How do I ask someone that I've had sex with about a year ago to show me proof that they are hiv negative?

Question

I am so scared to be tested all over again. He performed oral sex on me without any protection for about an hour. Before this happened I was tested and I was negative. I haven't called him in months so I don't know how to go about telling him how scared I am to be re-tested without him thinkin I'm trying to ruin his day. I have not had sex since then and I feel very healthy. Could anyone help me go about this the right way. All I want is for him to show me that he is healthy and doesnt have it because I just don't want to go through being tested again. Because if he can show me that he doesn't have it I will know that I don't need to be tested. Please someone give me some advice because this has been worrying me like crazy since that day. How should I go about calling him after all of this time without him being suspicious. Am I just being paranoid and am at a very low risk? Please someone help me calm my nerves. And I will definately select the best answer. Thanks people

Answer 1

You are at very low risk. Please go to the clinic and get educated on this matter by asking some questions you have. Your being really freaked out for nothing and your only going to piss this guy off asking him to prove his health to you. Prove your own health!

Answer 2

Well you should have asked him before this sexual encounter. People lie all the time and could you really believe him anyway. Most people do not carry around paperwork stating that they are HIV negative. I think you are being paranoid and obsessive about this. You did not have intercourse so I don't think you should worry. Go ahead and get re-tested, you will feel alot better when you hear the results are negative. Maybe he has no proof that he is HIV negative. Maybe he was never tested. Why are you so worried? Is he an I.V. drug user or do you have other reasons to suspect he may be positive. Just go ahead and re-test. you will feel a lot better. You need to educate yourself about HIV and the ways it is transmitted. Please don't call this guy up and bother him about this, you will look like a foolish girl, just go take the test.

Answer 3

The answer hun is to simply go and get yourself tested. You have to get over your fear and just do it. The chances of you getting Hiv from him through oral sex is extremely small, but not impossible. Unless you and/or he had a bleeding wound, you are probably okay. But for you peace of mind and safety, as well as his, you should go get tested. If it come back neg, then there is no reason to ever think about it again. If it comes back pos, god forbid, then you need to tell him because he may not even know he has it. Also, earlier detection often nowadays means a longer, healthier life for you.
It is important for you to know your health, so go get tested, and feel better.

Answer 4

1. Get tested. 2. Getting tested isn't scary it's just a vial of blood being drawn. 3. Just because you haven't had sex in a year (which I doubt by the way) doesn't mean he hasn't had sex with a dozen other women in the past year and maybe he got something from one of those whores. 4. Maybe you got HIV from that scrape you got at the local gym that one day. 5. Him giving you oral even for an hour (which I also doubt was an hour) still would result in very low odds of YOU getting anything from him. Unless he came in your vagina or in an open bloody wound or you squeezed blood out of him into your vagina or one of your open wounds the odds of you having anything from him is nearly impossible. 6. Grow and take responsibility for the decisions you are making regarding sex or oral sex. It is people like you that makes parents want to tell their children, "No sex before marriage."

Answer 5

sweetheart.. a man can tell you all day long that he doesn't have HIV... and can show you a 1000 FAKE papers saying that he doesn't have HIV.... if you really want to know tell him that you would like to go and get tested and you want him to come with you.


Otherwise you are just going to have to calm down and go to the clinic yourself.... There is NOTHING wrong with being to cautious...

the people of yahoo...can give you a 1000 answers, suggestions and their points of view.... ONLY the doctor can tell you whether you have HIV or not.

Answer 6

You're a friggin' idiot! It's very unlikely that you'd get it from oral sex. Get a hold of yourself! Go get a test (if you really want one) and leave the guy alone. Why should he get tested for you? What if he was with other people after you and got it? Stop being stupid.

Answer 7

Give blood at Red Cross
They test for HIV
See if he has given blood and if he has and he is not getting mail from Red Cross that he's blood was rejected then I'd say he is fine.
I know we all love sex but please be safe, sane, and consentual.

I give blood every 56 days if I can keep my dates. I learned I'm I'm A positive blood, and in the 20% of America that is CMV neg, some kind of childhood cold antibody, so they can give my blood to new borns in NICU that need transfusions. Very cool to help children that need help.

Answer 8

You legally can not. But to help relieve some stress you can call your Health department and tell them the information and if they have his name on file they may recommend testing. If they don't have his name on file they may offer fee testing to you. I hate to tell you but for 100 % if in doubt get tested!! You may meet Mr. Right and hate to pass it along. As you know oral sex is not at as high of a risk as sexual intercourse or anal sex but still can be transmitted.

Answer 9

Bring it up in a casual conversation.Then gradually bring it up about him being tested.Then you can even offer to go with him and get tested.You seem really scared and worried if your at such a low risk why are yo so worried?Even if he doesn't go with you it's well worth it for you to go and get test on your own.That way you don't even have to bring it up when talking to him.If everything comes back okay then you have nothing to worry about.You said your fine so go for it and get yourself tested with or without him

Answer 10

I am sorry to tell you, you can't force anyone to do anything.. if you are scared you have to go get tested. I know it's hard but it's your situation. I wouldn't start freaking out.. Your the one that put yourself into the situation, you have to be responsible enough to handle it after it's done.