I'm 15 and I'm pregnant - what am I going to to???

Question

Oh my goodness, I posted earlier saying my period was late and I was worried about being pregnant and everyone said I had to do a pregnancy test so I went and bought one at the supermarket and it's positive...............and I'm only 15.

What am I going to do?????? PLEASE someone help me, I don't know what to do, I've only slept with my boyfriend twice and we used a condom but we must not have done it right because now I'm pregnant. I'm so scared, what am I going to do? I can't tell my mum, she'll go absolutely crazy, she won't understand at all, she'll kill me. Can I get an abortion without my mum knowing? But I don't really want to kill the baby.........oh ****, I don't know what to do but I'm so scared right now.

Please don't be nasty, I know I'm young, but we DID try to use protection at least which lots of young people don't......Please, I need help here, not abuse.

Answer 1

Did you not learn anything from sex ed. It's girls like you that make this country what it is, it's too late to think of the consequences girlie, you made your bed now sleep on it. Don't you wish you waited to have sex after you got married or had a steady life, sucks to be you.

Answer 2

Depends on where you live if you can get it without parental consent.
You need to find out how far along you are anyway and you might as well tell your mom unless you plan on running away and never coming back.
Now that you are no longer a virgin, it's time to step up and be the woman you tried to be by having sex. Tell your mom and ask her for help. Either aborting the baby or keeping it. She may overreact but at least you will get the help you need. Moms usually calm down after a while and come talk to you to find out the best course of action. If you get an abortion, MAKE THAT GUY HELP PAY FOR IT. Do not pay for it alone. I realize you are scared. I've been there, just later in age. If you want, email me or send me a message thru 360 and I can talk to you. Otherwise, good luck sweetie.

Answer 3

Speak to your mum!! i know you think that she will kill you etc etc, however you cannot go through this on your own and i bet you she will be more supportive than you think she will, she's your mum and she loves you, yes she will be upset because she just wants the best for you, but i think you need to speak to her before you do anything irrational. I would not advise you to get an abortion without speaking to your mum first as this can be a higly traumatic experience and you will need a lot of support, is there not a teacher at school you could speak to who may be able to help you tell your mum? if so i think this is the best option, as i definitely do not think that you should make any decisions on your own at this time, especially when your emtoions are all over the place!!

Answer 4

I'm really sorry you're going through this.

Please don't abort the baby. A baby is a gift from God. Many women struggle for years trying to concieve a baby. And you got one! A gift from God! In you! Killing your baby by aborting it will 'cause you major emotional pain through out your life. You'll always look bad and regret that baby that maybe would've drastically changed your life for the better. You made the choice to have sex (protection or not) and now you have to own up to your desicions. Tell your mother what happened-- no doubt it will be hard but take the time, slowly tell her, and if you don't think you can do it alone then ask her to come to a counseling session with you where you would do it in the presence of another trusted adult, so that you'd be safe in the sense if she maybe would try to hit you, or yell. Then talk it out with the other adult, and your mom and hopefully she settles down a bit. Of course it'll be hard, and the baby will completely change your life in more ways than one, but whatever you do- please don't murder the baby growing inside of you. If anything, give birth to the child and give it up for adoption. Thousands of families out there would love to take your child in with open arms.

Good luck sweetheart, make the right choice! Remember, this is not a bad thing, it's a miracle! :)

Answer 5

first of all sweety, stop breath and try to calm down a little. I know its scary but you wil not be able to think straight or make the right choices for you, if you are to upset.

ok you need to see your doctor as soon as possible, just to confirm the result. if you cant see your own doctor there are other places, like the hospital etc or pregnancy clinic that you can go to.
Even at your age they are not allowed to tell your mum useless they think you are in danger and normally if that is the case they will refer you to a social worker first.
Remeber this is your body and your future and no one can force you to do anything.. but i would advice you that you really should talk to your mum, or another close relative or adult friend.

what every you do, you cant forget about it, i promise you it will not go away by wishing or denying it and for the most options and to give yourself the best chance to think things through, you are best acting now.

Hugs... you are not the first 15 year old in the world to be pregnant and you will not be the last.. it is not the end of the world it seams right now, you just have to be strong and think about yourself and the future.

Answer 6

First of all, sit down and take a deep breath. It's not the end of the world.

Second, you will have to tell your mother. As you keep saying, you're only 15. You need an adult to help you with this decision. Yes, your mother is going to be upset, but she's not going to kill you. You may wish you were dead, but that's another lecture. She's not going to stop loving you. You do need to talk to her though. She's going to find out eventually and you may as well tell her sooner, rather than later.

Trust me on this one, you are far too young to raise a child. You do have options, abortion is one; adoption is another. Talk to you mother about all of the options.

Finally, STOP HAVING SEX! You're only 15. You were not ready for the consequences.

Good luck.

Answer 7

The thing is that you need your mum at a time like this. If you told her, she probably would go crazy and be very angry at first but most likely would come around eventually and help you to make the right decision. Do you have any friends that are older that you can talk to about this? Also, please don't forget that this is your boyfriend's problem as well. I don't know where you live but in my area, there are several clinics for young women to go to in cases like this. Whatever happens, just know it'll work out for the best.

Answer 8

First, tell your mum. That's her grandson you're carrying.

You may not think she'll understand your problems, but she will.
The shock will wear off, and once it does, you're going to need all the support you can get to get through this. Family is the best place to start.

I'm not going to preach about adoption, I'm only going to tell you what happened to me:

My mom was 14 when she got pregnant.
She gave me up for adoption, doubtful she'd ever see me again. I was raised by a two-parent family, and I still consider them my parents. As soon as I turned 18, my birth-mom started searching, hoping that I would also be looking for her. When I was 23, I started looking, and as soon as I told the state adoption agency, they checked their records and made the match.

We've been good friends ever since, calling each other just about every week, and visiting for Christmas, holidays, and earlier this month I went to her other son's wedding.

Answer 9

First, calm down. I got pregnant at 16 and thought my mother would kill me too, but honsetly she was the first person I told even before the babys father. Your mother may be upset with you but she will listen to what you have to say. So tell your mother. Let her know that you don't want an abortion, and if you want to keep the baby then you'll have a lot of growing up to do at 15.

Answer 10

DO NOT GET AN ABORTION PLEASE DON'T GET ONE you will regret it later on in lfe, sweety to tell you the truth your only 15 and if you thought that you were old enough to have sex u were actually saying that you would take on the responsibility of a baby,,,,please don't be like most Americans taking the easy way by aborting it, that isn't taking responsibility for your actions, I understand that this is alot for somone your age to be going through, but honey you should have thought about that b4 u decieded to have sex,,,, Just an FYI sometimes store pregnancy tests are wrong the only way for sure to find out is to go to the doctor and get a real pregnancy test. Tell your mother.....She loves you and will not kill you.....When I was 16 I knew that I was going to have sex I asked my mom to take me to the health department to get me Birth control......she wasn't excited to do it but she did, You have to understand my family is strict christian and premarital sex is wrong in my families eyes, but unless you are willing to take on the responsibility of a baby you should have talked to your mom about other options......Baby, if yoiu don't think you can raise a baby at your age. Go through with the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption....it will be hard but ht ebaby will have a much better life. Im really begging you to tell your mother and go get a real preg test.....and keep the baby....don't let your mom make you get an abortion either...that baby did nothing to deserve to die....I'm so sorry......
Email me and let me know how everything goes, Honey im so sorry : ( Good Luck your gonna need it

Answer 11

hi Cara. i read ur question just now. You're still very young, i want you to accept the fact that having sex in the first place at your age is rather indecent. The best way out now is to let your mum know your status and then she can lead you to take the right steps. Hiding this from her, you might end up taking a decision that'll live a scar in your life 4ever. Tell your mum. Cheer up Cara. Bye.