accepting authority as being 'all knowing' serves a purpose... for awhile. but at some point in time, children will want to know "WHY do we pledge allegiance to the flag?" "WHY should that person have to live in poverty?" "WHY did daddy have to go to iraq?"
when should we tell them "WHY"? WHAT should we tell them?
2006-06-28 07:52:30 · 23 answers · asked by patzky99 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
There are appropriate answers for those sort of questions at EVERY grade level.
For example, at 4 or 5, you can simply say that we say the Pledge of Allegiance to show that we love our country. At an older age, we can talk about the respect for the flag and what it signifies.
At a young age, we can say that daddy had to go to Iraq for his job. As the child ages, you can share your personal feelings and beliefs about the war.
2006-06-28 07:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by kentata 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You always tell the kids the truth but at their age level...you cant explain something as why did daddy go to iraq to a 5 year as you would someone in college...if daddy is in iraq explain that daddy is protecting our home by looking for the bad guy to bring him to jail...juvinile i know but you did tell them the truth dont sugar coat it or make up things just put it in a way they can understand and as they get older explain more and more...maybe take them to a base and ask some of the soliders there or take them to city hall and watch how a court room is done...or to a soup kitchen etc...all depends on their age as welll.....good luck
2006-07-02 18:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by tinker143 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of great answers here patz...but you already knew that.
I don't have much else to add that hasn't already been said.
Rule of thumb for children of any age though is to answer their 'Why' questions whenever they ask. And to only answer the question they are asking...don't analyze it.
I'm sure that you've heard of the child that asked where babies come from. The parent delved into details when all the child really wanted to know is if they come from God.
As for an appropriate age for the questions you have listed here. Depends on their age for what you want to tell them.
If they are really needing answers,then a sit down heart-to-heart talk is in order. All children mature at different ages and it is up to the parent to decide if their child is ready for the whole truth.
Great question Patz
2006-06-29 12:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by zoya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experince my kids have been asking the question why since they could talk, and depending on what they ask me I tell the truth you never lie to kids cause it will always come back to bite you in the azz, but if it is a question that you don't know the answer to it is nothing wrong with saying I don't know but be sure to see if you can find the answer. Now there are question I just did not want to answer then you just avoid the whole question you answer they question with a question like "Did you clean your room?" It works for me everytime.
2006-06-28 08:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by dorleejohnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my 4 year old neice has been asking "why" for about the past year.
i started asking "why" to the big questions in life around 2nd grade.
it depends on the child and their interests.
i never worried about the pledge of allegiance....i understood why we say and i didn't argue.
sounds like you want the world of kids to agree with your mentality more than just ask "why". they should ask you "why are you against what my daddy does for a living?" or "why are you living in this country if you don't follow the ideals and beliefs on which it was founded?"
2006-06-28 07:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most students I would say in Middle school about the age of 12-13. That is the start of adulthood and the time that most people are gaining the ability to think abstractly which is needed in many of these situations. I taught 9th grade last year and the number of students who were ready and capable to ask "WHY" and those who were not was split about down the middle.
But after my class they did start asking "WHY" it was important for them to be able to do.
2006-06-28 07:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by djotto00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age 6
2006-06-30 10:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by KMMT ^_^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 6 and we are still hearing it. I think it started from the time that she started talking, and I am guessing it will be over with when she passes at a very old age. She has a very inquisitive mind that never stops, I don't think it is a bad thing/
2006-07-05 19:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as they learn to talk and see things clearly, things will go on in their life! They need to ask why these things are happening! They are curious and that is a good sign so tell them exactly what they want to know but don't go to far with explaining!
2006-06-29 09:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when they are old enough to understand. I say as soon as they are in first grade. I dont do the pledge but I didnt learn that we dont have to until 6th grade. I think its important that this one wait longer because of rebellion.
2006-06-28 19:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋