2006-06-28 07:29:58 · 38 answers · asked by Jessie Faye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They probably just don't know what else to think, that maybe it is a "faze", I'm 16 years old and Lesbian, I came out to my mother 3 and a half years ago and she still sometimes thinks it is a faze that eventually I will grow out of, That's a very big thing for a parent to take in because of society today, They also may be worried about your own well being, take into consideration that they still accept you, they're just probably confused on what they should say or go about believing it. Sooner or later they will realize you are in deed bisexual and you will not have to worry about a thing, Don't worry about "proving" it to them by kissing another of the same sex or something along those lines because that is wrong and disrespectful to your parents. Be mature about it and they will take you seriously.
Hope this helped.
2006-06-28 07:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Åⓝⓞⓝⓨⓜⓞⓤ§ 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would guess a sit down talk - kissing a chick in front of them is a very obvious way but you want to keep a relationship with your parents and you do not want them to have strokes. I would also recommend not worrying about making them realize the truth. Go on with your life and live it the way you feel best. If there is ever a time for them to become involved in your private life then they will know.
2006-06-28 07:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not easy to "come out" to anyone especially someone you love and want to be loved by. Rejected is always a real fear in disclosing anything about ourselves that society or our family does not understand. Before you tell them get all your facts ready because they may have a zillion questions and a box of tissues. The is an excellent organization for families and friends of GBLT called PFLAG. They have many chapter, you may want to give them a call, also for Latino populations there is Buenestar in the Los Angeles area. Good luck.
2006-06-28 07:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty, i don't know what kind of relationship you've had with your parents but i have to tell you as a mom of 4 i would already have at least an inkling. i've always told my kids they can tell me anything as long as it's the truth. and always been careful to guard that trust they put in me. maybe start seperately with one or the other in a very serious conversation and then let the other help with the parent you haven't told. or ask for a night to be set aside to talk to them both. pray first and good luck. i love my kids no matter what i hope you are lucky enough to have that as well.
2006-06-28 07:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by slysandlin@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit them down, and look them straight in the eye... "I'm a bisexual, mom!" Why wouldn't they believe you in the first place? Talk to them about that. Tell them your life is changing and you're growing up, and it's what you want. They have to understand that you're making your own choices now. Have a talk about it and get it into them that it's your choice, and they have to go with it. If nothing I said works, good luck my friend!
2006-06-28 07:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by angiesto95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really need to tell them, then tell them straight out. They will have to accept it, even if they do not like it. It is not really their business what your sexual orientation is, and I am sure they love you enough to accept you anyway.
Just make sure you tell them you want to have a serious conversation. Tell them you are not necessarily looking for acceptance, though you would appreciate it, but that you feel you need to be honest with them about who you are.
My guess is eventually they will figure it out anyway, so it is best for you to tell them as that way it will be less of a shock and they will not feel as if you have been hiding or lying to them.
Good luck
2006-06-28 07:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Raistliin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them down at a dinner table or someplace serious and come right out and tell them. Tell them that this is a serious change they are going to have to adapt to, and that if they cannot accept that, then they are going to have to not accept their daughter anymore. You have to be blunt to get the point across.
2006-06-28 07:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Maddi C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its best just to make it a point not to discuss your sex life period with your parents. You wont have to hear anyones opinion of anyone that way. They wont even know if your having sex at all, which actually eliminates that whole conversation. Thats how I prefer to do it. It might really work for you. Just remember what they dont know you dont have to hear.
2006-06-28 07:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by yourdoneandover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about telling your parents...they really don't need to know. When you are in a committed relationship with a partner of either sex then it will be what it is "." Best wishes
2006-06-28 07:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to sit down with your parents when their minds are at ease and they're relaxed and talk to them about it...
don't come out directly to them... it's too harsh of a message...
say that it's been on your mind and you wanted to tell them how you feel but that you don't want to upset them...
and if they ask you to continue...
do tell them exactly how you feel... if you leave anything out, they'll fele lied to and betrayed...
but there has to be a balance in your message...
like them know exactly how you feel about both sexes in a calm manner and they should be okay with it...
that's how it worked for me...
hope that helps...
peace,
roni
2006-06-29 02:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋