Ooook! I need help please?

Question

I recently broke up with my boyfriend, but I realized how much of a mistake that was. I realized that I still want him back and that I basically need him. But it has been about three days since I have talked to him. Should I tell him what I feel, and that I want him back now? Or what should I do, because I dumped HIM. Or is it even worth it? I don't even know what to say to him, I just KNOW that I want him back. I don't really care about what my friends think about him anymore... Anyways, I just need some advice?

Answer 1

I think you should call him. But don't be like, "I made a mistake, I want you back." Because any normal person is not going to take you back & not have any grudges. He might be like, "Yeah, she want's me back, so now that I've got her, I'm going to make her suffer a little bit so she will not do this to me again. She made me hurt, I'll make her hurt." and although he may want you back just as much as you want him, he could ACT like he could care less & keep you hanging. Soooo, I would call him, ask him how he is doing, and start a nice conversation. Tell him that although you broke up with him, you still love him as a person & you want to be friends. Then let things maybe slowly grow back into a relationship & tell him after he's not mad & hurt anymore that you made a mistake. But you really can't listen to anyone but yourself, If you feel like you should tell him what a mistake you made now, do it. Everyone's relationship trials are different. And since no one knows this guy, no one on here will know how he will react except for you. So go by that... If things don't work out, or if he refuses to take you back, just remember it wasn't meant to be & it just means there is someone else out there even better. But before you do anything, you need to review why you dumped him in the 1st place, if your friends don't like him & say he is a jerk or something, try seeing thier side. But only you will know if he is right for you. I know a lot of people say my boyfriend is a jerk, but we have been together for 8 years and I KNOW he is not. Doubt and insecurities about you guys relationship will only make it end again. So make sure you resolve all issues before you get back together. Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Well, if you said anything ugly to him..I'd suggest you forget about trying to get him back...He's not likely to forget it. Besides, obviously you weren't that into him..or you wouldn't have dumped him in the first place. That is...unless you got some bad advice from a female friend...and if you did, well that's what you deserve...be your own woman. Stop trying to be "the most popular girl in school". It's summer...schools out anyway!! Not to mention,...you probably just have break-up guilt. You said it's what you wanted....so now you have it. If you truly wants you to be happy, he believed everything you said and he won't bother you..so DON'T BOTHER HIM!! Let the man grieve..if he's grieving at all. You might just need the friend part of him...not the boyfriend part...and that'll take awhile to get back..if you get it back at all.
A lesson to EVERY lady reading this...MEN have feelings!! When you dismiss them is when we become assholes!! In your case if he's ugly and hurtful to you if you do decide to contact him...Then you can believe that is exactly how you made him feel when (as you so eloquently put it) you DUMPED HIM. No one else can answer if it's "worth it"...but you. If he treated you like you wanted to be treated then you were a fool to listen to your friends...how many of them actually had a boyfriend or significant other anyway? When listening to advice...consider the source! What examples do they give you that they actuallt know what they are talking about?

Answer 3

First think to do is slow down!!! Stop thinking about the good times and remember some of the bad times. Why did you break up with him? Was it becasuse of your friends? If so think about why you ended it in the first place. Is it worth it? Do you end it becasue of some superficial reason? If so, call!! But make sure you are sure. If you string this guy on a line playing games, you'll run the risk of losing him for ever. If you are sure you made a mistake and won't recant in a month or so--by all means call!! If he treated you like a jerk and beat you-or just treated you less than you deserve- DONT CALL, face the pain and be strong and your new prince will arrive sooner than you think.

Answer 4

Since it's only been three days, I think you should give yourself a little more time to figure out if it's really him you're missing or the feeling of being in a relationship you're missing. Think about why you broke up with him in the first place. Many people lose track of who they are when they are in a relationship and feel scared and the need to be with someone after a break-up. Take a little time to remember who you are and what you really need before you go running back to your comfort zone.

Answer 5

Well my girlfriend dumped me a few years back because of pressure from friends and family and her own doubts. About a week later she realized how much she still wanted me and she regreted what she did. I still liked her since it wasnt too long after she dumped me. When she asked me to go out with her again I was more than happy and I kinda liked how she asked me this time instead of me asking her. So I think you should go for it, it is definitly worth it and you will be happy together. He probably still likes you and just ignore your friends cuz theyll still be your friends. Oh and we are still together.

P.S. he will appreciate you more too, knowing that he could lose you so easily

Answer 6

first think over if this is really what you want, and evaluate your feelings for him first, before you make a mistake like that again. think of the reason WHY you dumped him in the first place, and then maybe call him (if you think you reaaallly want him back) and apologize and tell him that it was a mistake and how you really feel about him.
goooood luck!
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oh and if you just need a boyfriend, find somebody else you like and hook up with them. lol or hang out with friends. you may just want company thats all.

Answer 7

I nearly fallen in your situation. I wanted to break up with my girlfriend but I managed to drive those thoughts away because I knew I was gonna regret it.

If 3 days have passed, things may still be warm. Try to contact him and tell him how you feel. Be careful though, If you want this to succeed you need to swallow all your egoism. You'll have to admit that you where wrong, that was stupid blah blah.

If he still thinks about you he'll return without second thoughts. If he's already over you, it's up to you to prove how much you want him back.

In either case he wont be like before. Things like this tend to reduce the level of trust and faith on the relationship.

PS. Next time you decide to break up with someone think it through. Don't get too impulsive!

Answer 8

Sometimes it takes a situation like what you are experiencing now for you to realize that is love. Call him and tell him what you feel. You might get him back and if you don't then life will go on and there will be someone else. Everybody has a first love and it either works out or it doesn't. Life's funny like that!!!

Answer 9

Well i would call him and ask if he wants to go to lunch or dinner, then I would tell him how I was feeling and why I have a different look on the relationship. I'm just curious, how long were you going out? Let him know how you feel or you will never know and that will bother you forever. At least by telling him you will have a straight answer.

Answer 10

It's good that you dont care what your friends think but you dont really NEED anybody. You should be able to rely on yourself. If you WANT him back then tell him so;tell him that you made a mistake and would like to reconcile things. A closed mouth doesnt get fed, Sweetie.