I'm a lesbian but I dont want to be. What do I do?

Answer 1

Either get therapy or a sex change. Maybe both.

Answer 2

If you really ARE a lesbian, then there's nothing you can do to change that. You were born that way and you'll die that way. I'm sorry if that's not the answer you were hoping for, but it's the truth.
If, on the other hand, you're not REALLY a lesbian, you just think you might be, then I guess you could try dating a few guys, but be careful not to break any hearts by leading on a nice guy who you have no attraction to.
My best advice would be to ask yourself one key question: Are you physically attracted to men? And be TOTALLY honest with yourself.
Being gay is a hard thing for anyone to come to terms with, but if you really are gay, then the right support can not only help you come to terms with it, but also give advice on how to tell your family and friends, how to handle any criticism you might encounter and also help you to just enjoy your life and be happy!

I really hope you resolve this issue and I wish you all the best in the rest of your journey!

Answer 3

That is sort of like a straight person saying "I'm straight, but I don't want to be. What should I do?". It sounds silly. You should accept who you are, and ideally so should everyone around you, but unfortunately things sometimes don't work out that way. I guess there's lots of people, that for whatever reason want to change their orientation. I come from a very conservative, religious family, and being gay is NOT OK. I went to churches where the pastor would get on the pulpit and just straight up spew hatred against gays. I tried for a long time to live in a way to please my family, but it made me very unhappy, I was living a lie. Hopefully you'll realize that ultimately, you have to live your life for YOU. Now I live my life for ME. I have the love of a woman that is beautiful inside and out, and life couldn't be better. I hope things get better for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

If you're in a relationship break it of gently and go to someone who you trust that isn't a woman. Just spend some time with yourself. Obviously, when you proclaimed you were a lesiban something in the back of your mind wasn't cool with it. Get to know who you are. Your were something you didn't want to be so find out who you want to be. When you find that person within yourself, you hold on and stand strong with them because that's who you love and that's who YOU are. Modeling yourself after some one isn't the greatest idea. There might be a time they let you down. Find out if you'd really want to be in a relationship at all. I'd go to my dad and talk. Don't believe that you can't change yourself. You are the change you want the world to see.

With much love and support
Lil Lady, [e-mail]

Answer 5

Tough one! This especially since there is more and more evidence (including your own experience) that this is biological and not something that can be altered. I would look into maybe some counceling and/or support groups. You may be able to learn about other resources there. Also, with a support group you may find other people in your situation. The idea in either case is that they might be able to help you learn to adjust to the situation and find something that works for you.

Answer 6

If you look in your bible, you'll find answers to that very question. Check out the statements reguarding what God thinks about homosexuality. Then check out the statements reguarding how to overcome what the bible calls sin in the epistles of Paul.

Jesus was constantly helping people to overcome urges to do things that were not right. Many times it was described or referred to as liberating people from the influences of the devil in their lives. There is something called "The spirit of homosexuality" and it's origin is not of God. Once free of that, they were able to accept God's plan for them. This has actually happened to people when they prayed and reached out to God for help and by faith accepted God's plan for their lives. They come to an understanding of who God is (heavenly father) and what he really desires for our lives (he cares for us like a father and wants only the best for us and doesn't want us to experience the pain that comes from sin if possible). You may not believe in possession but as anyone can know from a critique of the life of Christ, he spent a good amount of time dealing with it in the lives of the people who followed him day to day.

Contrary to what people today may think, it has been proven that people can overcome the desire to be homosexual and anything else God doesn't want us to do. The key is that it must be God's effort working thru you instead of your own efforts. One powerful step in that direction is to read the word of God everyday and get to know it as written for yourself. Self knowledge and knowledge of God is the first step. Then the desire must come naturally to hate what is bad and desire what is good.

Knowing that God loved us enough to sacrifice his son on our behalf is usually the reason that drives us to separate from the negative influences in our lives and embrace what is right. Unfortunately many pastors and religious people today have abandoned the idea of overcoming problems in order to seem more politically correct, which is why I suggested getting your knowledge straight from the word of God instead of looking to people for it. You'd be surprised at how much you can help others with the knowledge gained from a study of the bible, of which can't be gained anywhere else today.

You are already on the right track. The first step needed was to desire to change. You also recognize there is a problem. You are way ahead of most people out there on that level. Even straight people today don't appreciate the trouble such a lifestyle can cause and are more interested in not making waves. Meanwhile AID's is spreading like wildfire across the world. That reason alone should make people think.

Thanks for listening.

Answer 7

Try dating men, just give yourself time and experience the other side. Dont rush into anything, but find a guy you can trust, and explain the situation to him, take it one step at a time.

Answer 8

find a man who will understand, and take care of your needs! Are you sure that you want to change though? How long have you been feeling like this?

Answer 9

DEPENDS ON THE REASON WHY U DONT TO BE.....IF U LIKE WOMEN THEN U CANT HELP THAT....JUS DONT LEAD ON A NICE GUY WHO LIKES YOU.............IF ITS CUZ OF RELIGIOUS REASONS THEN FIND GOD

Answer 10

stop bein a lesbian...