Hey Girls,
How many dates do you think are appropriate before having sex with a guy?
2006-06-28 06:37:34 · 14 answers · asked by Trevor h 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If sex is an objective then why bother having a relationship or dating? Some could say that sex in a relationship is a bonus or something which develops from within a relationship. There is no difinitive number of dates, days, weeks etc. You need to focus on the relationship and the meaning you attribute to it.
Just suppose you meet a guy who is timid regarding sex and wants to have a relationship with you, not just you and your bed. Are you going to demand sex if they have passed X amount of dates? Or are you going to let the relationship grow and develop more aspects to it then just sex?
You could also imagine the complication if you are in a relationship and have dated X amount of dates but you are uncomfortable in exposing and sharing something very personal - Are you going to force yourself to have sex?
What I am trying to illuminate here is:
Dates, relationships or whatever the circumstance, sex is something personal and intimate; a reflection of you values, beliefs and ethics. As such, just to simply drop to your knees as one responder put it, just simply reflects something very shallow about you.
Having sex is no guarantee that a relationship is going to work or you are going to keep your date interested, and would probably turn out like MacDonalds fast food - you get what you paid for, never looks like the picture and is never very satisfying for long.
If all you are after is sex then that is all you are going to know about relationships. People are more than what they are between the sheets. To know someone, to understand someone and to be interested to their centre of being is to have experienced something better then anyone could have done. Sex is superficial if it is without knowing or meaning; a simple machanical performance.
Is this all you want to know about someone or something you want someone to know about you?
2006-06-28 07:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by SoulVibe 1 · 21⤊ 3⤋
You can't really put a specific figure on it because different people have different circumstances. If you've only met once before the first date, then I'd say give it a couple of months of seeing each other at least once a week and talking on the 'phone if possible before you have sex together. That's the least amount of time that it's going to take for you to trust each other enough to begin to fall in love. When it comes to sex, there's absolutely no point in rushing into anything.
2006-06-28 15:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the people involved. Personally I like to wait until i kind of know the guy, like date 4 or five, with phone calls in between. However, I have got drunk on a date before and the guy was so sexy that I could not keep my hands off him. We ended up having sex for 9 hours straight!
2006-06-29 05:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Katty83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the number of dates it is the connection and the timing when it is right. If you say ok it has been 3 dates time to have sex that is not gonna work. Let the moment happen when it is right it will be right. Sometimes people jump to quick and then you only get hurt. If you do it then do it responsibly and protect yourself both health wise and emotionally. Good luck
2006-06-28 13:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by blondiebella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on the chemistry between the couple. i had sex on the 2nd date with my husband and we are still going stronge 5 1/2 years later.
2006-06-28 13:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Monica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None . . if he has a nice 'package' . . I usually just throw on something special that shows off my sweater melons & drop to my knees & suck him off before we hit the Taco Bell drive through...
2006-06-28 13:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the third or fourth date is cool
2006-06-28 13:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each girl is different, i don't think they decide when they are going to, i think they just go with the relationship and when they are ready to.
2006-06-28 17:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think only you can answer that for yourself.
But for me at least not until the first date is nearly over! lol
2006-06-28 13:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by MoJoJoJo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how turned on she is???....i dont go by dates i go by time....so id say about 3 weeks....
dont be 2 full on with the girl straight away...the turn on is too take contol!
2006-06-28 14:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋