Almost divorced and wondering what to do...?

Question

I am getting a divorce and I have this friend who just so happens to be a guy, and to have a girlfriend. We are sooo compatible, we both have the same views on relationships and we both love hanging out together and I know as soon as my divorce is final, he is gonna be around all of the time. But what if I fall for him? He is a very independent man with a good job and he is responsible and nice and a gentleman....but I was thinking we should just stay friends and enjoy knowing that we have someone that we have so much in common with and not ruin it by making it into something more. Assuming that he even wants to. What do you guys think? And men...wouldn't you rather have a girl that you can hang out with and watch movies with and stuff but not have her teling you what to do all the time?

OHHH COME ON!! Its not a rebound if it isn't a relationship!! Besides we have been friends for a long time.

okay let me clarify this...we are friends, we hang out--he was my friend before I met the guy I am divorcing--he has hung out with me and my husband alot!! We have not hooked up, and we haven't even talked about it, but I am physically attracted to him and I am not quite stupid enough to rebound...so now what do you think?

okay one more time...I DO NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP...I may be overthinking a little. Sorry for asking.

Answer 1

Let me tell you what I think..... I am also separated with a divorce around the corner. Divorce never ends well, and no matter what the details are people are hurt. Often your pride, self worth, finances, and ability to trust/believe in another person will suffer. I highly recommend the whole "friends with benefits" concept. I enjoy sex, and the intimacy associated with it.....(not a one night stand sort of girl). My friend is amazing, not only does he look out for me, and help with some of the guy things..... He makes me laugh, feel desirable, and has taken me to a whole new level of multi orgasms! Personally I'm not ready for another serious relationship.....still repairing the damage from the last. But, having a good friend who I know and trust is extremely valuable to me.....not to mention the hot sex benefit. By foregoing the "relationship", you often give each other the freedom to desire, request, explore and experiment with things you may not ask a "partner". No fear of rejection, ridicule......a total win/win situation. Although I will caution you......if you marriage was especially bad, it would be easy for a lot of woman to rebound into their friend. Thus a potential to get hurt....again. Not all woman can have a sexual relationship without developing feeling that want more. Friends with benefits is just that.....friendship....sex....NSA. For me, right now.....perfect! For you.....think it thru and decide whats best for you.....good luck.
And yes, your "friend" respects you and enjoys the arrangement. Other people?? Some will judge, others will cheer....be discreet if you need to.

Answer 2

I got divorced 51/2 years ago and went out with a guy three weeks after leaving my ex that I thought the same way about....you know, the kind of guy you feel that can read your mind you are so intune with eachother....well, it was a big mistake. I was way to messed up from the previous relationship to move on that soon to a new one. I would advise dating others first and keep the guy as a good friend. Later if you guys are ment to be together things will just "flow" in that direction.

Answer 3

I wouldn't rush into anything. Go through your divorce and stay friends with him. Fate will work things out if it is meant to be. You don't want to get a divorce and start up a long relationship right off the bat. Take time for yourself and straighten your life out, then act on feelings down the road. If you have fun being friends, let it stay that way for now until you know what you want.

Answer 4

iF your friend has a gf you should NOT mess with his life. Im not saying you shouldnt talk to him but try to keep it in the FRIEND ZONE, DONT try to take advantage of his situation if his GF tells him what to do. They are probably working on their relationship and it wouldnt be fair if you went in and made things more complicated. You should treat him as a friend and DO NOT FALL For him because that will only bring more problems to YOU to HIM and to his GF. I mean think about it, your friends for a reason, of course your gonna have the same likes and your compatible but if he has his life just wish him the best and find someone else who can give you the love you need and want. GOOD LUCK,,,!

Answer 5

Give it up to him. Guys would rather get a piece than have another friend that is a girl. That is what you tell someone that you do not want to sleep with "lets just be friends." Hook up with, him. You do not need to be in a relationship, just be f*ck buddies, and make sure to tell your ex-husband. Send him a video

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Just be friends. Not because you don't want to ruin a friendship, but because you are just getting a divorce. The word DIVORCE means I NEED TO TAKE A BREAK FROM RELATIONSHIPS.

Answer 8

take your time don't be in such a rush to be in another relationship besides u say your almost divorce which means u still have a chance 2 work things out

Answer 9

Ok, you could be both, just hang out, and leave out the telling us what to do all the time, guys get along without girls tell them what to do when single, so what makes women think they need to tell guys everything to do.

Answer 10

If you're not married (soon) and he's not married and you hang out, enjoy each other's company and fall in love, what's wrong with that? I say don;t oervthink it and let nature take it's course.