess now. You had sex at least once with someone else before you met your guy. The sex was not love and it didn't mean anything to you. It has never happened since. Your lover is the only one. You didn't want to talk about it since you didn't want to hurt him, but something bad happened - you got some disease. You are telling him because you care so deeply for him, and you are very very sorry. He may still leave you. You will have to take this chance. If you are old enough to have sex, you need to be old enough to take responsibility for it.
Unfortunately, men have a double standard about sex - always have, always will. Do not answer questions about this former encounter or any other ones you may have had. It was sex - that's all - nothing more. Men have "nothing sex" all the time, the more the better, the more women they screw the better. If a woman has just a few lovers, she has loose morals from a male poit of view. Just ride it out, hold your head high, and do not be provoked into losing your temper or doing anything stupid. Then promise yourself you will not discuss former boyfriends with your lover now or other lovers in the future.
Don't worry about anyone's parents. It's not really their business any more. Maybe it will be hard for you to understand, but your parents and his have been through a lot more than you have. Of course they will not/should not tell you about it, but you should not fear shocking them. Again, if they find out, do not discuss details. Just promise them you will be more responsible in the future. If you are not using birth control yet, go talk to a doctor about it right away.

Answer 3

Honestly from my point of view, this is what I learnt from my dad. "Confrontation always is a risk. But if you cannot risk your relationship, do you even have one? The sincerity of the parties are revealed." I'm not too sure if you understand what I'm trying to say but I feel that you should tell him. If he really loves you, he'll go through this with you and find solutions to get you treated. Or, you can seek your doctor again and ask if there is anyway that the disease can be cured. I don't think he'll hate you for that cause' it was unexpected but then again, you should have taken precaution. What I would do is that, I would tell him the truth and see how he will react to that. But before I do that, I would ask my doctor if there is a cure. If you don't confront him, how would you know what will he say or react? There's always a risk to that cause' it's either he will understand and try to work this out with you(which goes to show that he really loves you) or he'll be speechless and walk away. Only when you confront him and tell him about your situation, you will know whether he really loves you and want to have a long-term relationship. :) I hope that I helped you in one way or another. Do think about this carefully. Take care!

Answer 4

Ok well, first of, you do need to tell him, because its all about trust and you shouldn't hide anything from him. Just tell him what happened, it was all before you two met anyways. And yes i understand that it might be an embarrassing moment, but the point is, you're being straight up with him, so you can prove yourself to him. People make mistakes, it happens. And most likely you're not the only one. Tell him, that you had sex with someone you were pretty close with and something happened(the disease), you got lied to saying everything would be fine, but it wasn't. But what's really important is he should get tested and checked out, just so you both can be cautioned how bad it is or not, just so you both know. But be careful next time, always be safe.
Remember No Glove, No Love.

Answer 5

He shouldn't hate you. He's the one who gave you an STD. While I am not one to preach, you should have used a condom. If he didn't have one, you should have postponed sex until he bought some. Please tell me he didn't pressure you into doing it. Be honest with him and tell him you have something and you know that you got it from him. If he is any kind of stand up person, he will help you go to the doctor and figure out how the BOTH of you can be treated. If he gets offensive and turns the tables on you, then drop him. That is a sure sign of guilt. Don't be embarrassed that he might tell the 'rents. The more you put off telling him and/or a doctor, the worse the situation is going to get. Good luck!

Answer 6

First of all, I take it because you mention parents that you are young. I would caution you about having sex while not being married. Not only are there health concerns but there is a lot of mental things that go on when you share yourself with another person on that level. You are special and special means that you are much more than ordinary. Treat your self as a precious jewel and you will be treated by others as such.
That said, you didn't mention wether or not the disease would be with you for the rest of your life. In any case honesty is always the best policy. If you are really in love then you shouldn't care what this person should believe about you once you have told him, love is not about recieving, but about giving. You owe him the truth to sit down and have a friendly open dialog about sex as well as potential diseases. This is a responsible (adult) prelude to sex, whether you have a STD or not. If you don't feel comfortable about discussing STD's then you are not ready for sex!!!
Once you talk about diseases and safety precautions, you can tell him that you contracted one from someone else (don't name names). I would suggest you learn as much about the disease you contracted, especially if it is not curable.
Secondly, although I don't think you should be having sex ( but you believe it is fine)
you should protect yourself against this happening again. Practice safe sex, carry your own condoms! It is perfectly acceptable for a girl to buy and carry her own condoms. This is for your life. Next time it could be worse, worse is preventable.
I don't meant to be preachy, but take the time to educate your self and practice what you learn. Never ever trust anyone's word when it comes to the state of their STD status. That status is only as good as the last time the had sex--- before they had a test!!!..
Blessings

Answer 7

Telling him the truth is the best thing. Your relationship is still fresh and he should know there are things in your past that you can not change and you just found out you have a STD. Tell him you are being treated and he needs to be treated as well. If he loves you he will understand and move on with your life together. Dont be scared be brave and do it before he finds out from some other source this will really make him upset

Answer 8

You dont need to tell him unless you gave it to him or you guys have been sexually active. Have you? If so, you definitely need to tell him. Or if this disease you have is incurable, then you need to tell him. If not, then you need to go get it taken care of and dont have sex until you're all the way healed and clear of any disease, and when you do always use protection. ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!! No matter what paper you see, ALWAYS USE PROTECTION! No matter what anybody tells you or how much they promise and swear to God and put that on their dead loved ones!! Even if you go to the doctor with someone and take test together and see the results, they could still go behind your back and get infected somehow. ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!!!!!!
Have you heard of AIDS? What if you take someone's word for it and they have AIDS and you end up getting it?!!!! Once again, ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

You need to fess up for making a mistake. Having sex without a condom was a really bad idea and you should take responsibility for it.

Answer 10

It depends on what you got from the other boy. If you are cured from the doctor...that is if it is not permanent, like if the doctor gave you antibiotics....then you don't need to worrie. If it is something that you could give your new boyfiend then you just need to tell him, because that would not be nice to give it to him!!!