a boy has been hitting on me all year and all my friends and his friends r telling me to go out with him
2006-06-28 06:40:51 · 75 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't think it's bad.. if you can make someone happy by being with him.. there's nothing wrong with that, you'd be doing him a favor and am sure he'd appreciate that.. and who knows, maybe in the process you get to know him better and eventually come to like him.. who can tell.. so why not.
2006-06-28 06:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by katrina_ponti 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Wow this could go so many ways. Of course if you give in then that actually gives HIS friends and YOUR friends false hopes, BUT THEN AGAIN if you dont you may come off as prissie.
That aint cool. The best thing I could advise is to play off an evening like you are seeking a FRIEND to hang with like to go to a movie or concert and then see if he bites. Just constantly thank him for being such a good friend and have fun AS FRIENDS. See where it goes because out of all the guys that I dished off because of friends encouraging, I couldnt be happier in the world to know that I finally gave one a chance and we are the best of soul mates. I thought he would be a great beer buddy and we are now engaged. Im not saying it will be that way all the time, but you never know unless you give it a chance and be cool about it. No strings, just an added friend -- OR BEER BUDDY! Psst.. go easy on drinks so you dont make any rash decisions,
2006-06-28 06:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by prncssniki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd like to address this issue from another angle if i may. firstly, why do you feel sorry for him? is he that hard up that he can't find anyone else to chase but you? secondly, are you that desperately in need of attention? so much so, that you would have him leech off the emotional boomerangs you may or may not have thrown his way for the last year? if that's the case, maybe then we should feel sorry for you. because, if you told the guy that you weren't interested, he would've pushed on 11 months ago. so it must've been you leading him on in some way to give him the impression that one day, when the moon, Jupiter, Venus, and Mars align on a bright day with stars out, maybe then you'll consider considering going out with him. going out with him now will only make you look bad because of your intentions. he's not a charity case.
2006-06-28 07:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would YOU feel if you found out that someone went out with you because they felt sorry for you??
Forget about what your friends tell you. Do what is in your heart. Don't lead this person on. It's cruel and insincere. If you like him as a person, just be friends and have fun with out any romantic stuff.
2006-06-28 06:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only feel sorry for him and are willing to date on that premise, what does that "really" say about you?
Either admit there is some curiosity or attraction or willingness other than pity or don't bother.
You undermine yourself to say you'll go on a pity date. But if you woman up and admit there is something, even if you can't put your finger on it, you take on a sense of adventure and most important - you're being honest with yourself. Only if you're honest you should go on that date, but not from a position that he's not really worthy because you feel sorry for him. That's nasty and unevolved.
2006-06-28 06:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him up front that you are not interested in a romantic relationship with him. But you would be happy to be friends(If you really want to). If you go out with him and don't tell him this up front, then you are leading him on and getting his hopes up. Also, when he ask you out, don't make excuses or lie. Just simple say,"Thanks for the offer, but I would rather not."
2006-06-28 06:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Michael D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the situation. If you are up-front about
your intentions with this person, and he still wants to take you out then " I am game." However a "mercy date" builds false hope
for the interested party. I then would say that you were being a
cruel person.
However just be honest about your interest level with this person,
and the chips will fall where they lay.
2006-06-28 07:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Meko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never go out with someone just because you feel sorry for them- what if they found out that was the only reason you went out? How would you feel if you dated someone only to find out months later that he felt sorry for you- Devesated- Right? Don't make that mistake -you need to let your heart decide if it wants him and if not let him know that you appreciate his affection for you, but you don't have the same feelings towards him.
2006-06-28 06:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by BB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you never know what could happen. I have to admit I did this one time I wasn't really attracted to the guy at all, but he wasn't giving up. lol So I went out with him and actually had a great time. We dated a few more times and had lots of fun, but it ended up not working out. So you know the old saying "don't judge a book by it's cover"
2006-06-28 06:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad thing to do. It is out of pity and not sincere. You will only hurt him more in the long run, and you will probably feel guilty about it at some point.
2006-06-28 06:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Don't do that to him. How would you feel if you found out someone dated you b/c they felt bad for you? It would hurt a lot more than them not dating you at all. DOn't listen to your friends. They could get you into a bad situation.
2006-06-28 06:43:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋