Should we break up?

Question

Me and my gf got together back in march and went out for a month but she was to busy with basketball for us ever to actually get together. So we broke up but then we started goign back out about a week ago and everything went good we watched a movie together and it seemed like we were alot closer. But then the next week she never called, she was barely ever home and she said she was getting to busy again and i asked her if she thinks we could still last and she said i dont think so so i told her we need a breka then. Is that what i should have doen or should we still try to make it work or should we just be done all together?

Answer 1

It sounds like she had already broken up with you.

Answer 2

Well the two of you haven't been together that long, and if you are already asking yourself that, my suggestion is that no the two of you shouldn't be together. If the two of you, not one of you, are willing to try to make it work then that is great you should try, but that has to be on the terms of accepting that she becomes a pretty busy girl, but she would also have to understand she needs to give some time to you'lls relationship. However it is pretty apparent that she isn't willing to make time, she went a week without talking with you, and that isn't putting in any effort. I would just count this as a lose, remain friends, and hang out as friends when the two of you have time. Then you two don't have to get upset about not seeing one another that often. And with time, I mean don't just count on it, but who knows with time, maybe remaining friends, and spending the time that you two do have free, and having patience, might eventually turn in to something, when maybe you to find a compromise or maybe in the future when she frees up some time. But for the time being to avoid hurt feelings or losing a friendship that you two could build on, cut it as a lose, and just let her do her thing and you do the same!! Good Luck!!

Answer 3

story from the little box:-

It's meaningful....

Once upon a time, there was a teacher and his student
lying down under a big tree near a big grass area.
Then, suddenly, the student asked the teacher,

Student : Teacher, I'm confused, how can we find our soul-mate?
Could you please help me?

Teacher : (Silent for few second, than he answered)

Well, it's a pretty hard and easy question.

Student : (Thinking hard) Huh???

Teacher : Look on that way, there are a lot of grass
there, why don't you walk there but please never walk
backward, just walk straight ahead. On your way, try
to find a beautiful grass and pick it up then give it to me. But just one.

Student : Well, ok then... wait for me... (walked straight ahead to the grass field).

A few minutes later...

Student : I'm back.

Teacher : Em, well I don't see any beautiful grass on your hand

Student : On my journey, I found few beautiful grass,
but I thought that I would find a better one, so I didn't pick it up.
But I didn't realize that I'm at the end of the field, and I hadn't
picked up any. Because you told me not to go back, so I didn't go
back.

Teacher : That's what happened in real life.

What is the message of this story?

* Grass - is people around you
* Beautiful Grass - is people that attract you
* Grass Field - is time
* In looking for your soulmate, please don't always
compare and hope that there will be a better one. By
doing that, you'll waste your lifetime, cause remember..

"Time Never Goes Back".

It applies the same in finding your ideal life
partner, your suitable career or business, therefore
the morale is LOVE & grab hold of the opportunity
that you have now, don't waste time!

Answer 4

Well you should try to reach her sometime and if she never answers then you should stop going out for a while then if she evers has time to be with you again then you should ask whats been going on in her life to be more important than you and maybe that will work out for you and maybe you should ask her if you can go with her when she needs to do stuff and that way you can spend more time together.

Answer 5

If you're under the age of 21, find someone else! She obviously has a plan for her life and I'm thinking you're just not an important part of that. She is doing her own thing and shouldn't be tied down. You should find yourself a girl who wants a relationship. If you are under 21 you should be out living your life and having as much fun as possible! You're still a kid!

Answer 6

No really you did the right thing. Don't make yourself unhappy over one girl. She doesn't even seem to really care about you all that much. Not trying to be rude. It's better off if you move on. That is what I did with my ex two weeks ago and I feel much better. I think that he cared for me more then I did for him and that made me feel bad. Keep looking that special girl is out there somewhere for you. Good luck at finding her ^_^!

Answer 7

Wow, you sound like a girl.

If you need that attention, then she's not the one for you right now. You already knew she was a busy person, yet you went out with her so if you can't deal with that move on. If it's meant to be you'll find each other later in life.

Answer 8

HA....damn dude hmm....okae well lets see...um....forget her....even though i prsume you guys may have some history or what not and obviously you care about her and i know its hard trust me....my ex is preg with my kid and thats difficult enough....depending your age and your commitment i'd say the best thing to do is just let her go....im sure you can find a companion down the road later or whatever....and i know you might feel a little guilty that y'all are splitting up but trust me....youll benefit from it in the long run...and just take this as a learning experience of personal and emotional growth but just let it go man....youll be fine PEACE

Answer 9

I think that you did the right thing. If she doesn't have time at the moment to commit to a relationship then you can't make it happen. So just stay friends and who knows what may happen in the future, but for now you shouldn't be together.

Answer 10

I think for the time being you made the right decision. Apparently, for her to suddenly stop trying to make an effort, she feels the same way. Perhaps you both just have too much going on right now and you never know when your paths may cross later on in life.

Best of luck!

Answer 11

listen i was in the same problem u was in but instead it was the other way around i was the one to business with basketball to be with her so instead she told me she wanted to take a break but i couldn't get my mind off of her so i called her up and from there we have never been stronger. So maybe u should call her or even talk to her in person!!!!!!!!