What is the best way to get over someone that you were in a serious relationship with?

Question

Things were very shaky the entire time but we both felt a strong sense of love for each other but just couldnt get along and we didnt really understand each other, however the break-up was bad and not much was said and I feel like I dont have closure.

I just thought I would add that the person Im trying to get by without is a female and was the most compatible person Ive ever been with, sexually and in terms of having everything in common down to the food we eat. I just didnt see or get the little things, like random phone calls and I love yous at night. She said I was to girl like and I was to sensitive.

Answer 1

There is no good way to get over something like that. I was in a relationship with a guty about 7 years ago and we broke up and I have never gotten over it even though I have been married and had a child I never got over it and as hard as that is to hear it is the truth. Love is an unexplained and undefined emotion it is something that you cannot control and you cannot help the way you feel all I can tell you is don't let it get the best of you and remember the old saying that if you love something then let it go and if ti comes back then it was meant to be. If ya'll really love each other maybe your not meant to be together right now but maybe sometime and somewhere in the future. Keep you head up and know that everything happens for a reason.

Answer 2

always happens !! love is possible even if u dont get along or understand each-other, however u kno tht thr is no point in continuing such relationship as it leads u nowhere. when u break-up such a relation :
1) during the final talk be close to each-other and for a while talk abt the problem u had, how u both cant continue ..both hve to admit they love the person but life goes on'..kiss the forehead...a hug..
2) after this talk never talk on the same topic again
3) everytime u see him or her think of the person as a new friend (i prefer this as not talking at all makes u feel horrible)
4) start talking to more people of the opposite sex or whoever u might be interested in as friends or otherwise
5) u can take the help of ur friend who cares for u and can for some time act as he/she really loves u ...like bein around all the time
6) very important- buy a present for urself and looking in the mirror say "hey i love u and i m glad that u r alive"..love urself and do watever makes u feel so .
7) remember that u r the only constant and most important person in ur life and the BEING SINGLE IS COOOOL !!
trust me !!

Answer 3

Not many people realize that they do not have closure, and then are confused when later on in life they feel strong feelings of jealosy torwards the ex and his new girlfriend. You are good with your first step. I congradulate you.
However, if you really wanna feel better, good ol' fashioned moping works. When you have had enough of it, and you really decide you don't want him back, then keep telling yourself it's over and look for new people. Its a hard time in your life, but you have to accept that.
As well, if you realize that you do still love him, then have a talk with him and sort out the reasons you broke up. If he's not a talking kind of person, sit him down, and make him listen. Tell him your feelings, your issues, and your vantage points. When you are done, see what he has to say. If it works out, you may have just had a misunderstanding and it's all better. If not, you move your seperate ways with no regrets at hand.

Answer 4

Sorry to say, but you may not get closure and there is no best way to get over him. Getting over someone takes time, and sometimes you are never really over that person. The best thing to do is move on and date someone new.

Answer 5

the best way? time. break ups are heartbreaking, but you have to let time run it's course. if some months go by and you two talk and work things out...fine. but don't bank on that. find things to do to occupy your time and one day, without even knowing...you're gonna realize that you're gonna be fine. try not to seek him out because you want closure or if you just have to, tell him that you want to talk to him and make it brief. say what you have to say and then leave it at that.....let some time pass and if he comes to you....even better, at least that way you know he's sincere and you would have given yourself peace of mind to know that you didn't leave the relationship on a bad note.

Answer 6

That happened to me too. Whatever you do don't go back, after a long relationship ends you start thinking about the good things and want to get back together. But you have to realize it'll be the same. Learn to be single again, make friends, go out. And don't go for the rebound, that's always ugly.

Answer 7

Its hard when you don't have closure... I guess if it bothers you that much, talk to him/her and get your closure...

From personal experience, I could not move on until I had my closure. I just felt unrested and confused...

Get your closure and move on...

The best way to get over someone is to date and hang out with friends. Just having someone else show you interest is good enough to make you forget...

So go out there, have fun, and date!!!!!

Good luck!!

Answer 8

I FEEL THE SAME WAY YOU DO BUT HAVING SOME ADVICE MADE ME FEEL MUCH BETTER ABOUT IT.BUT MINES WAS MUCH WORSE BECAUSE IVE BEEN WITH HIM FOR 8 MONTHS AND PEOPLE SAY HE IS CHEATING ON ME.DON'T BE WORRIED BECAUSE YOU STILL HAVE A GOOD FUTURE AHEAD OF YOU.YOU SHOULD'NT BE WASTING YOUR TIME FEELING SORRY. MAYBE IT WASN'T YOUR FAUGHT.I GUESS WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY IS GET OVER HIM AND FIND ANOTHER OR EVEN GO SINGLE FOR A WHILE UNTILL U FIND THAT 1 WHO CAN REALLY TREAT YOU LIKE THE ROYALTY QUEEN YOU REALLY ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

The easiest way to get over someone that you had a relationship with is to get rid of everything that reminds you of him, even if its the smallest thing. I was with my ex for 6 years, and thats how I got over him. I mean I got rid of everything you can imagine, and even then it was hard. But in time I did it.

Answer 10

Unfortunately you may never get closure. What I'd take from this is that you learned something about what you do not want in a realtionship and that will help you recognize a healthy realtionship when you have it.