2006-06-28 08:00:20 · 15 answers · asked by lexi_14_volleyball_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to him, tell him how you feel. He may not realize that he is on the computer more. Send him an email, then you won't have to talk about it. Sometimes its easier to write than talk about personal things that are bothering you. Then it can't escalate to yelling. good luck!
Ask him to do things with you.
2006-06-28 08:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sad your dad is so addicted to the computer, tell him and your mom how you feel do it respectfully so you'll have a better chance of them listening...if your dad still doesn't see whats more important then there is nothing you can do until he matures, instead focus on spending time with your mom and sister cause they certainly need a good person like you..isn't it ironic that you, his child can see whats more important than him....
2006-06-28 08:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by hell_in_a_handbasket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this type of question...I bet that you are more mature than your father.
Unfortunately, sometimes fathers (and mothers)...well...they don't know how to BE our father/mother so WE have to help them!
I'm not Dr. Phill...but I know about this, let's say "from experience" OK?.
My best advice is: never take it personal... Don't think that he doesn't loves YOU. Maybe he is depressed...maybe his father was always distant so he never got the chance to learn how to behave...how to be a good parent. Trust me YOU ARE NOT the problem.
Maybe he thinks that a good father is the one who takes care of the "financial problems"...
Or maybe...he is disappointed!! I'm really sorry...but I have to tell you this...Do you have a brother??? Do you know how he feels about that??? (about not having sons?) Maybe he wanted to have a son and he doesn't know how to treat girls....so God send you to teach him and make him proud!
Talk to your mother...are they having marital problems? Does she knows why he acts that way? is she willing to help you?
I don't believe that if you break his computer he is gonna love you more...or pay more attention...You have to respect him if you want him to respect you.
If your mom is willing to help you...and he is not depressed or something like that...why don't you talk to him?
Tell him how you feel...and that you'll love to have a deeper relation with him. Tell him that, a few years from now, you are not going to be in his life as much as you are now, and that you'll love to fill your walls with family pictures!
So why don't you try to invent some kind of "family moments"?
The movie of the week (you all choose together the movie and then discuss about it)
Monday dinners (no matter what you all have to be present)
Sundays trips to the park...or the zoo...
Summer vacations
The thing is that...at the beginning you are gonna have to "force him" well, kind of, but then...MAYBE...trust me...he'll "learn" the lesson and finally realized that it's important to create memories and special moments...because when you are old that's a huge part of yourself!
Maybe is going to be weird...at first...but then I'm sure that he will end up being closser to you on dayli basis....If he continues to show no interest…well…you go on living your life…because u’ll find and meet friends that are going to be part of your “other family”. Be wise! Remember that we can’t select our relatives but we can select our friends! Respect your father, don’t ever hate him for what he is, after all…you know…he is your father!
Someone told me once that before we die we "see" parts of our lives...I want to believe that that's true...say it to your dad! I'll bet that I'll get it! After all...I'm sure that the three of you are more important that any of the stuff your dad finds here!
Goooood luck!
PS: in italian we say BUONA FORTUNA...so I wish you that: AUGURI e BUONA FORTUNA!
2006-06-28 09:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him something about computers, or ask him to look for some information on some web site. something like that to start a talking and may he pay attention to your quote, then ask something else and so and so. but start with topics that he likes or knows better than you, so he will feel wise and important.
this is a tip just to start. Good luck!
2006-06-28 08:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by señora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter, letting him know exactly how you feel. Or send him an email. He'll be sure to check that. You kids have to communicate with us parent's. I know it's hard sometimes. Nobody said communicating is easy. But it's the only way you'll get your point across.
2006-06-28 08:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh darlin, we have the SAME EXCACT problem sometimes. my dad always downloads movies, (or watches them) sets up different programs or whatever else the heck he does lol
you will just have to straight out tell him
(dad, whats more important to you? us or the computer? spend some quality time with us!) < lol you dont have to say that in a very serious manner, but he should understand your point.
â¥
2006-06-28 08:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by AngeSurTerre ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's hard to pay attention to a broken computer. I'd use a baseball bat to off it. More personal.
2006-06-28 08:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say this "Dad, do you care about my mom and me and my sister????" you spend more time on computer than we are. and I know that later on when growing up and you missing out all this fun than sitting on computer.!!!
2006-07-05 07:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go up to him and say, "you know, dad, we're growing up really fast, aren't you afraid you'll turn away from the computer one day and you'll have missed it all? We sure are missing out on you..."
Good luck!
2006-06-28 08:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break the computer
2006-06-28 08:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by 9929 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋