This problem, just started a few days ago, and now I feel like pulling my hair out. He spits at his 5 year old brother all the time now. I ask him why he did it, and it's aways because his brother said or did something that he didn't like. I've tried over and over again to tell him that it's not nice to spit at people, I've told him that only people who are gross and pigs spit at other people, I've put him in the corner for it, and I've made him sit in time-out for it. What else can I do?
2006-06-28 08:20:11 · 16 answers · asked by k_h_brown 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Give him a place to spit. Time outs won't work because they are not a logical or natural consequence to this behavior. The next time he spits, take him to the bathroom and show him the toilet. Say to him "You can spit here. When you're ready to stop spitting then you can come out." Be calm and patient when you do this. Don't give it any more attention than that. If he gets more attention he will continue the behavior because he knows it is a way to get attention from you, even if it is negative, it's still attention. Once he stops getting attention for spitting, he will soon stop. Good luck!
2006-06-28 10:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seriously it's your son and hes still very young,smack him in the mouth(not hard)but enuff so he'll remember not to do it,sounds cruel but works,the problem today is that i feel parents arent strict enough with young children,and being lenient isnt the answer,also corners dont work.(been there,done that)take charge while you still can otherwise when he's older you'll get walked all over and get little to no respect from him.trust me smacks in the mouth will stop this from happening..YOUR NOT ALONE EVERY CHILD GOES THROUGH THIS STAGE.besides i dont think you spitting on him like ppl. are saying to do.isnt a great idea.if i jumped off the bridge..would you?spittin on someone is vile/disgusting and will not earn you a thing.its just pretty much saying its ok,or he may spit at you..touche'..you cant cure a habit by doing the same thing..e.g. alcoholics dont sit in a bar if they are trying to quit drinking.hope you understand what im getting at.good luck
2006-06-28 08:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 4-12 months previous boy could in person-friendly words be in day out 4 4 minutes no longer an hour. He desires to have clean limits so as that no potential no. many times even as they hotel to actual fluids of any type it potential they are pissed off by utilizing complicated regulations, difficult causes or chaos of their lives. A 4 year previous who receives lengthy causes about why he shouldnt behave a particular way yet under no circumstances shown a thanks to act will act out of anger this way. come back to fundamentals. be certain he has a clean undemanding. be certain you've your time positioned aside for play and for self sufficient play. ascertain he's ingesting and sleeping on an commonly used schedule. Then enable your no advise no. Use a consistent day out undemanding. decrease your voice. be certain you're being sensible about your expectancies for a 4 12 months previous boy, pretty on condition that he has been by a trauma---dont anticipate him to act like he's 9. Boys desire a particular quantity of actual launch each day and he probable has some extra with what he's been by.... ascertain he has danger to get out and run it off...even as something else of his international is in position he will pay interest to NO SPITTING, until eventually then you definately want to be a sturdy ascertain, or get some instructions or see a counselor...each and every of the superb to you....once you've a undemanding and are already having fulfillment in different elements then he's making an attempt out you and the warm sauce (or probably only a eco-friendly pepper) will artwork fantastic.
2016-10-13 22:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spank him..most parents hate the idea of spanking their kids but what they need to remember is is that you aren't beating your child you're just doing it hard enough so that it hurts for a few seconds. He'll learn better then to spit at people if you spank him a few times.
2006-06-28 08:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can spank his butt, or make him sit in time out longer, Maybe try spitting on him and see how he likes it.. I know one of my friends her son always bit people and she would do everything and he wouldn't stop and so one day she just grab him and bit him and said now do you like it he said no and never did it again..
2006-06-28 08:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this and I found out that flicking my son in the mouth worked. I tried everything else , time outs , spankings , corner, etc.....
2006-06-28 11:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by age 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellll all that i can say him is that give him a chocolate or something which he really likes and then sit with him and tell him not to do it again... i hope he will stop spitting!
2006-06-28 08:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Abdul S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's new, a novelty which will be replaced
by something worse... trust me
Timeouts should be short and then
get him to hug his brother and share a treat together
Don't pull out your tresses,Mom ...soon you'll be bald ;)
2006-06-28 08:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Merry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put some baby formula on his tongue (powdered kind) it taste nasty, but yet it's healthier than putting soap in his mouth, hopefully he'll learn his lesson and stop the spitting!
2006-06-28 08:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he spits...spit on me....see if he likes it...im sure he wont then u can prove a point and he'll stop
2006-06-28 08:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by muwah22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋