do you think a pregnant woman should marry the babies daddy if her has cheated on her in the past
2006-06-28 06:13:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you're only marrying this guy just because he's the sperm donor, then don't. If he's cheated on you in the past, he'll probably do it again.
You do not need to raise your child around someone like that. If he's not going to be a dad, then it's better that your child doesn't have to deal with any future heartbreaks in trying to establish a relationship with him.
2006-06-28 06:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just ALL depends on what the relationship is like now.
The past is relevant ONLY if a person with issues does nothing about it. Meaning, if he cheated, why?
I think when people cheat, it's a cry for better coping skills in relations to relationships! It means "hey, I've got some issues here and I have no clue how to fix them or myself so I'll allow myself to get in this situation". Something drives a person to cheat.
My issue is people trying to move on thinking that it won't happen again. It will UNLESS you both go to counseling and learn the valuable tools necessary for creating healthy boundaries, effective communication, responsibility, appropriate behavior and relating issues and problems in a manner that brings you closer, not builds a wall and eventually tears you apart.
The industry recommends that couples go for at least 6 sessions consecutively and I couldn't agree more.
The biggest problem with all of us is that most of us think we are qualified to handle things on our own. If you look at the world, it should be more than obvious that we are not qualified.
:)
2006-06-28 13:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a man that I had been with and he too had cheated on me over 6 times. I kept telling myself that it was my fault and if I was a better girlfriend he wouldn't cheat. well 13 months after I married him he called me up on the phone and told me that he didn't love me anymore and that he hadn't been in love with me in years. That was almost 4 years ago, today I am proud and happy mother of a 4 month old son. So my answer to you is NO Don' t do it .
2006-06-29 08:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by fire bush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple, some people can get over their partner having an affair and it has made their relationship stronger. I would find that very hard to do, but some people are better people than me and can get over it. Don't marry anyone you are not 100% sure about, that's the best advice I can give
2006-06-28 13:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are cheaters then do not marry you do not need the low life as a husband. if he is a great daddy then let him have the time with the child that daddy and child need
2006-07-04 15:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a different age and time - you do not have to marry anyone that you do not want to or that you do not love. Hold out for someone that excepts monogamy and your child. You will find that there is someone out there that loves only you and would not put you or your child through that type of pain. It is better off for you and better off for the child not to have to live in that type of environment.
2006-06-28 14:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell No. I did that in my first marriage. (I'm on my second marriage so the first didn't work out) I was cheated on, abused, and my son was ignored.
2006-07-05 10:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is sacred.
I do think, next time use protection.
It is hard being a single mom.
2006-06-28 13:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you believe that he will do it again then no do not marry him
2006-06-28 13:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by miles l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope....once a cheat, always a cheat. PERIOD!!! or, no period in this case :O)
Scooby Snack?
2006-06-28 13:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by zoinks22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋