When I see my parents (mom and step-dad) and I talk to them about my husband and I wanting a baby soon, she tells me the following:
That I won’t want to get up in the middle of the night with a baby.
That she knows when I have a baby I will wish I didn’t have one at 24 years old.
She rolls her eyes and says I should wait until I am 35 to have a child and maybe by then I won’t want one anymore.
She is afraid if I have children I might get frustrated with them and make their lives miserable.
She seems jealous of me. She had two children before she was 21 and got divorced at 24.
I have a college degree, I have been with my husband for 5 years, married for over a year, I have a good job, insurance, own a home that is almost paid off, and I have two brand new cars paid off. My husband and I love each other and want to start a family, why can’t she be happy for me and stop trying to ruin my dream of having a baby??!!
2006-06-28 07:44:51 · 11 answers · asked by WannaBeMom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your mom that it's your life. She can't control you after you are 18, because you are a legal adult!
2006-06-28 07:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫♪chococat♪♫♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby at the age of 20 and my mom was upset at first,but when the baby got here she loved her so much. Your mom is just trying to look at for your best interest, it seems to me. If you and your husband agree to start a family then go ahead can't nobody tell you when to have a baby. I have 3 kids, 2 of which are my husbands and I have been with him almost 4 years and we have been married 2 years on July 25. So just go with your heart, you and your husband will be the best parents and good luck.
2006-06-28 07:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately it's yours & your husband's decision to have a baby!! I don't think your mom has anything to do with your decision to have a baby! You sound like you have a wonderful life and are able to financially afford a baby! Your mom probably thinks you'll turn out just like her...even though you know you won't!! And your age is perfect...IMO! You're not too young to where you can't take care of your child and you're not too old to where you can't do anything with your child either!! I would say just to keep doing what you're doing! And hopefully when you do have children your mom (will finally accept it) and will be happy for you & your husband! Good luck...
2006-06-28 07:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_gal04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband want? This is really none of her business. If she doesn't want grandchildren, she doesn't have to be around them (though I'm sure she'd quickly warm up). This is between you and your husband, nobody else!
You may be right that she is jealous, especially if she has no good reason to disapprove. She may also just be projecting her regrets onto your life.
You'd probably make a great mom because you actually want children. I don't think you're too young if you are prepared for what it takes.
Good luck!
2006-06-28 07:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my GOSH! Your are a big girl. Don't even bring up the subject with her. I had my first baby at 23, my second at 25, my third at 28 and my last baby at 31 years old. It is your life.
I never told my parents when we were trying to have a baby, because it was only my husband's and my business.
Don't bring it up anymore and get on with your life with your husband. You are letting HER run your life.
2006-06-28 08:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by shop4tots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell your mother she made her life like this....but you have husband and house paid off and college and.... who cares what they said.. I wish i was 26 years old to have kids but it never happen until i have my daughter until i was 32 years old. My mother even tells me don't have baby don't do that.. and I told her stright up answer.... you made this life not me... and You are out of my life. If you can't be happy for me and my wife and child then your lost.
Becasue stupid for parent put you down and seem she blame you for that. no way jose. you are a great mother and you have a great husband and you know yes I get frustrated but I don't take out of them. I have to teach them beacsue they are in the world they never been before.
Your mother blaming you for that .. her fault not you..... well she not happy she gonna have to live with it smile. and you have done a outstanding life you donig right now becasue you made that choice to better life than your mother made that life.
2006-07-05 07:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a child is your decision with your husband...your mother will just have to get over it...please don't let her ruin anything for you...you sound like you and your husband are doing a great job of growing up and taking responsibility...good luck with parenthood...it is so much fun with a lot of responsibility thrown in the mix but so worth it! She is making you miserable...let me at her!!
2006-06-28 08:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let your mother run your life for you. It's up to your and your husband. If your mother is not happy for you, it's her loss. Don't let her run your life or you may wind up ruining your marriage. Take it from someone who knows. It's time to put your mother in her rightful place.
2006-06-28 07:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go for it.Your life is booming if your mama cant accept it then hopefully she will get over it soon. If you and your husband want a baby congrats!!! anyway you stood in front of god to make a vale to your husband not your mom!!!
2006-06-28 07:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by janail_boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her the next time she brings it up that you know your ready and you want kids and your married and well prepared,
hope i helped, best wishes
2006-07-05 05:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Leesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋