I've had a very stormy past with my ex, and somewhat abusive. He's been gone nearly 4 yrs now and says he's grown up and changed. I know he can provide for me in most ways, but emotionally i have my doubts. And a best friend I've had for some years who has always been there for me; He's never failed to listen to me or just be there if i needed a hug....and recently I found out he's interested in me. Problem is, there is an attraction there for us both. I'm afraid if I give this a chance, it'll destroy the deep friendship we've worked to keep. He has some physical limitations.........but he's still an attraction to me. I don't know wether to give my ex a chance in 6 months, or try and see how this other works out...I don't want to hurt either of them; but my heart is all torn up. Please, if there is a good answer out there, the help would be deeply appreciated.
2006-06-28 07:46:41 · 6 answers · asked by sammmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, for your ex you shouldn't give it another chance because it sounds like you don't really want to. For your friend, go for it. Friendship lays the foundation for more. Good luck and I hope this helped.
2006-06-28 07:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/bKEMp
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-18 16:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its been 4 years u know u can live with out him and u dont need him. why would u go back to a realationship when u know he was abusive before most people stay the same after being set in there way. You also should not be worried about their feelings worrie only about your own
2006-06-28 07:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-25 07:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if you cannot confirm medically before you get back together that your ex, is cured, FORGET him. I have seen too many cases like this. The attraction he is to you is born from fear, his attitudes and mannerisms. If you like being roughed up by all means go back to him and pray this time around nothing happens because if and when it does it will be worse than before. My advice would be to go with someone who will be there for you. care for you, someone with whom you can have a decent, mature, peaceful relationship. No matter what you do you will hurt one of them. Better the one who has hurt you before, who should understand why you've said no.
2006-06-28 08:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by wemimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please please remember he is an "EX" for a reason. They always say they have changed...and it may seem like he has for a few months.....but..when he knows he has you right where he wants you..he will go back to the same old guy you knew before.....
If you've been happy for 4 years without him....then don't let a few good memories cloud your mind.
If it was me.....I would keep it just like it is......a good friend is hard to find....and the right one for you will come along when you aren't looking.
Maybe your ex just doesn't like you being friends with this other guy...and he thinks if you get back with him...you'll stop the friendship...just a thought...good luck
2006-06-28 07:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋