Can single parents succeed as much as a non- parent?or a married couple with kids?

Question

I HAVE KIDS AND WHEN I WAS A SINGLE PARENT I DIDNT GETANY ENCOURAGMENT UNTILL I GOT MARRIED.

Answer 1

There are plenty of single parents that do a great job with their kids! It depends on you - not if you're married or not! Anyone that thinks married parents are better than a single parent is very shallow and living in a time warp!

P.S.: 85% of the serial killers in the country came from "normal" two parent households. Married parents better than a single parent???

Answer 2

Yes ma'am, ABSOLUTELY. I know because I was both. I raised my daughter on my own for 2 years. I worked 2 jobs, had my own home (a nice big home too!!), paid all my bills and took care of just us. We lived comfortably and had fun together. This past year, after being single for almost 3 years, I met a great guy who was amazing. We soon found out that we were expecting and got married this past December. We welcomed our new little boy and now have our family of 4! (Plus a cat!) We closed on our first home April 28th. As long as you put the most important things first and know your priorities, you can do anything. There are pros and cons to each side, but you can succeed just as much as anyone else. It doesnt matter what your status is, your child (ren) are you biggest encouragement . :)

Answer 3

I was divorced with an 11 month old and a 3 year old. I got absolutely no encouragement from anywhere. I was treated like white trash, like I was sucking up resources which could have been used better somewhere else. My X husband had the affair. I did not tell him to take off with that B****. I was left in a horrible situation and felt like a low life because I single parented 2 kids, even in the legal system.
When the kids got into school, even the school system treated us badly. I was accused of being a bad parent because I worked so many hours away from home trying to make it. The teacher accused me of poor parenting. I asked the teacher how old he was when my son was born and guestimated him to be about 13 and then had to inform him he had a lot of growing up to be able to instruct me on how to raise my children. He was clearly clueless.
I was evicted out of an apartment because the landlady thought I had someone living with me who was not being reported to her, when the fact was, I had a friend babysitting my kids while I worked at nite. Of course people slept there. What was I supposed to do. I had no one to look after them and it was a deal to have my girlfriend or another male friend sleep at my apartment at nite for free, so I could make a living. I could not take them to work. I was not having a relationship with them.
I used to go to school parent teacher confrences, and my x husband and his new wife always got the report cards, the crafts and everything at their confrence. They looked better than me I guess because there were 2 of them. I got told how to be a better parent and told I should have a better relationship with the ex and his wife because they really were concerned about my kids. Why didn't the jack *** pay his child support? They didn't know the whole story. My x husband always came off looking so good. My kids could have starved and he would not have cared.

Answer 4

I get allot of encouragement to get married...lol...I am very happy being single and raising my kids. I am very happy with my job and life. Yes I do feel it is a little harder and takes a bit more time to succeed. But I have. My kids want for nothing. By no means am I rich but we get by just fine. I just don't care what other people think about me and what I am doing because I know I am doing the best I can.

Answer 5

Absolutely!!! I know several people (moms/dads) who are doing incredible jobs raising their children alone.

Unfortunately, you ran into some very rude people if they didn't value you and what you are doing. Ignore them...their kids will probably end up all twisted because the parents have decided to fight against each other anyway and step on each others toes when it comes to disciplinary action or procedures. A kid can only take so much "Go ask your mom" "Go ask your dad" when trying to get a simple answer to something....

Major kudos to you...don't ever let anyone tell you that you aren't doing everything right for your kids or that there is something they are missing by you not having a partner. Poooooey!

Good luck

Answer 6

Absolutely, I am a single parent, and my SO is a single parent. Between us we have 3 boys, the youngest 20- the oldest 24.

One is in the Navy, one owns his own business, the 3rd is a real estate agent, who is working a 2nd job to provide benefits for him and his wife until he has another way of having medical benefit, his wife is in her last year of college studying to be a nurse practicioner.


None of them have any problems with drugs, alcohol or the law. There have been no illegitimate children or car accidents They are all self-sufficient upstanding citizens, no visits from the police, no phone calls to lawyers.

One was in the who's who of high school students.

I get tired of hearing about how awful the kids turnout when their parents are divorced. There are people on my street with 2 parent homes, where the children are drug dealers, were expelled from school for assault, have adult children with their illegitimate children living with them.

Our single parent kids turned out pretty damn good as far as I am concerned.

The whole time, both of us worked in corporate America, until we recently lost our jobs to off-shoring. It meant a lot of hard work and juggling sitters and day care. My son came home to an empty house after school from the time he was 7. No one encourage me, my mother's reaction - you made your bed, you lie in it.

You are an adult, just do what you got to do. And good luck.

Answer 7

I think they can. I am a single teen parent. I've had many people tell me that I'm doing just as well as any adult parent who is married and that my daughter is the same as any child with 2 parents. My mother is also a single parent of 2 and she raised me just as well without a man around. It all depends on wether you believe you can do it or not. If you believe you can, then you will. If you tell yourself that you can't do it, then you won't be able to.

Answer 8

Yes they can.... my best friend had her first kid when she was 14 she is now 22 and has had a son and he is 2....she is fixing to grad from college and she did it all being a single parent..... the kids have the same dad if you all were wondering....he just isnt around to help. she also goes to school full time and works 40 hrs straight at the hospital on the weekends and goes to clinicals... anyone can succeed they just have to want it bad enough

Answer 9

HELL YES...i don't care what those statistics want to say about children from a single parent home..but my mother worked HER *** OFF and has been rewarded for her efforts......she owns her own home, none of us have ever been pregnant, on drugs, or in jail....I'm the oldest of four..my college was paid for and i have my own place, my own car, and a nice paying job and that was BEFORE i got married...so yes SINGLE PARENTS CAN SUCCEED LIKE EVERYONE ELSE....IT MAY BE A LITTLE HARDER..YES...BUT WHAT IN LIFE ISN'T?..

I LOVE MY MOTHER TO DEATH...THAT WOMAN HAS SACRIFICED EVERYTHING FOR HER CHILDREN AND IN RETURN WE HAVE SURPASSED EVERYONE EXPECTATIONS.....

SO MY HATS OFF TO EVERY SINGLE PARENT HOME OUT THERE.....LIFE DOES NOT END JUST BECAUSE YOUR BY YOURSELF AND I'M PROUD OF ALL OF YOU!!....

Answer 10

i know plenty of single parents who have awsome jobs and careers its all about the will power and ur ability, alot of single mothers would deffiently find it hard to juggle both children and making a career but the harder they try they will get there