My boyfriend and I are seeing each other for like 2 years plus. We meet each other almost everyday after work about 6pm till late 10pm... He is the one that initiate the relationship we have...we are both each other first love and started this relationship when we are both 20 years old.
Recently, we keep on having conflicts. He can't tolerant when i tell him very nicely what I feel that he is wrong especially when i asked him for help and he would keep on delaying.... say tired and stuff like that :( I feel that he displays lesser care & concern than we were before. Also, he had displays quick or short temper recently. I know guys mature slower but i think he is going towards the "bad" side. All the bad characters....
I love him and we both goin to engage soon next year or so. Please advise me how to deal with him for his shortcomings? Plus, he is working as an Army Officer so does this make him this way? Thanks :P
2006-06-28 07:46:37 · 5 answers · asked by Princess S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, if this is both your first loves, you're going to have some obstacles in your way. The fact that he showing less and less each day that he cares is not a good thing. I've been through this some yrs ago, and I found the best way to deal with it is : first talk to him about how you feel. Don't play the game of: it's your fault, or even try to place any blame.....no one wins when that happens. Ask him if he would be willing to just sit and listen to you for a few minutes, and then you will be more than glad to sit and listen to him...but truly listen with not just your ears, but your heart and your instincts. If he refuses to listen, or after listening he says you're just imagining things, then you might seriously consider leavin him in his tracks and write him off as a lost cause. it's a strong possiblity that he may have someone else on the side. Just keep your eyes open dearheart.
2006-06-28 07:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by sammmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dude in the military is not exactly the catch of the year. Let him stay married to the army and find someone who doesnt want to march around like a chicken with a uniform on. He will be much more well rounded, and really girl take this to heart, they get worse after you marry them not better. If hes shitty now he will really be a piece of work when you marry, and men if they even been in the military tend to never mature they stay stuck on stupid forever.
2006-06-28 14:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by yourdoneandover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i went through a similar situation, and truthfully- if he is getting meaner and worse, then you should cut ties before its gets really bad. i thought the guy i was with was going through a phase, but he ended up getting abusive and we have 2 kids. it got scary and it was very hard to leave- we were together for 5 years. but now i see i made the right choice. dont think of this as a maturity thing, you dont deserve to be treated like crap.
2006-06-28 15:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should have a good talk. If he doesn't appreciate you, you should put a stop to the relation before it is too late
2006-06-29 10:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you are getting burn-up...having too much of each other, try to lay off of seeing each other everyday maybe at least three or four time a week making sure that the weekend are both yours to enjoy...
2006-06-28 14:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋